http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Tag: engagement en Mon, 13 Feb 2012 21:37:09 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/anybody-else-have-3-years-engagements#post-3224429 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:47:24 +0000 erikabasulto 3224429@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3172805">@Jacqui90:</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;Well, he asked me to marry him about 10 years ago, and of course i said yes...but we were a lil young 17/18 years old and we never really talked about it since then. But we are planning to get married on Feb 24th which is our 11th year anniversary since we started dating. We been living together for 10 years and we are still together and we think its time to finally get married. I think either way, its better to live together instead of waiting to get married to live together that way you know your partner better. Good luck with everything <img src="http://boards.weddingbee.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/long-wait-before-engagement-how-not-to-wrck-the-relationship/page/2#post-3224124 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 11:42:28 +0000 quishi 3224124@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3218404">@Scottish_lassie:</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;So I read a few of your other posts to get a better picture of your relationship. It seems to me, not to be harsh, that you're jumping the gun a bit on the marriage idea. I completely understand that you want things to happen in a certain order and that you want kids, but from what I understood, it doesn't seem like your guy is anywhere near ready to get married.</p> <p>You mention that you guys got together 2 months after his ex of 6 years, who he was going to marry, dumped him. And that you've been together for about 2 years? Let me put this into perspective a bit, I waited 9 years for the proposal, we were long distance for 4, and living together for a little over 1. And am getting married near the 10 yr mark. Now granted, that's a heck of a long wait and I don't recommend it at you age, but your SO was planning to marry his ex 6 yrs after they had been together. It seems that after just 2 you might be rushing it.</p> <p>Also the fact that he keeps making different excuses gives me the impression the he just doesn't want it right now. And to be honest, I don't blame him. It must be devastating to be dumped soon before getting married after having essentially wasted 6 years of your life. I would have cold feet after that and want to be pretty sure about the person before even considering marriage. Now I'm not saying he doesn't want to be with you, I don't know that, I'm just saying it seems like he is not ready for that level of commitment, with anyone. You seem like a very sweet person and it seems like you have very specific ideas of what you want in your future, but I don't think that includes a husband that was pressured into marrying you.&nbsp;If having children is really the main priority in your life, then that can happen in any number of ways, but you can't use that to put a timeline on formalizing a relationship when one of the parties isn't ready. You will have the same problem with any man you get together with. And to be honest, all the wedding obsession talk is not working in your favor with your SO. Guys don't like pressure, and I know it's hard to wait, I've been there. But don't you want him to really want to marry you?</p> <p>If waiting is not an option because of the kids thing, then I guess you have to be honest with yourself about what matters to you the most. Would you sacrifice the possibility of biological children in the future, opting maybe for adoption, in order to wait for him? Or would you stay with him patiently and in a couple of years get artificial insemination or something if he still isn't ready to commit? or should you just move on and find someone with similar goals to yours, no guaranties on that. Or maybe your timeline falls into place perfectly and it all works out!</p> <p>It's really up to your priorities, but either way, I would stop putting pressure on him. Not to say that you can't talk about your concerns about kids so that he knows why you feel the need to rush things, but honestly, if he isn't ready to talk about marriage, I doubt he'll want to consider the role kids play in your future. I'm sorry to be blunt and I don't mean to hurt you at all. Obviously I don't know your relationship, I might have it all wrong. But that is what I pick up from the few posts of yours that I read. I really hope you get everything that you want out of life and I wish you the very best! From one bee that waited a loooooong time to another, stay strong and hang in there and above everything else, remember that you deserve to be happy, with whatever real happiness in the end means to you!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-few-of-our-engagement-picsthoughts#post-3222755 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:09:57 +0000 Ivyperks 3222755@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I vote number 2. So cute.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-few-of-our-engagement-picsthoughts#post-3222745 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:08:07 +0000 roxy821 3222745@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My favorite is number 2.</p> <p>Does that blanket mean something to you? I am not a huge fan of the ones with you wrapping yourself in the blanket since it doesn't seem to fit around both of you and seems to leave him a little out in the cold. But I can see if it has special meaning and you wanted to include it in photos.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-few-of-our-engagement-picsthoughts#post-3222734 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:04:46 +0000 pengoala 3222734@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I love #2!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-few-of-our-engagement-picsthoughts#post-3222468 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 05:33:10 +0000 USER876 3222468@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I like the last one the best, the crops are too tight in the others IMO.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hopefully-less-than-a-week#post-3222352 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 03:14:34 +0000 Jacqui90 3222352@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>i was slightly crazy in that time, he picked it up on the 23rd December and proposed on the 19th January, i was chomping at the bit, but I did summer semester at uni and that distracted me a little bit</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/trouble-convincing-your-so-that-you-dont-want-a-diamond-e-ring#post-3222054 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:20:25 +0000 MissNerdy 3222054@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I still stare at my moissy e-ring and think about how its too good to be true, lol! &nbsp;Once I read all the properties to my SO (now FI) he was pretty sold on it as well. &nbsp;He keeps telling his little brothers about it, but i keep warning them to make sure to check with their SOs before buying a moissy lol. &nbsp;just because I'm okay with it doesnt mean everybody is!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/trouble-convincing-your-so-that-you-dont-want-a-diamond-e-ring#post-3222022 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:06:55 +0000 sjyork 3222022@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We looked at diamonds too but found that you didn't get that much for the price. So I suggested that we get the diamond on an anniversery (which is going to be every 4 years) and spend the money on our wedding bands instead. So here's what I got instead of an e-ring and I love it&nbsp;<img src="http://bios.weddingbee.com/pics/153947/P1010522.JPG" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-few-of-our-engagement-picsthoughts#post-3222021 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:06:40 +0000 Scottish_lassie 3222021@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>The one of the two of you wrapped in the blanket looking at the camera is just gorgeous</p>