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Weddingbee Boards Tag: advice http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Tag: advice en Sun, 21 Mar 2010 00:35:07 +0000 Kemi82JP on "CANDY BUFFET - how much should i order?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/candy-buffet-how-much-should-i-order#post-816424 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 15:40:22 +0000 Kemi82JP 816424@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ has anyone already had their wedding and had a candy buffet?  I'm just a little stuck on figuring out how many pounds of certain candies i should get... like if i ordered 5lbs of jelly bellies, what size container would that fit?  any suggestions or advice would be SO helpful!!  Thanks! ChiCat on "So ... how do you pick a dj?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/so-how-do-you-pick-a-dj#post-815384 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 22:35:41 +0000 ChiCat 815384@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ So how do you pick a dj?  Obviously I'll be looking at all the boards for Chicago DJs, and read reviews on other websites, and price is always a factor, but once I have a list of people to meet with how do you pick?  For venues you can go walk around or taste the food, for photographers we oggled page after page of their work and got a sense of what they wanted to capture in our day.  But with DJs, unless we actually go to a wedding they've worked, then how can we get a sense of their style?  And of course, we'll be giving them a "do play" and "don't play" list, so they know that we don't want a night full of Miley Cyrus or Nordic Death Metal (nothing against either if that's your thing!) I'm just nervous because we've been to weddings with some pretty questionable djs - one time everyone was rocking out to the Cha Cha Slide, and the dj stopped the music to inform all of us that we were doing it wrong, and needed to be corrected.  Killed the dancing mood for a solid half hour.  Anyway, the point is I know that a good dj can make or break a wedding, but I don't have a good sense of how to make sure I find one...  How did you choose your dj? MissAsB on "I'm about to scream profanity at my invitations.." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/im-about-to-scream-profanity-at-my-invitations#post-814379 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 17:11:34 +0000 MissAsB 814379@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ You should probably put the information on the reception card so that people know where it is.  If you have a website, you don't need to include the accomodation card if you just give them your wedding website with that information. bobbypinpearls on "I'm about to scream profanity at my invitations.." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/im-about-to-scream-profanity-at-my-invitations#post-814373 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 17:10:06 +0000 bobbypinpearls 814373@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Okay, I am having some of the worst time with my invitations. I have them, sitting right in front of me. Perfect except no writing on them. And that is where my trouble lies, I have the main invitation, the accommodation card, the RSVP card, the RSVP envelope, the Directions and I am debating the Reception card.  And here is where I am going to start screaming profanities!! Should I include a reception card? What do I put on it? We are having a small cocktail hour, and a reception following the ceremony, both of which will be only a few feet from the ceremony. What do I put on the accommodation card? Do I put the price of each hotel per night? Am I missing any thing??   maureen9004 on "Photographer with NO wedding experience?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/photographer-with-no-wedding-experience#post-812037 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:35:22 +0000 maureen9004 812037@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ They're good.. and if she's willing to do them for free I may take the chance. The only issue is she doesn't edit so you may want to look into someone who can do that for you. I did an example very quickly to show you the difference. bzbear2 on "Top ten words of wisdom" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/top-ten-words-of-wisdom#post-798849 Mon, 15 Mar 2010 07:56:17 +0000 bzbear2 798849@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Well, 4 months to go! Here's my personal, complimentary commercial free advice for wedding planning based on what I've learned so far. ENJOY! 1) Wear your wedding goggles So, you’re engaged? Put on your wedding googles! Brainstorm as you walk around, shop, eat, play. I am not talking about being obsessively crazy, I mean, look for inspiration everywhere! Really like that drink at the local bar? Recreate it for your signature cocktail! Cute song on the radio? Write down the lyrics and google it when you get home to add to your cocktail hour playlist. Love that window display? Photograph it and use it for décor inspiration. The possibilities are endless. 2) Start a collection This is a fun way to channel your wedding planning energy without overbuying too early in the game (i.e. before you know your venue/guestcount etc..) Pick some aspect of your wedding that you can “collect” for – I am collecting blue and green vases and bottles – what about collecting vintage postcards, or pink baskets, or cool vintage frames? It makes every shopping trip seem like a treasure hunt :) 3) Order matters! It DOES matter if you finalize your catering order before you have your final guest count! You can’t print your programs until you decide on the order of your ceremony! Some things simply have to be done before others! I am personally not much of a plan maker, so if you’re not prone to writing long range plans, just write a list of all the things that need to be done, and go through it thinking of what task has to be done BEFORE each task. Then order everything up and you have your game plan! 4) Make appointments, even if you aren’t prepared Need to meet with your venue but you haven’t even thought about décor? Your officiant wants to talk about the ceremony but you still haven’t printed the list of possible texts he gave you three months ago. SO WHAT! Just make the appointment anyways, you’ll find that the time pressure will force you to take care of those items, even if it’s the day before (or even the morning of!) the meeting. And going into those meetings less than perfectly prepared isn’t always a bad thing – it leaves you much more open minded! 