http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: Interfaith - Recent Topics en Sun, 21 Mar 2010 00:37:05 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/christians-plus-agnostics-plus-atheists-equal#post-794764 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:08:35 +0000 AnneNM82 794764@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>How can we prevent fireworks between people of different beliefs? I think of myself as a&nbsp;Christian because I believe in God and Jesus etc. etc., but my perspective has changed a little over time. I'm not sure if you'd call me "lapsed"... I guess you could say I've lost faith in the Bible.&nbsp;My fiance and I&nbsp;get along&nbsp;really well, and he&nbsp;is agnostic. His immediate family is sort of&nbsp;anti-religious, my mother is a Lutheran, and the rest of my family is pretty religious, some of them, um, militantly so.&nbsp;</p> <p>(By "militant," I mean... One uncle asked me AT MY GRANDMOTHER'S FUNERAL where I was in my "walk," and when I said&nbsp;that I didn't&nbsp;think that was quantifiable, he said he thought it was. Then he looked around and&nbsp;commented that he was probably the closest one to God in the church.)&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway... With all of these differences, is this considered interfaith? I'm not sure if there might be some fireworks when some of my family mingle with some of his. My one uncle is known for trying to corner people alone and then&nbsp;trying to convert them.&nbsp;Does anyone have any advice on how to smooth over these people's meeting? Or should my FI and I plan a super tiny wedding and only invite immediate family?</p> <p>Also, my mother would like us to have premarital counseling, and I think it would be a good idea. But should we get a Lutheran pastor to do it (I was raised Lutheran), or...?&nbsp;Do you know if there are&nbsp;non-religious/interfaith&nbsp;premarital counselors who don't cost an arm and a leg?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jewish-girl-gets-latin-guy-to-convert-for-marriage#post-792706 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 13:23:14 +0000 asia44 792706@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I love my fiance, i am so lucky. He was my first boyfriend when i was thriteen years old and then we seperated for 21 years and just found each other again. I am Jewish, not releigious but i like hy religion, heritage and want to have a Jewish household and family.&nbsp;&nbsp; My fiance is now going to be converting, i am unsure of what goes into the converting process...any thoughts, questions, advice????</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/being-both-would-you-look-down-at-this#post-746590 Thu, 25 Feb 2010 15:14:30 +0000 GirlWithARing 746590@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>FI and I have been getting a lot of negative comments lately about being different religions. He is Jewish and I am Ukrainian Catholic. We have always known that we're equally religious and would have a dual faith family, where both traditions are respected, celebrated and recognized as "ours". We want to have children who identify with both faiths. It honestly seems like the only option for us (we would not want to choose one faith over another or abandon religion completely) and we have been very happy with our decision.</p> <p>However, family and friends have expressed doubts with our thinking and even told us straight out that it's "fake" for a Jew to participate in Catholic traditions (and vice versa) and made comments like "one ass can't sit in two chairs at the same time". It seems so hard for some people to accept us as we are. And what's worse, it seems that even among the experts, the consensus is that raising your child with two religions is the worst thing you could do because they will grow up confused and rejected by both communities.</p> <p>I would love some reassurance that I'm not crazy for attempting to do this, but even more, looking for honest opinions:&nbsp;how would you feel about someone who is "both" Catholic and Jewish? Would you think it hypocritical or fake or weird? Would it be difficult for someone like this to be accepted into society?&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hes-hindu-and-im-christian#post-766163 Thu, 04 Mar 2010 01:38:52 +0000 cmanuel 766163@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>my finance and I are gettting married in august. we just booked our venue. he's hindu and I am christian and we intend on doing both ceremonies. i'm having difficulty even thinking about how I am going about finding a pastor. my mother wants me to find a christian pastor, however i don't believe that the pastor will be supportive. do i just go about finding someone online to officiate? I do want spirituality to be involved, but not to the point where they pastor is trying to convert everyone to christianity by the end of the ceremony. any recommendations of where to look?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wiccanagnostic-wedding-with-southern-baptistmethodistlutheran-family#post-776490 Sun, 07 Mar 2010 21:11:51 +0000 MrsRittsToBe 776490@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Quite a mix hu? My Fiance is Agnostic (spiritual but not religious) and I am Wiccan (form of Paganism). I do not want a highly religious ceremony but we do plan on including "tying the knot" and a couple of other things. We have found an awesome Interfaith Minister and we are very excited to have her do our Ceremony. If anyone has had experience with this at all please feel free to share! Thank you!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jewish-readings-for-an-interfaith-ceremony#post-235039 Mon, 22 Jun 2009 09:07:57 +0000 FallBrideKate 235039@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My FH is Jewish, although not religious.&nbsp; I am firmly agnostic.&nbsp; In order to appease all of our relatives, we are incorporating aspects from both of our backgrounds.&nbsp; </p> <p>&nbsp;I've been looking around for Jewish readings (other then the 7 Blessings) that we could incorporate into our ceremony.&nbsp; We are doing three readings, one christian, one jewish and one secular one.&nbsp; </p> <p>&nbsp;Any ideas would be GREATLY appreciated.&nbsp; Thank you!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/rabbi-to-co-officiate-in-interfaith-ceremony#post-745165 Thu, 25 Feb 2010 09:22:31 +0000 katrinab 745165@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My best friend is getting married in the Philly area next year and they want to have an interfaith ceremony co-officiated by a minister and a rabbi. Her minister has agreed to it, but they are having a really tough time finding a rabbi who is willing. Does anyone have any suggestions, leads, or ideas? TIA!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/average-cost-for-an-interfaith-minister#post-585432 Sun, 03 Jan 2010 21:49:01 +0000 eurekaanchovies 585432@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm curious what everyone is paying or did pay for use of an interfaith minister.</p> <p>Many thanks.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jewish-bias-in-interfaith-resources#post-740409 Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:38:41 +0000 GirlWithARing 740409@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I've noticed that the majority of interfaith wedding and family resources I have found are authored by Jewish organizations/people and have a markedly Jewish approach to the issues. For example, we've been reading up on the whole "How to raise the children" question and have found a ton of advice for raising a child Jewish in a mixed family, but nothing about raising them Christian. The real-life stories featured on the websites seem to all be about families that choose to have a Jewish home even though one partner is Christian.&nbsp;</p> <p>Has anyone else noticed this? Where can I get some unbiased resources?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/interfaith-ceremony-any-ideas#post-721756 Wed, 17 Feb 2010 18:12:48 +0000 Bride-in-Boston 721756@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi all,</p> <p>The wedding planning is winding down to just details now and my FI and I must deal with the BIG issue - how to get married! He is a non-practicing 7th day Adventist (w a super religious mom and religious fam) and I am a sometimes-practicing Catholic w a family that doesn't really care - they just seem happy that I am getting married, finally!</p> <p>We are having an outdoor wedding in my hometown and are torn between a justice of the peace or some kind of non-denominational person. I am fine w/o a church&amp;priest but we are incorporating a lasso and arras (mexican American traditions). My FI is Jamaican but there don't seem to be any particular traditions.</p> <p>Anyway, my question - any ideas on a wedding program? Readings, order or events, etc. for a couple that wants some customs and religious overtones, but without the actual place of worship or it being offensive to anyone.</p> <p>Thanks! I would love to see sample programs too!&nbsp;</p>