http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Tag: guest list en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:51:42 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tight-wedding-budget-large-guest-list#post-3225082 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:49:11 +0000 awesomeryl 3225082@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Without knowing your budget, it's a little hard to really help you out - there's plenty of venues in SoCal that take over 200, but it really depends on your budget. &nbsp;Staying firm with Saturday evening makes it harder, but you could look into places like Luminares, Castaway or Country Clubs, where the $/pp may fit within your budget. &nbsp;An easy way is to also go to some of the wedding expo's - there's usually a great variety of venues there, and a very easy way for you to go up to all of them going, "Hey, I have 200 people, and only want to spend $45/pp - what's the best arrangement you can do for me?"</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fiancee-invitation-nightmare-any-tips#post-3225058 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:43:58 +0000 awesomeryl 3225058@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Having family overseas &amp; others that I know just won't come because of $, school or work issues, we are still obligated (by both sets of parents) to invite. &nbsp;Our solution (which may not work for you):</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>a) to save costs, are making those invitations substantially cheaper, without all the 'hoorah' of our 'real' invitations (vistaprint, michaels &amp; martha stewart/brides, whatever) - just something that they can have so they can 'feel' whatever it is that 'feeling' is they are supposed to get (and this is for family who will not be going, probably won't RSVP no and no gift)</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>b) agree with the above post - do tiered. &nbsp;or, if you want to be a little more certain they won't come, send them verrrrrry late. &nbsp;and most importantly,</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>c) don't send out save the dates to those you don't want to come. &nbsp;(also what we're doing)</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Hope any of that helps and best of luck! &nbsp;No one seem to understand the actual need to have accurate figures for rentals, catering, cake, favors, etc. unless they're actually planning a wedding themselves! &nbsp;<img src="http://boards.weddingbee.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fiancee-invitation-nightmare-any-tips#post-3214907 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:22:21 +0000 courtney1188 3214907@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-3214888">@NDBee:</a>&nbsp; I totally agree...many relatives think if they're all invited they should go cuz it's like a family reunion paid for by you. Don't let your FI have his way on this one, it will be a disaster!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fiancee-invitation-nightmare-any-tips#post-3214888 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:16:22 +0000 NDBee 3214888@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Oooh, be wary of inviting everyone that 'for sure won't come. They'll come. Believe me, our guest list of 580 people with so many that 'for sure won't come' is already at a 300 accepted list and we're waiting on about 150 more people...only invite those that you for sure want there and can afford to accommodate. Then move out from there as you get declines back.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fiancee-invitation-nightmare-any-tips#post-3214871 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:11:14 +0000 ackerman 3214871@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>oh no! This doesn't sound good. Honestly, I think it's never a good idea to invite people with the intention that why won't come, because if they do then you're screwed. Maybe he should talk to a few family members about the wedding and see if they'd be into traveling (slyly) or not. That may give you a better idea of how realistic it is that his extended family will or won't come. My honest opinion though, is if you can't afford them, don't invite them. You'll just be setting yourself up for trouble.</p> <p>Another though. Have you guys talked about or considered and A/B list?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fiancee-invitation-nightmare-any-tips#post-3214864 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:09:49 +0000 msfahrenheit 3214864@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Have you considered doing tiered invites? Like you create an A-list that you invite early, then send invites to your B-list as you get regrets.</p> <p>Some people have etiquette concerns about this approach, but I think it could work well for you. Include all of the essential people up to your budget/venue limit in your A-list. Then you can send invites to extended family members, coworkers, and less close friends if people on the A-list can't make it. This way you can still (possibly) invite everyone, but hyou don't risk having more people than you can afford.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fiancee-invitation-nightmare-any-tips#post-3214837 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:03:27 +0000 lagemmapreziosa 3214837@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>...So my fiancee and I are planning our wedding in Orlando, Florida. We currently reside in California, but I am from Orlando.&nbsp; So, we budgeted for 150-180 people.&nbsp; The thing is that he wants to invite &gt; 200 people FROM HIS FAMILY ALONE!&nbsp; Crazy, I know!&nbsp;</p> <p>He says that he "knows his family" and that they won't travel all the way to Florida for the wedding. He just wants everyone to feel that they are being treated equally and doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings (he claims that "this is just how his family is..." my family is the same way, but hey - i have made sacrifices).</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>He's even said that if he can't invite ALL of his extended family, then he will just invite his immediate family and that's that.&nbsp; (OMG, I know)</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>My invite list has been cut back and cut back b/c I know that my family will travel anywhere to see me get married... And I don't want to overcommit ourselves by inviting more people than we can afford. He seems to think it's fine for him to invite significantly more people than me (twice as many, maybe more?) because, in his eyes, they won't be coming.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>I still think it's risky.&nbsp; I mean, what if they ALL decide to show up?&nbsp; The wedding is on a long holiday weekend...</p> <p>ANYONE HAVE AN EXPERIENCE LIKE THIS?&nbsp; HOW'S IT GOING/HOW DID IT WORK OUT/WHAT DID YOU DO?</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>We argue about this intensely every single time we talk about it. And I can't stand to go through that anymore.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Please help!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hes-inviting-his-childhood-dentist-vent-and-its-kinda-long#post-3214761 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 20:43:05 +0000 everyheart 3214761@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>His childhood dentist? Really? Actually, I lol'd at that- it reminds me of a wedding I went to last year where the groom invited the owner of his old gym, the owner of his favorite neighborhood restaurant, and a bartender at the place he went to only 3 times! It was really crowded at the reception.</p> <p>I really think you should&nbsp;put your foot down. You don't want to pay money for people that you don't know, and that he really even hardly knows. He should be willing to make a compromise, and not invite people he hasn't seen since childhood!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hes-inviting-his-childhood-dentist-vent-and-its-kinda-long#post-3213324 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:35:28 +0000 Ms. Martian 3213324@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>"Think of it this way. &nbsp;It's gonna cost you $20-$30 a head to feed and entertain these folks so only invite those you like enough to take them out to a $20 meal. &nbsp;Example. You? I'd so take you to olive garden. &nbsp;Some former coworker? &nbsp;Hell, I wouldn't even let them order off the Wendy's value menu on my dime! " &lt;--- this is what I was going to say, except for us it's more like $150 per head!! Makes it a bit easier to say no to (basically) total strangers.&nbsp;</p> <p><span>I had this same conversation with a friend recently. Her guy has a million friends, he's just really outgoing and everyone loves him, he can't just narrow it down, he wants to invite everyone. I'm sort of in the same situation but after a lot of arguing I devised a plan. We booked a venue that can only accommodate 110 guests. I originally gave a total limit of 75 guests (25 us, 25 his parents, 25 my parents) and of course that has balooned to 110 guests!</span></p> <p><span>&nbsp;</span></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hes-inviting-his-childhood-dentist-vent-and-its-kinda-long#post-3213250 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:15:08 +0000 zomgwut 3213250@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>From my planner/coordinator:</p> <p>"Think of it this way. &nbsp;It's gonna cost you $20-$30 a head to feed and entertain these folks so only invite those you like enough to take them out to a $20 meal. &nbsp;Example. You? I'd so take you to olive garden. &nbsp;Some former coworker? &nbsp;Hell, I wouldn't even let them order off the Wendy's value menu on my dime! "</p> <p><div>I think about this a lot when I am guestlisting.&nbsp; It helps.</div> </p>