5) Finalize it, and let it go Some aspects of your wedding could be discussed forever. The menu could always be tweaked, the invitations could use this and that, the DJ list needs a few more songs, you could keep looking for bands… but SOMETIMES you have to just say enough is enough. Decide, be happy with your decision, and move on! No regrets. 6) Make it you! Don’t be afraid to show your personalities! After all, this is about YOU! That means, do your first dance to Hakuna Matata, toss a bouquet of dandelions, serve fancy hamburgers at your reception, have a Wall-E and Eva cake topper. Your Aunt Sally may find it weird, but she certainly won’t forget it! And more often than not, people are charmed by originality. Even if they think “I wouldn’t do this at my wedding”, they are still enjoying it at yours! 7) Google docs is a lifesaver Google docs has been our lifesaver – we have our budget, our guest list, our song list, our vows… you name it… all saved as joint documents there. That means that we can both edit them whenever or access them from any computer. LIFESAVER. 8) Keep your parents busy Your parents most likely want to be involved in planning your wedding – but if you’re like me, you don’t need their advice on every detail. So? Give them something to plan! The rehearsal dinner, the monogrammed golfballs, the wedding dress trip, the favors – you name it, just pick something that you can let go and let them plan on their own! they’ll love it and so will you. 9) Blog about it! Blogging about your wedding is not only a good way to get family and friends (or even strangers) excited about your wedding, it’s a great way to document your planning process for memory’s sake! My grandmother kept a detailed diary of every detail of my mom’s wedding planning – and I have the same type of record thanks to my blog! Afterwards, use a service like blurb to print your memories in paper form! 10) Mantra: No matter what happens, you’ll handle it! Repeat after me: no matter what happens, you’ll handle it! That means, even if your Uncle gets drunk and loud, or you mess up your vows, or your flowers wilt, or something is forgotten – you will handle it, because you are going to let nothing, NOTHING ruin your day! It’s that simple. SMILE and HAVE FUN! MissAsB on "advice wanted...thinking about a quick ceremony to add me to his insurance" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/advice-wantedthinking-about-a-quick-ceremony-to-add-me-to-his-insurance#post-795414 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:09:33 +0000 MissAsB 795414@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I don't know about all insurance plans but mine gave me credit for preexisting conditions because I had insurance beforehand.  But since you don't have insurance, you might have a penalty against you. EvaBostonTerrier on "advice wanted...thinking about a quick ceremony to add me to his insurance" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/advice-wantedthinking-about-a-quick-ceremony-to-add-me-to-his-insurance#post-795393 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 12:57:59 +0000 EvaBostonTerrier 795393@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I would highly recommend having you SO look to see if there is a preexisting condition clause with regard to his health insurance.  This is from the US Department of Labor <a href="http://www.dol.gov/ebsa/faqs/faq_consumer_hipaa.html">website</a>,    Under HIPAA, a plan is allowed to look back only 6 months for a condition that was present before the start of coverage in a group health plan. Specifically, the law says that a preexisting condition exclusion can be imposed on a condition only if medical advice, diagnosis, care, or treatment was recommended or received during the 6 months prior to your enrollment date in the plan. As an example, you may have had arthritis for many years before you came to your current job. If you did not have medical advice, diagnosis, care, or treatment – recommended or received – in the 6 months before you enrolled in the plan, then the prior condition cannot be subject to a preexisting condition exclusion. If you did receive medical advice, diagnosis, care, or treatment within the past 6 months, then the plan may impose a preexisting condition exclusion for that condition (arthritis). In addition, HIPAA prohibits plans from applying a preexisting condition exclusion to pregnancy, genetic information, and certain children. If you have a preexisting condition that can be excluded from your plan coverage, then there is a limit to the preexisting condition exclusion period that can be applied. HIPAA limits the preexisting condition exclusion period for most people to 12 months (18 months if you enroll late), although some plans may have a shorter time period or none at all. In addition, some people with a history of prior health coverage will be able to reduce the exclusion period even further using “creditable coverage.” Remember, a preexisting condition exclusion relates only to benefits for your (and your family’s) preexisting conditions. If you enroll, you will receive coverage for the plan’s other benefits during that time. mermaideve on "advice wanted...thinking about a quick ceremony to add me to his insurance" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/advice-wantedthinking-about-a-quick-ceremony-to-add-me-to-his-insurance#post-795352 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 12:41:57 +0000 mermaideve 795352@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ We did talk last night, and his ambivalence is maddening. He has been in very few relationships and doesn't have much confidence about his ability to do so well. !!!! mermaideve on "advice wanted...thinking about a quick ceremony to add me to his insurance" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/advice-wantedthinking-about-a-quick-ceremony-to-add-me-to-his-insurance#post-794586 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 23:36:39 +0000 mermaideve 794586@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Well, they don't list income guidelines like they used to. So I am also thinking it might make sense to wait out the application process and see if it is truly necessary. I think they have 60 days to make a decision.