http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards: Forum: Muslim - Recent Topics en Mon, 13 Feb 2012 21:23:17 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/can-i-have-a-nikah-even-if-my-fiance-is-not-muslim#post-2750928 Sat, 15 Oct 2011 22:10:50 +0000 fafaa22 2750928@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>i would like to have a nikah but he is catholic(although he is not a hard core religious person) but i would like to have a nikah but im not sure if it is allowed for both of us to have it even though he is not converting.</p> <p>what do you say?</p> <p>anyy advise?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/arabic-wedding-invitations#post-3158893 Sun, 29 Jan 2012 20:02:59 +0000 EsqBride 3158893@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Salaam sisters!</p> <p>Do you know of a place that does Arabic and English wedding invites? I've looked around, but they're all very traditional and old school. I'm looking for something modern!&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Thank you!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wedding-newbee-recently-engaged-and-very-confused#post-3079789 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 07:15:48 +0000 woga2004 3079789@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hi everyone! I have read a lot of posts on these boards and you all seem like such a lovely and amazing bunch of ladies I decided to make myself an account!</p> <p>I recently got engaged to my fiance whom I have been with for over three years. He is Pakistani American and I am Romanian American. So I have actually made the desicion to convert to Islam and have absolutely no idea how to go about it. I never thought I would find a religion that so closely aligns itself with my values, ideas and morals but I have. This all started when I took a class on sacred Islamic texts and took off after that. So do any of you ladies know how I can go about converting? (I have already converted spiritually but would like to do it formally so that its recognized). Thanks!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/muslim-bees-men-and-women-separate-for-reception#post-3134270 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 13:47:45 +0000 ZackandDana 3134270@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>So, here I am day two of my postings and I figured a good way to start off would be to talk about the way my wedding will be set up.&nbsp;</p> <p>Now as I mentioned before I am a Muslim girl, so our traditions are a little different then the norm. My wedding will be a separate affair. That's right I said it SEPARATE! So due to the demands of my wacky MIL, there will be men in one room and women in the other. Therefore the reception will consist of two rooms, two cocktail hours, and me and my husband in separate &nbsp;rooms. This is all because she claims to want to enjoy her sons wedding. He is the eldest son and he is also the first son to be married. So that being said, she is covered as in wears a hijab, or scarf on her head, so i understand that she wants to get ready, wear makeup, get her hair done. However I made sure she doesnt get it completely how she wants it. After dinner is served men will be joining the party on the women's side, thats the compromise. Now although this limits certain things that I would want to do, I''ve made peace with it (although sometimes it takes all my might not to curse her out when she speaks to me LOL). So there you have it, my reception will take place in two rooms. Now that i've rambled on and on, I look forward with sharing my ideas on my dual reception and such. Tomorrow's Goal is to share my favorite part of the wedding: MY DRESS!</p> <p>Now, I have to get back to work so until tomorrow, I bid you Bees a good night and Happy Planning!&nbsp;</p> <p>Xoxo,</p> <p>Dana&nbsp;<img src="http://boards.weddingbee.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-kiss.gif" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hes-muslim-im-not#post-835196 Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:43:49 +0000 Ms. Brokebee 835196@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>And I'm a little confused about what we're going to do. First off, we are having a Nikkah(?) next month. Mainly because we have been living together and he doesn't feel right with us living in sin. So basically, I will already be married when I have my wedding next year. He says that the Muslim ceremony is&nbsp;supposed&nbsp;to be intimate. Therefore it will be just us and our witness(I guess) My question is should I wear traditional clothing even though I am not Muslim? Also, I really don't feel like explaining things to people in my family,&nbsp;because the few who I have told my plans to are already saying negative things...&nbsp;Also, will my Christian ceremony actually be a ceremony&nbsp;renewing my vows? Help!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/canadian-convert-to-marry-pakistani-how-to-incorporate-all-traditions#post-2995846 Wed, 21 Dec 2011 09:14:15 +0000 HalleBille 2995846@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Salams and hello,</p> <p>Alhumdulilah, I'm engaged to a wonderful man and planning our wedding for late summer, 2012. I'm Canadian and have grown up dreaming of a white dress wedding and he is Pakistani though raised in in the UAE and Canada.