http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: Military - Recent Topics en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 02:42:04 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-should-i-address-a-petty-officer#post-3174459 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 07:28:07 +0000 Zusie 3174459@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>How should I address the invitation to Electronics Technician Second Class, U.S. Navy and his wife?</p> <p>Thanks!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/need-a-military-retirement-gift-idea#post-3210326 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:57:04 +0000 tksjewelry 3210326@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My Favorite Uncle is retiring after 30 years in the military.&nbsp; He has served in every branch, literally, every branch.&nbsp; He started in the Marines, drafted to the Navy Seals, once he did his stretch there he joined the Army, took the Clinton byout from the Army and then joined the Air Force.&nbsp;&nbsp; He is officially retiring from active duty and taking a civilian job with the Coast Guard.&nbsp; So as you can see, he has served his country in every single branch.&nbsp; Now, I don't know what to get him.&nbsp; I would like to keep it under $100.&nbsp; He is the uncle that taught me rodeo, how to ride horses, and really taught me the joys of the country life, so I want to get him something nice, but he is so difficult to buy for.&nbsp; Help Bees!!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bigger-wedding-after-civil-ceremony-sorry-kinda-long#post-3215779 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 09:16:06 +0000 ntyre 3215779@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I recently posted on another site and got such rude, hateful, horrible comments I'm literally in tears right now. So if anyone has a snarky response then please don't bother responding. If you want to give me a hard time please send me a message instead.</p> <p>Let me explain the situation first. A few months ago my husband and I had a very brief civil ceremony. It only included the JOP and the two of us. There was some drama on his side of the family, others were out of state and a few others were taking care of his cousin who was recently in a terrible car accident. I'm not originally from this area so it was IMPOSSIBLE for anyone to travel 1,000 miles. I guess you could say we got a little impatient and really wanted to get married. I fully understand that the civil ceremony WAS our wedding and I'm not saying in ANY SINGLE WAY that a civil ceremony isn't.&nbsp;We had made plans (previous to getting married) to have a larger wedding but as I said, we got a little impatient.</p> <p>We decided to have another ceremony next year. I've read a few different things that say it's perfectly okay to have a "second" wedding and other say that this would simply be a vow renewal so there is no point in a bridal party, nice dress, etc. So as of right now I don't know if I should call it a "second wedding" or "vow renewal." The responses I received on the other site said it was a ridiculous idea, I'm incredibly rude for wanting something more than a civil ceremony, I need to give up the idea of a wedding because it's just a vow renewal, people are just gonna talk about us and things of that nature. We had no intentions of registering or having any bachelor/bachelorette party.&nbsp;</p> <p>The bottom line is this: We want EVERYONE to be included and EVERYONE to celebrate with us. We are paying for a great portion of this so everyone can come and have a good time. Even though everyone knows we're married I really don't see the harm in having bridesmaids, a cake, music and so on. My dad did the same thing when I was younger and nobody had any problems with it (just with his wife lol).</p> <p>I dunno, I'm so confused. It almost feels like everyone is saying, "If you would have waited then you could have had something more spectacular. But since you didn't you aren't allowed to have the dress, cake or anything else that every girl dreams of from early on. You only get this, this and this. If you do it your way you'll just look like a lying fool and you'll be nothing but a joke!" I thought this would be better for everyone since they can play a bigger part, it can be more religious, we can write our vows and will have so much more to include in them, my dad can walk me down the aisle (I'm his only daughter and his only child) and it would mean so much to my mom (I'm the "baby" and my older sister died when she was very young).</p> <p>I hope this makes sense. Thank you everyone :)&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-miss-my-husband-so-much#post-3103980 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 07:26:09 +0000 ThePrincessMaggie 3103980@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I know I chose this lifestyle, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.</p> <p>DH is at Navy bootcamp. Today is our 'dating' anniversary and I miss him so much. It's so hard not seeing him and not getting to talk to him at all. I guess I do kind of talk to him, because I'm writing letters nearly everyday, but he hasn't written me yet and I can't send them because I still don't have an address for him. So it kind of feels like a journal or writing to a dead person. :(</p> <p>I'm hoping he will call today.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm really having a rough time, and I've tried posting on military sites but not getting great responses. I'm hoping the Hive will be nicer. I would really like to talk to someone.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/marine-corps-brides-what-color-was-your-dress#post-3206306 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:38:56 +0000 Ella2BeeMrsS 3206306@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I've been looking at dresses and I think I might have found THE ONE! The only thing is that I don't think it comes in a true white. We're having a summer wedding, so MR. would be in his dress uniform with the white slacks. I don't know if the dress will look strange next to those bright whites if it is more of an offwhite.&nbsp;</p> <p>Did anyone run into this problem? Anyone have pictures of white or offwhite dresses next to his uniform??&nbsp;</p> <p>This is what I'm thinking of going with! Ignore the veil (I think I'm going with a drop veil) and the belt (we found the perfect one!) Sorry the picture is huge!