http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: East Asian - Recent Topics en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 02:55:11 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/filipino-wedding-sponsors-on-invite#post-674621 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:42:32 +0000 leighannd 674621@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My fiance is filipino ( I am not) , we are going to have sponsors, he says we have to include them on the invitation. Is this true? If so, how do we word that? The wedding is being paid for by my parents, btw - any help with wording would be great!</p> <p>Also - does anyone know anything about sponsers? Whats common practice today? I only know what I've read in history books! haha.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wearing-red-at-asian-weddings#post-3142787 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 07:17:21 +0000 redband 3142787@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>OK here's the deal: I've always been told that red is a prosperous, good bla bla colour and this is the colour won for celebrations.</p> <p>Now I've been told that only the bride wears red at a Chinese wedding? I mean... I've been to so many weddings where everyone sort of tries to wear red! I'm eating myself up wondering if I made a faux pas ( I wore a very red dress) at a friend's wedding recently. Maybe it's a modern thing and wearing red is now frowned upon. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/show-me-your-banquet-outfit#post-3089716 Sat, 14 Jan 2012 14:20:54 +0000 mrsbruff2b 3089716@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>What did you wear for your reception/banquet? &nbsp;Did you wear a qipao? A red dress? We are having a destination wedding but my mother would like to throw an reception here at home for the chinese family and friends. &nbsp;I want it to be low key... I don't think I want to re-wear my wedding gown. &nbsp;And I don't like qipaos. &nbsp;I'm thinking something in red for me... I'd like to see what you ladies wore!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/koreans-and-rsvps#post-1860487 Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:35:19 +0000 Lames 1860487@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi all!&nbsp;</p> <p>My fiance is Korean and his family has been in the US for about 30 years or so.&nbsp; Our RSVP date is still&nbsp;three weeks off, but we've gotten a bunch of RSVPs back from my side and not a one from his!&nbsp; Is this a Korean thing?&nbsp; Do they not RSVP?&nbsp; He has no idea about weddings - Korean or American.&nbsp; He's getting kind of&nbsp;sad!</p> <p>Thanks!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/dilemma-on-having-either-a-western-reception-or-a-traditional-chinese-reception#post-2064433 Wed, 20 Apr 2011 21:02:42 +0000 SandyL 2064433@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I have a huge dilemma and I'm incredibly stressed on what to do, so stressed I even cried over the situation. <img src="http://boards.weddingbee.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cry.gif" alt="Cry" title="Cry" /> My fiance and I are <strong>BOTH</strong> chinese but being born and raised in North America, I consider myself westernized. My parents and his parents want a TRADITIONAL chinese wedding which is fine because I love the tea ceremony aspect BUT I dont want my dinner reception at a chinese restaurant. We live in a city where theres about 10 formal chinese restaurants to choose from and only 2 of them, I consider "nice" enough to get married in. I always envisioned a beautiful venue with lovely centerpieces, which are non-existent at a chinese restaurant, no seat covers etc. Having a chinese dinner reception is defintely inexpensive since you can bring in your own alcohol whereas a westernized wedding you cannot, it has to be a host/cash bar and you pay for everything. Chinese weddings have a set 10 course meal and a westernized wedding will be a plated 5 course meal (which I want and not a buffet) and according to my dad, "western food will not fill anyone up!"</p> <p>What should I do?</p> <p>If I have it at a chinese restaurant everyone will be happy but me! Do I save money and have a inexpensive and ugly chinese wedding but my parents and his parents will be happy?</p> <p>Or do I have the wedding of my dreams and possibly upsetting the most important people of my life?</p> <p>ADVICE??!!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/korean-american-wedding-help#post-360021 Wed, 16 Sep 2009 19:00:00 +0000 monkeynme 360021@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm newly engaged, and we're both Korean-American planning an American style wedding with Korean features (like paebek).&nbsp;&nbsp; What kinds of gifts are traditionally exchanged between Korean-American families and between the bride and groom?&nbsp; For example, what would my parents gift my FI, and what would they gift his parents, if anything?&nbsp; And vice versa... I remember hearing something about the bride's parents gifting the groom a suit and watch, but I could be totally wrong.&nbsp; And the bride and groom gift each other anything?</p> <p>Also, how is the cost of the weddin typically split between Korean-American families?&nbsp; FI and I (and my parents) think it would be nice if my parents and his parents both contributed an equal amount, and then FI and I would pay for the rest.&nbsp; (So one-third for each party).&nbsp; But FI's parents think my parents should pay more than they.&nbsp;</p> <p>I would really appreciate any advice - this is all so confusing and stressful!&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/unconventional-ceremony-during-the-reception#post-2701086 Mon, 03 Oct 2011 10:56:45 +0000 bbqnjl 2701086@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>So here's a brain teaser for some of you if you can help!</p> <p>My fiance loves me so much, he doesn't want me to lose out on the "grand entrance" moment of most ceremonies.&nbsp; However, we're not religious, we're tight on budget and we're having a traditional chinese banquet, so we won't be having a wedding ceremony.&nbsp; And you know how it is for a chinese banquet... you say 6:30 PM on the invite, and people don't show up until 8 anyway.&nbsp; But for those people that do come early, they are able to see the bride standing around/taking photos.&nbsp; My fiance doesn't like that this takes away from the "WOW" factor.&nbsp;</p> <p>So we had this crazy idea... is it possible to have that "walk-down-the-aisle" moment created AT the reception after everyone is seated at their dinner tables?&nbsp; Is it possible to hide the bride until then?&nbsp; Or *gasp* get people to actually show up at 6:30 PM like the invite says?</p> <p>Any of you bees have any ideas on how this might work?&nbsp; Has anyone ever seen something like this?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/modern-chinese-tea-ceremony#post-2766497 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 16:39:21 +0000 clim001 2766497@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi!</p> <p>We're planning to have a tea ceremony during our reception but we're absolutely clueless about what to do. I've looked at several weddings and everyone seems to do things differently.&nbsp; Can someone who's done it before (or seen one) help me by answering the following questions? Thanks in advance :)</p> <p>1. When did you hold the tea ceremony?&nbsp;</p> <p>2. Did you serve only serve tea to the groom's family or did you include your family as well? &nbsp;</p> <p>3. Did you only serve the elders (i.e. parents, grandparents, uncles, and aunts) or did you also include your older cousins?</p> <p>4. Did you line up your family in a row or did your family take turns sitting in two chairs?</p> <p>5. Who helped you carry the tea?&nbsp;</p> <p>6. How did you wash your cups if you didn't have enough cups for everyone?</p> <p>&nbsp; </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/san-francisco-brides-where-to-buy-a-cheongsam#post-2862722 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 12:43:34 +0000 tbiytc 2862722@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Can anyone recommend a place in San Francisco where I can buy a cheongsam for our tea ceremony? I'm open to off the rack OR custom made if necessary. I'm looking for something a bit more understated and subtle. Thanks in advance!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-south-asian-american-marrying-a-korean-american-boy#post-2061429 Wed, 20 Apr 2011 10:06:55 +0000 deebs 2061429@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>hello bees,</p> <p>my soon-to-be-fiance is half korean. &nbsp;he is a typical boy and knows nothing about korean wedding traditions. &nbsp;could you suggest a good place for me to learn about the culture / etiquette surrounding korean weddings? &nbsp;i've read about the paebaek ceremony, and gorgeous hanboks...but looking for advice on any general expectations that a groom's family has for the bride and her family regarding gifts, engagement party, etc? &nbsp;Any etiquette i should be made aware of? &nbsp;of course, i will also be talking to his family, but wanted a head start :)</p> <p>thanks for your help, east asian bees!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p>