</p> <p>We're trying to decide how to incorporate all of our wedding traditions in to one big celebration, without breaking the bank.</p> <p>I want to walk down an aisle, get married/do nikkah and then have the reception, all&nbsp;on the same day.&nbsp;His tradition would be to have a 3 day affair- mehndi (day1), nikkah (signing marriage contract with dinner- day 2) and reception (day 3). I want to wear a white wedding dress as well as a red lengha to fulfill both bridal looks! He said that it is necessary to have the reception the day after the nikkah (ie after consumation of the marriage).</p> <p>Though his 3 day tradition sounds like fun, I don't think it is financially feasible since at this point, it looks like he and I are funding the entire thing ourselves.</p> <p>I want to wear the lengha for one whole day and the white dress for one whole day since hair and makeup will be so different for both outfits Also, I don't want to have to share two outfits on one day... it's the only time I'm ever going to wear either outfit! I think it would be best to walk down the aisle in the white dress so that my family gets some semblance to a western wedding (i'm their only daughter). The only issue is that my dress will be 3/4 lace sleeved (very similar to Kate Middleton, inA). My hair will be showing through the sheer veil. Can we do the nikkah even though my hair and some skin will be showing? I don't want to do the nikkah in a mosque because I don't want the guests to be gender separated (it would freak out my family and I want to show the easiest to understand, positive attributes of Islam to them).</p> <p>How have other intercultural couples managed to ensure their wedding is halal, as well as staying true to both cultures?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/muslim-wedding-gifts#post-2966497 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 06:09:57 +0000 rachiecakes 2966497@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>hello all! :)&nbsp;</p> <p>A co-worker friend of mine recently got married in a traditional ceremony last weekend. I would like to give him a gift or at least a card but in the past gifts (birthday, etc.) have been politely refused.&nbsp;</p> <p>Can someone tell me if it would be okay to get him a small token or card? Or maybe if I just brought donuts/coffee or an office lunch to celebrate his marriage? We do something at work for everyone who has gotten married/had a baby, etc. Everyone has been very generous for my wedding and office baby shower. I've tried to Google, but haven't found an answer. I don't want to offend anyone and want to be respectful of traditions.&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks so much!&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/nikah-and-wedding-rings#post-2806707 Mon, 31 Oct 2011 08:10:24 +0000 fafaa22 2806707@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>im a little confused.</p> <p>isnt that not allowed? perhaps harram?</p> <p>or is that an optional thing.</p> <p>ive been seeing lots of nikah where they do exchange rings</p> <p>and sometimes not on ring finger, instead its on middle finger or right hand etc</p> <p>or one senario was seeing the woman wearing the ring BEFORE the nikah and her sister help her put it on (huh? why? now its its ok for the sister to put it on?)</p> <p>is any of the above allowed? or it depends to individuals?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/american-muslim-convertsany-others#post-1685593 Fri, 28 Jan 2011 18:44:29 +0000 ElleJae 1685593@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>As salaamu alaikum (peace be upon you) sisters and friends!</p> <p>I've been lurking for a while but noticed that there is like no, None,&nbsp;ZERO activity in the Muslim boards. My SO and I are both liberal but practicing Muslim converts, raised in Christian households, and trying to plan a wedding that reflects who we are as a couple, but also serves as dawah to our majority non-Muslim families.</p> <p>We could really care less about most of the wedding traditions and plan on everything being nice and laidback yet still resemble a wedding.&nbsp;I will be present for the actual ceremony and&nbsp;we will have it at some kind of venue, not at home or anything like that. I've only been to one&nbsp;Muslim wedding and it was small, just very close friends and family and&nbsp;the nikah was&nbsp;held in the living room of the couple and we all just sat around and ate in the various parts of the house&nbsp;afterward...not&nbsp;what&nbsp;we have in mind.</p> <p>We're aiming&nbsp;for some kind of&nbsp;fusion ceremony/reception where we&nbsp;can fulfill all the requirements of Islam, teach our family/friends a few things about our religion and still incorporate the festivities (obviously no alcohol). Are there any other Muslim bees out there trying to do the same????</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/persian-wedding-in-kansas-city#post-2794090 Wed, 26 Oct 2011 20:43:13 +0000 tala 2794090@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Does anyone know someone in Kansas City who does sofreh-aghd (wedding spread for the Persian ceremony) and an officiant who knows Farsi??</p>