<img src="http://bios.weddingbee.com/pics/136622/LaSposaDetalle.jpg" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-need-adviceairforce-families-please-read#post-2108672 Tue, 03 May 2011 05:51:10 +0000 Lees4308 2108672@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My husband is really considering joining the airforce &amp; I think it would be a good thing for us. He would work on the aircrafts &amp; we could also travel.&nbsp;I know that you'd have to leave your friends and family but I'm just looking to hear the negatives/positives about it. I hate the thought of my husband leaving me for a long period of time but we have some friends that have been in the Airforce for about 10 years and they said they love it &amp; she said that her husband had only left her for 7 months and that was the longest.</p> <p>I'd just love to hear what our pros/cons are. Thank you!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/deployment-bff-wedding-for-our-own#post-3082151 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 13:58:50 +0000 Miss Carmine 3082151@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi Bees, Mr. Carmine and I are trying to set a date for the wedding but finding it very difficult to do it conveniently under the circumstances. One of my best friends got engaged around Christmas and has set the date for September 2012. Mr. Carmine and I were considering a September wedding as well, but since we are not formally engaged yet with a "ring proposal", it felt inappropriate to lay claim to September.</p> <p>I personally don't mind "sharing" a month with a friend but everyone is a little different (as in, she doesn't feel the same way and that's fine). Anyway, the biggest reason why September is now a problem for us is because my BFF and I have a lot of mutual friends and my wedding will be in a different state than hers. To have a September or October wedding would mean many people would have to buy 2 plane tickets, 2 dresses, hotels, take time off from work, etc., for 2 weddings within a short time frame and it's important to me that everyone is able to come and a lack of money on their part doesn't prevent it.</p> <p>November and December are out for similar money reasons: gifts, flying home to see family, plus many vendor rates go up around that time. Also, I work retail and that is a "blackout season" for taking time off. Additionally, I really hate the idea of my anniversery getting rolled up into a holiday.</p> <p>I was originally considering March 2013 because I felt that was enough distance from any other wedding or holiday related event, but Mr. Carmine recently informed me that his 2nd deployment is being set for the end of March (I use "set" fairly loosely as those with loved ones in the military know).</p> <p>Because of the uncertainty involving deployments, he prefers one of 2 things; we either have the wedding in February 2013, or we wait until he returns around October 2013.</p> <p>Maybe I'm being picky, but here's my thing with February; that was always one of the months I wanted to avoid because of Valentine's Day! It's very important to me that my anniversery is a separate event from other holidays and happenings. See, my birthday is the end of January so I grew up with having a lot of gifts that were combination "Christmas/Birthday" and wrapped in Valentine's Day paper (cause that's when the stores were putting it out!). I don't want any of it for my most important yearly celebration!</p> <p>On a more practical note, we will be marrying in the North Boston area so snowstorms are a concern for our many out of town guests.</p> <p>Alternatively, waiting til October 2013 is getting a lot of negative reaction from many friends and family we have discussed it with. Although we have explained that we want to save up for a nice wedding to treat our 150+ guests, many feel that, particularly with another deployment on the horizon, it seems strange and shallow to wait if we've already decided to get married. </p> <p>I know that a courthouse wedding is typical of couples in our position, but then I feel like I can't justify a fancy, expensive "vow renewal" celebration/wedding (?) after. I want the day I get married to be it.</p> <p>Am I creating too many unnecesary restrictions for myself? Help!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/anyone-frustrated-waiting#post-3201157 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:58 +0000 NavyBride2013 3201157@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi Bees --&nbsp;</p> <p>I am new around here. &nbsp;Got engaged right after Christmas but haven't seen my FI since then. &nbsp;</p> <p>Is anyone else getting frustrated with this fact that you are married and supposed to be planning a wedding but everything is on hold for deployments/the military? We are looking at a min of 2 years for a "real" wedding (and 1.5 years until we can even be in the same state/coast).&nbsp;</p> <p>It's easier for him to deal b/c all of his friends are in this "boat" (literally!), but it's weird that many of my friends who aren't even engaged yet will prob get married before me. &nbsp;I'm just in a different world.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/air-force-here-we-come#post-3182455 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:14:14 +0000 kjhenderson0925 3182455@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My FI just got a call from his recruiter saying he is leaving for basic on July 3! We're very excited for what is to come. Apparently, he got a very rare job as an admin. It's rare bc it's a Mon-Fri 7-3 desk job. Yayy now he'll be able to graduate school as a Robotics Engineer. Just thought I'd share my excitement with my fellow bees!! :)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tricare-prime#post-3183633 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:53:14 +0000 SubmarinersBride 3183633@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I just got my Tricare prime card yesterday (finally - civil ceremony was over 2 months ago, so they took long enough!) &nbsp;I was reading the terms of service online, and am confused. &nbsp;I have a PCM assigned, who is a civilian. &nbsp;I am not within driving distance of a MTF. &nbsp;From what I can tell, I can see my PCM and an OBGYN without a referral. &nbsp;But what about my allergist and neurologist? &nbsp;Do I need to get a referral through my PCM, or are those services that require preauthorization through TriCare? &nbsp;Also, I saw that if I go to the ER, I need to contact my PCM before I leave the hospital in order to have coverage? &nbsp;What do I do if it's the middle of the night??</p> <p>The other thing is - I saw that only basic maternity is covered, no ultrasounds?? &nbsp;I have always thought those were basic....</p> <p>I'm second guessing my choice to get TriCare now. :(</p>