http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: Military - Recent Posts en Mon, 13 Feb 2012 22:31:35 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-should-i-address-a-petty-officer#post-3222940 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:55:19 +0000 LoveMySailor1018 3222940@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Since he's not an officer, you would address him normally. So Mr. and Mrs. XXXX</p> <p>ETA: A petty officer isn't an officer, they are enlisted personnel.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-should-i-address-a-petty-officer#post-3222912 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:49:46 +0000 Zusie 3222912@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3174459">@Zusie:</a>&nbsp; Are there any naval officers on deck?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/need-a-military-retirement-gift-idea#post-3219348 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 10:40:16 +0000 subbywife11 3219348@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Oh well bummer! &nbsp;They did beat you to it!&nbsp;</p> <p>What about a <a href="http://www.myshadowbox.org/">shadow box</a> or a <a href="http://www.usmilitarygiftsonline.com/">saber?</a> &nbsp;These two sites have some really awesome ideas, but you can find them elsewhere too. &nbsp;A google search of either would give you lots of companies to choose from.</p> <p>I think both of those ideas would be so classy, although they may be more expensive, and I'm sure they would also be able to help you with the multi-branch aspect as well.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/need-a-military-retirement-gift-idea#post-3218239 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 22:36:56 +0000 tksjewelry 3218239@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3213631">@subbywife11:</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;Great thoughts, but he gets a retirement watch and his company had all the symbols for each branch engraved on the back.&nbsp; Those suckers beat me too it!&nbsp; He doesn't allow pics of him in the navy or the marines out, they are not even on the wall.&nbsp; He was in special units of which we are not really sure of and he will not talk about :(&nbsp; Hats might work, I will run that past my Army brother and see what he already has, my bro spends alot of time at their house since he was station close to there.&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks for the ideas!!&nbsp; Your awesome!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bigger-wedding-after-civil-ceremony-sorry-kinda-long#post-3218140 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 21:53:53 +0000 tehlilone 3218140@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'd just call it the "Official Wedding Ceremony." If you're really concerned I guess you could call it a "vow renewal." Maybe talk with your family and see how they feel about it? My friends and family won't care because we've been together longer than most married couples and I could care less how people I don't know feel about me having a JOP and actual big wedding. People also rarely sign the marriage certificate and have the ceremony on the same date. There are people who can't get married because of their gender in certain states. There are people who have common law marriages recognized in other states also just for meeting certain criteria.</p> <p>Personally, I'm not a stick-in-the-mud and could care less about all the ettiquette involved with stuffy weddings. Don't take what close-minded people say seriously. They're usually just prejudice against anything that's different. That's the reason I took a step away from the wedding scene for a while. I just didn't want to deal with those downers while planning something happy.</p> <p>A lot of people might call bees enablers and other names but a lot of ladies (and gentlemen) here will give you the support with whatever you think is right for you. Everyone is different so don't let anyone tell you otherwise.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bigger-wedding-after-civil-ceremony-sorry-kinda-long#post-3215792 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 09:22:27 +0000 subbywife11 3215792@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I don't think it's rude at all!! Personally, I know lots of people who decided to have a civil ceremony first, then big wedding later. Lots of people also renew their vows every year. There's no limit on what you "get" or "deserve" in the wedding world, because it's about celebrating your love, not material things.</p> <p>I think, given the circumstances in your family and your sister, that you have every right to plan a nice ceremony. If people want to think badly of you for whatever reason, then they can do so, but that shouldn't stop you from doing what you want to do personally or what's right for you, your DH, and your family. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bigger-wedding-after-civil-ceremony-sorry-kinda-long#post-3215790 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 09:21:29 +0000 thegoogler88 3215790@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Have a wedding honey. Don't worry about what other people think, honestly because no one is in your shoes or feels what you feel. Call it a wedding reception. In my culture/religion sometimes people have the civil/religious ceremony and wait a year or two and then have the actual wedding because sometimes the timing/money issue doesn't allow them to get married right away with the big wedding but they are at least able to enjoy being together and being husband and wife. If your heart is wanting to have the party the white dress and the cake go for it and forget the snarky comments :).