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Weddingbee Boards: Forum: Christian - Recent Topics http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: Christian - Recent Topics en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 05:14:13 +0000 Miss Velveteen on "Christian girls, how did you decide 'how far'?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/christian-girls-how-did-you-decide-how-far#post-301933 Thu, 13 Aug 2009 03:02:41 +0000 Miss Velveteen 301933@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Mr V & I are both Christian. So of course, we are not sleeping together. We talked about what we wanted, what our convictions were, what we thought was ok etc, and it's been fine - enjoyable and fun and we've never been tempted to actually have sex (though we are both confident it will be awesome!). I have started wondering lately, though. Originally I was part of a quite evangelical/conservative church - where couples didn't even kiss until the wedding (based on their own convictions). And it kinda makes sense to me - avoiding lust, sensuality, and sexual immorality (e.g. Matthew 5:28 and 18:6, Ephesians 4:19, Colossians 3:5). On one hand, I feel fine with what we do (which is quite a lot, to be honest) - our motivations aren't for our own sexual pleasure, and I don't walk around feeling guilty. But I'm wondering if the Holy Spirit is tapping me on the shoulder, since I've started second guessing. I'm pretty sure that, biblically, we shouldn't sleep in the same bed - which we do, about twice a week - because of not giving the appearance of sinning. But *we* know (and my family knows, not sure what he's told his) we're not, so I kind of ignored that one (and to be honest I'd rather give up some other stuff than that! But I guess that's not the point :P). I just need a little spiritual encouragement/guidance. I don't feel like I can talk to even my close friends from my original church (I moved cities a few months ago) because our convictions differ so much, and I'm a little shy to talk to anyone in my new church about it still. Anyone else have similar issues/decisions to make? Words of advice? I want my clean conscience back <img src="../my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-frown.gif" alt="Frown" title="Frown" /> Marinara on "Help! Advice for non-religious girl marrying into Christian family?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/help-advice-for-non-religious-girl-marrying-into-christian-family#post-459767 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:27:55 +0000 Marinara 459767@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I wonder if any of the Christian bees out there have some advice for me on how to handle FILs in a respectful way they will appreciate.  Some background:  My FI is not religious, and neither am I.  My family believes in God, but is basically not religious.  However, his family is Christian and VERY religious.  His family culture is very different from my family culture mostly because of the religious stuff (praying, talking about God, no drinking, lifestyle, etc), but also regional stuff (they are midwest/southern and my whole fam is from Los Angeles).  It's a little hard for me to gauge what is going on.  They know their son is not religious, but they raised him going to church and everything, and his Mom has always told him that she knows he will come around in his own time. We are not having a religious ceremony, and I know that his family is very hurt & troubled by this -- probably not only because of the ceremony, but also the fact that their son is getting married to me, someone who is not religious.  They have not said anything at all mean or rude to me, but I know they have said a few things to FI (still not mean, just disappointed/hurt) and I wonder if there is anything I can do to make the situation better. I guess I have two questions & hoping to get some advice.  First, I feel like they are disappointed he is marrying someone who is not religious, and our kids will basically be like we are now -- not going to church, not involved in any religion, etc.  His brother is married to a Christian woman and their kids are being raised in the faith, and I see how close they all are & how it's just part of the expectation for grandkids that they will be part of that.  I understand how it would bother them, but I also want to have a close & good relationship with them.  So for all the Christian bees: if your son was marrying someone who wasn't Christian, is there anything she could do to make you feel better about it? My second question is the ceremony.  Do any of you have any suggestions for how we could incorporate some Christian elements or something like that?  Do you think that might make them feel better?  I am open to any suggestions.  My hesitation is that we have a number of dear friends who are gay and will be attending w/their partners, so we definitely want something that makes everyone feel welcome... This has been really weighing on me b/c I want them to feel good about this, I would really appreciate any insight! LatteLove on "Anyone else a seminary student/pastor's wife or fiance?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/anyone-else-a-seminary-studentpastors-wife-or-fiance#post-144167 Fri, 06 Mar 2009 12:06:11 +0000 LatteLove 144167@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Just wanted to see if there are any more of you out there!  My fiance is in his first year of four at Westminster Seminary California after changing his mind from attending law school his senior year of college (!).  This was a big surprise to me as we had just started dating, and I was all set to be a lawyer/politician's wife :-) A seminary student or pastor was definitely not on my list of things I want in a future husband, but I'm so grateful to have found such a godly man who wants to devote his life to service and study of the work and person of Christ.  But the future seems very uncertain!  I'm concerned about his time away from home, instability after seminary and money....any other wives or fiancees out there that can relate? *shout out to MrsCPT!* futuredrbraun on "Share your Prayer Requests!!" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/share-your-prayer-requests#post-408313 Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:08:58 +0000 futuredrbraun 408313@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I would love to set aside time each day to pray for all of my WeddingBee friends and fellow brides to be :) I thought it would be great to be praying for each other as we are all entering into this new phase in our lives.   My prayer is that I will trust God's timing in finishing graduate school and getting married. There is a possibility that I will not be able to finish my graduate program when I intended to (before our wedding) so I need prayer that a) things will work out and we will be able to spend the first yer of our marriage together or b) if things don't work out this way and we have to be apart even longer that I will trust that this is God's intention for this time in our lives. Can't wait to hear from you ladies!!! God Bless!   whereowhere on "This is a personal question about "waiting" until you are married..." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/this-is-a-personal-question-about-waiting-until-you-are-married#post-250626 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:16:23 +0000 whereowhere 250626@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Both me and my husband will be both virgins on our wedding night, this coming weekend..What are some recommendations you would have for me?  Are you waiting too, did you wait?  As an aside, I have never been able to have a gynecological exam because of my size.  My mom wanted me to have a surgery, but my doctor recommends doing things naturally, and taking time.  What do you think I should do?  I want to discuss this with my fiancee but haven't figured out the best way yet, I know it's getting late:) mkds2010 on "christian contemporary music for ceremony -- song ideas?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/christian-contemporary-music-for-ceremony-song-ideas#post-197964 Sun, 10 May 2009 20:08:38 +0000 mkds2010 197964@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Hello! My fiance and I have decided to use Christian contemporary music for the ceremony.  Does anyone have any good song ideas?  My best friend walked down to Bethany Dillon's "For My Love," and it was beautiful and so fitting.  But of course, I can't copy that! :) Thanks in advance!! daydreamwanderer on "Giving Away tradition (and Christianity)" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/giving-away-tradition#post-457176 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 09:05:43 +0000 daydreamwanderer 457176@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I'm a pretty strong Christian, and my relationship with the Lord is paramount in my life; I am also a strong, independent woman, and some would say a feminist. I have a good friend who shares my faith, who is also getting married, around the same time I am. We were discussing wedding ideas the other day, and I mentioned that I dislike and will not be using the "giving away the bride" (by the father) tradition. Her response surprised me - she said, "If you were just an unbelieving feminist, I could understand, but as a Christian I really think you need to include that tradition as part of honoring your parents." I was floored, and left stinging at how completely she dismissed me. Aside from how much her comment hurt me on a personal level, is there a religious aspect to this tradition that I am unaware of? I dislike it for all the 'typical' reasons: I am not property, my father/parents do not own me now, and my future husband will not own me after the wedding. There is no giving to be done. The choice is mine, not my parents', and while we will be asking for their blessing as a part of the ceremony, I do not see any modern cultural or religious relevance to asking their permission or in having them 'give' me to J. Our wedding will be about the two of us uniting in an equally, mutually beneficial marriage, under God, not about him taking over responsibility for me from my parents (of whom I have been financially and emotionally independent for nearly 10 years now). Am I missing something on the religious side of things? missbean on "Alternatives to Unity Candles" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/alternatives-to-unity-candles#post-54948 Thu, 29 May 2008 13:19:00 +0000 missbean 54948@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ My FH and I have decided not to have communion, but would still like some kind of unity ceremony. However, we aren't too keen on the unity candle and so I was wondering what alternatives are there? What did you use for your unity ceremony?  Thanks in advance! KLP2010 on "Chastity / Purity Rings - what did you do with it?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/chastity-purity-rings-what-did-you-do-with-it#post-432437 Wed, 28 Oct 2009 13:44:37 +0000 KLP2010 432437@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I know there's probably only a small segment of us with them... and an even smaller segment where the ring was on your left ring finger! ;-)  That's me... I've worn a ring on my left ring finger since I was 16.  I then had it blessed by Pope John Paul II in college.  Needless to say, it's special to me!  I know what I want to do with it once I get married but what about the meantime?  I don't really want to take it off until my wedding day.... but with an upcoming official engagement (with ring) I'll have to take it off my hand :-( I've thought of putting it on a chain like a necklace... any other ideas? It won't fit any other fingers... pmerr on "Prayer Request! (NWR)" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/prayer-request-nwr#post-429108 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 08:30:18 +0000 pmerr 429108@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ My family needs prayer right now. Over the weekend my grandpa was having some chest pains & his vitals were all over the place, but he didn't want to go to the hospital or drs, but made an appt for sometime in November. Today I got a call from my mom saying that he had a 10am appt this morning, but if he didn't feel good the dr said to go to the emergency room. They were on their way to Medina Hospital when my mom called, and my uncle was going to meet them there, my mom was going to go at 11am to go down there.   His family has a history of heart problems-his dad died of a heart attack about 35 years ago, and his mom always had heart problems.   I'll keep you updated!