http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: East Asian - Recent Topics en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:52:13 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/changing-your-asian-name#post-495083 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:45:02 +0000 mondeda 495083@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm thinking through my name change decision, and I'm wondering what other East Asian brides have done. So the typical options are: keep your own, take your husband's (w/ or w/o moving your last name to a middle name), or hyphenate.</p> <p>I have a Chinese last name, and so does my fiance. Hyphenating sounds awkward (is it just me, or is this true of most Asian names? or most names in general?). My first name is an English name and my middle name is Chinese. Not sure how I feel about ditching my Chinese name or detaching it from my family name to take his.</p> <p>Anybody in the same boat? What did you do?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tipsadvice-for-asian-makeup#post-59143 Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:00:40 +0000 MissBunny 59143@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hello!&nbsp; I've already hired and given the deposit to a makeup artist.&nbsp; The reason I hired her was because she was able to keep my face from getting too shiny after the first trial... but after our second trial, I think I'm going to be doing most of the eyeshadow/contouring on my own. </p> <p>Any advice on colors and/or techniques?&nbsp; I'd really appreciate it!&nbsp; <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_wink.gif" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/japanese-wedding-traditions#post-480341 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 11:54:15 +0000 Osakagrl 480341@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hello Everyone!</p> <p>Nice to meet you all! This is my first post ever! Woot woot!</p> <p>Anyway my fiance is Japanaese (born and raised in Tokyo)</p> <p>And out ceremony is next year. His family is flying all the way from</p> <p>Japan to come to our wedding, and I really would like to incorporate</p> <p>something Japanese in our wedding for them. I want to enjoy both of our cultures</p> <p>on our big day...so does anyone have any ideas???</p> <p>Thanks!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/chinese-tradition-brides-parents-keep-the-cash#post-487879 Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:15:39 +0000 angrybunni 487879@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I recently talked to my mom about our wedding. My FH who is white American and I(ABC) are paying for the entire wedding ourselves. My mom wants to host a chinese dinner days before wedding. I say fine, but later find out some random tradition according to her! Has anyone heard of this?</p> <p>If there are cash gifts given by the chinese people, the bride's parents gets to take it to "offset the cost of the reception" or as my coworker says, "to determine how much to give the giver's children's wedding 18 years down the road." WTF... we're paying for everything ourselves!</p> <p>Also, if the couple DO receive gifts, it's <span>only jewelry for the bride. Meaning, it's not about the couple, it's for the bride only and the groom gets shafted. If you want to get even more traditional, the groom's parents are supposed to give the bride's family like $30,000+ upward and/or buy them a house. NOT JOKING. Either way, the groom and his family gets shafted. Instead of a downpayment for a new house, the couple will likely get a pile of fancy jewelry to stare at and wonder why they don't have a nicer living environment full of appliances and bedding and etc. It's very political and the end is very old school where back in the day women were literally property so to marry a good woman, the man and his family literally had to "buy" all of that stuff for the bride's family.</span></p> <p><span>&nbsp;Needless to say, it's kind of ridiculous and I'm kind of upset about it. I know the "buy your inlaws a house" won't be implemented, but I'm pretty sure they'll take our wedding present(cash). I'm soooo annoyed but wondered if you guys experienced any of this?</span></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/korean-american-wedding-help#post-360021 Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:00:00 +0000 monkeynme 360021@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm newly engaged, and we're both Korean-American planning an American style wedding with Korean features (like paebek).&nbsp;&nbsp; What kinds of gifts are traditionally exchanged between Korean-American families and between the bride and groom?&nbsp; For example, what would my parents gift my FI, and what would they gift his parents, if anything?&nbsp; And vice versa... I remember hearing something about the bride's parents gifting the groom a suit and watch, but I could be totally wrong.&nbsp; And the bride and groom gift each other anything?</p> <p>Also, how is the cost of the weddin typically split between Korean-American families?&nbsp; FI and I (and my parents) think it would be nice if my parents and his parents both contributed an equal amount, and then FI and I would pay for the rest.&nbsp; (So one-third for each party).&nbsp; But FI's parents think my parents should pay more than they.&nbsp;</p> <p>I would really appreciate any advice - this is all so confusing and stressful!&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/chinese-tradition-and-an-american-wedding#post-431237 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:49:47 +0000 JanetLee01 431237@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My fiance and I are both Amercan-born Chinese.&nbsp; He was raised more American than I am, but we love each other and have great chemistry.&nbsp; Our parents are meeting up soon to discuss the "Gift Giving Day" - dowery.&nbsp; His parents are totally not for the traditional stuff such as the&nbsp;"golden pig," wife-cakes, bakery gift cards, wine, and other traditional items.&nbsp; My parents are totally the opposite and expect all of that because they&nbsp;feel it is a matter of tradition, honor, and respect.&nbsp; On top of that, all my cousins went through the same traditional motion.&nbsp; I really dread the day when they met.&nbsp; I honestly feel it's a deal-breaker.&nbsp; Any advice or comments?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-avoid-the-asian-flush-at-your-wedding#post-79007 Thu, 21 Aug 2008 11:21:26 +0000 lilneko69 79007@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi there! My husband and I finally married and just got back from our honeymoon.</p> <p>&nbsp;Just wanted to share a tip on how we avoided the asian flush in our wedding pics, PEPCID AC! </p> <p>&nbsp;I'm sure many of you know this already, but just thought I'd share. Also Miss Martini said that you should take it 20 minutes before your first drink for this to work. </p> <p>&nbsp;GL planning! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/alcohol-for-chinese-banquet#post-335246 Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:14:44 +0000 Alegna 335246@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm having a traditional Chinese banquet and the restaurant will allow us bring our own alcohol.&nbsp;Only I don't know what type of alcohol to supply.&nbsp; What type of alcohol is usually served at&nbsp;a Chinese banquet?&nbsp; Beer, wine, and/or hard liquor?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/chinese-vietnamese-weddingwhich-dress-to-wear#post-479297 Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:26:29 +0000 Yeung 479297@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi everyone,</p> <p>I m Vietnamese and my fiance is Chinese.&nbsp; I'll be wearing the traditional Vietnamese dress&nbsp;(ao dai) during part of the reception, but thought my fiance's family would appreciate if i&nbsp;would also&nbsp;wear a traditional dress as well.&nbsp; There are few options, but it seems that the qipuo is the most popular one.&nbsp; I personally like the qipuo too but he is Cantonese...is the kwa more appropriate then?&nbsp; Would appreciate any rec. =)</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/asian-eyebrows#post-12772 Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:32:44 +0000 ceche07 12772@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We're thinking of doing a newlywed shoot since our wedding pictures came out so-so. I am half-Chinese and loathe my confused eyebrows. They just don't know whether they're coming or going. I hate that no matter what I do, they refuse to stay put in the same direction, and there is always a gap at the top of the arch from the hairs going awol. (I know this is because they don't grow in the same direction, but I would still love to triumph over nature...) I used to buy a gel-type product from Max Factor that held the hairs in place pretty well, but they discontinued it awhile back. Any product suggestions ladies? Thanks! </p>