&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bigger-wedding-after-civil-ceremony-sorry-kinda-long#post-3215779 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 09:16:06 +0000 ntyre 3215779@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I recently posted on another site and got such rude, hateful, horrible comments I'm literally in tears right now. So if anyone has a snarky response then please don't bother responding. If you want to give me a hard time please send me a message instead.</p> <p>Let me explain the situation first. A few months ago my husband and I had a very brief civil ceremony. It only included the JOP and the two of us. There was some drama on his side of the family, others were out of state and a few others were taking care of his cousin who was recently in a terrible car accident. I'm not originally from this area so it was IMPOSSIBLE for anyone to travel 1,000 miles. I guess you could say we got a little impatient and really wanted to get married. I fully understand that the civil ceremony WAS our wedding and I'm not saying in ANY SINGLE WAY that a civil ceremony isn't.&nbsp;We had made plans (previous to getting married) to have a larger wedding but as I said, we got a little impatient.</p> <p>We decided to have another ceremony next year. I've read a few different things that say it's perfectly okay to have a "second" wedding and other say that this would simply be a vow renewal so there is no point in a bridal party, nice dress, etc. So as of right now I don't know if I should call it a "second wedding" or "vow renewal." The responses I received on the other site said it was a ridiculous idea, I'm incredibly rude for wanting something more than a civil ceremony, I need to give up the idea of a wedding because it's just a vow renewal, people are just gonna talk about us and things of that nature. We had no intentions of registering or having any bachelor/bachelorette party.&nbsp;</p> <p>The bottom line is this: We want EVERYONE to be included and EVERYONE to celebrate with us. We are paying for a great portion of this so everyone can come and have a good time. Even though everyone knows we're married I really don't see the harm in having bridesmaids, a cake, music and so on. My dad did the same thing when I was younger and nobody had any problems with it (just with his wife lol).</p> <p>I dunno, I'm so confused. It almost feels like everyone is saying, "If you would have waited then you could have had something more spectacular. But since you didn't you aren't allowed to have the dress, cake or anything else that every girl dreams of from early on. You only get this, this and this. If you do it your way you'll just look like a lying fool and you'll be nothing but a joke!" I thought this would be better for everyone since they can play a bigger part, it can be more religious, we can write our vows and will have so much more to include in them, my dad can walk me down the aisle (I'm his only daughter and his only child) and it would mean so much to my mom (I'm the "baby" and my older sister died when she was very young).</p> <p>I hope this makes sense. Thank you everyone :)&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-miss-my-husband-so-much#post-3215703 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 08:48:34 +0000 subbywife11 3215703@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3215211">@ThePrincessMaggie:</a>&nbsp; PM'd you back. ;-)</p> <p>He could always change rates at RTC. &nbsp;The Navy needs lots of nukes right now, and I have heard of guys getting to RTC and getting new orders for a new rate while there. &nbsp;I don't know how common that is, though, or any other details because it didn't happen to us, but I know it's happened.</p> <p>If he is in a 900 div, you will want to make sure to get there early so that you can scope out all the guys who are helping!! :) &nbsp;Just be very, very careful (and PLEASE warn his family!) that if you see him, you can say hi and chat for a second, but you cannot hug him or distract him from his job at ALL!! &nbsp;Don't go out of your way to talk to him either. &nbsp;Like if you see him across the room, don't run across it to get to him. &nbsp;If he happens to be standing in a doorway, you're going through, then awesome, but if not, admire from a distance and just try to get his attention subtlely so he sees you. :)&nbsp;</p> <p>It's not a problem if you see him greeting at a door and you walk up to him to say, "hey babe!! &nbsp;Wow, you look awesome!" etc... but just don't try to hug him or linger too long. &nbsp;It's awesome, though, to see him up close and personal.... uniforms make me swoon.&nbsp;</p> <p>When you talk to him on the phone after he passes battlestations, let him know what you plan on wearing so that he can more easily find you. &nbsp;It's seriously a sea of uniforms after that liberty call, and unless you see him during PIR, you won't find him for a few minutes, so it's easier for him to look for you! &nbsp;I was lucky enough that DH was AROC for his division, so he was right in the front and we saw each other the whole time!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-miss-my-husband-so-much#post-3215224 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 01:35:46 +0000 AubByAub 3215224@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3215211">@ThePrincessMaggie:</a>&nbsp; My FI and I are AF but I definitely suggest looking up the facebook page a PP mentioned! When he went to basic training, I used a similar page (AF related though) to help me get through it. It really helped all of us on the page back then. It really helps especially if no one you know "in real life" has any idea what you're going through. And she's definitely right, the moment you see him, all the things you're feeling right now will be worth it! Like I said, I'm AF and so is FI, so I don't know anything about how the Navy runs things but if you just need to vent or anything, feel free to PM me. </p>