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mondeda on "changing your (asian) name?"

mondeda — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:45:02 +0000

I'm thinking through my name change decision, and I'm wondering what other East Asian brides have done. So the typical options are: keep your own, take your husband's (w/ or w/o moving your last name to a middle name), or hyphenate. I have a Chinese last name, and so does my fiance. Hyphenating sounds awkward (is it just me, or is this true of most Asian names? or most names in general?). My first name is an English name and my middle name is Chinese. Not sure how I feel about ditching my Chinese name or detaching it from my family name to take his. Anybody in the same boat? What did you do?

ddubzz on "Tips/Advice for Asian Makeup?"

ddubzz — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:23:28 +0000

Does anyone have inspirational makeup pics?  I'd love to see them.  Here are some that I found online.  I'm not sure which look I like the most...

ayayaya on "Japanese Wedding Traditions?"

ayayaya — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:43:19 +0000

hhcheung2000, Yes! the japanese garden is soooo beautiful!! we considered having wedding there but it was just to expensive for us...;(   osakagrl, we had a couple japanese songs in reception BGM. the volume was kind of small so i don't know if people noticed though...lol but that's ok i knew they were there:) Your wedding will be sooooo fun! You have to show us pictures!!

Osakagrl on "Japanese Wedding Traditions?"

Osakagrl — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 15:44:54 +0000

aya-san!! Yes I love hirai ken so much! T^T Did you have any japanese music at your wedding. Im so excited about having japanese and american music together. its ok because 90% of our guests are japanese. haha

hhcheung2000 on "Japanese Wedding Traditions?"

hhcheung2000 — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:55:36 +0000

If I had all the resources and the money, I would have DEFINITELY gotten married at the Japanese Garden in San Diego, CA.  It's absolutely beautiful with its bamboo fencing and koi fish.

ayayaya on "Japanese Wedding Traditions?"

ayayaya — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 03:25:17 +0000

wow you guys are soooooooo good!! I understood everything you said!!! osakagrl, I love Ken Hirai too! Never imagined i could find somebody who loves him here in the states! lol

angrybunni on "Chinese Tradition- Bride's parents keep the cash?!"

angrybunni — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:08:25 +0000

thanks guys, I was kind of venting. While they are paying for that particular dinner, it still isn't fair. At this point, I can't cancel her dinner, but will be very adamant about what is and not fair, otherwise I can't justify going as well, not because of the money but the principle of it.

crebre80 on "Chinese Tradition- Bride's parents keep the cash?!"

crebre80 — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:31:34 +0000

Ditto, since you're paying for it, the gifts are definitely yours.

cinemaparadiso on "Chinese Tradition- Bride's parents keep the cash?!"

cinemaparadiso — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:30:15 +0000

Wow, I'd tell them that there's no way you're going through with that dinner, sorry. Tradition or not, if my parents weren't paying there's no way they'd be MAKING money off of my wedding. I mean... that's just wrong. That would really upset & hurt me, and since she's only hosting the dinner to make money, it seems, tell her that with all the stuff you have to do, you won't be able to do it like you said before.

Jacqi on "Chinese Tradition- Bride's parents keep the cash?!"

Jacqi — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:25:39 +0000

I read that post too- about parents keeping some of the gift money to offset the cost of the wedding. But you should have no problem if you stick with tradition, since you are paying for it, there will be no cost to offset :)