http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Tag: RSVP en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 05:07:23 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-492809 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 03:41:47 +0000 cheerful 492809@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>To clarify: I'm not against a B-list, I'm against the obvious techniques that make guests feel lesser. Both of the b-list situations I've been in could have been easily avoided.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-492556 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:18:16 +0000 LittlestBirds 492556@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I said "shady" though I didn't mean the part about "I can't believe you would think of doing this." :) I can totally see the temptation to do it, but I feel like there are better ways than kind of flat-out lying to folks. We might do the two rounds of invites since we have all of our really close friends and family coming from way way out of town, and our friends in town are mostly a lot more casual (we haven't lived here that long). That way, the two rounds actually makes sense, since the OOT folks would need their invites sooner anyway. (Nevermind that they're all receiving STDs anyway).</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-492513 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:10:53 +0000 spaganya 492513@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>at jkoala - thats a good idea about different rounds - one for family and one for friends - i was contemplating something similar since i know my long distance relatives most likely wont make it and that will free up space for me to invite my more local friends who i would LOVE to make it but theres limited space (limited budget and venue space). I am also trying to lean on mom and dad and FMIL and FFIL to get an "informal" yes or no from the immediate family members (i.e. aunts and uncles and grandparents) to make sure they are a go- we both come from big families (i have 18 aunts and uncles alone, not including their spouses so thats 36 people right there! and thats just MY aunts and uncles) and if some of em dont go it will free up a&nbsp; LOT of space for my friends who i would love to invite as well.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/rsvp-postcard-question#post-492273 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:59:18 +0000 Irishker03 492273@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I would definitely send out some sort of RSVP, even if it's just an email for them to respond to!&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-492053 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:15:09 +0000 PlaidBride 492053@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We're probably doing a "modified B list" as I call it.&nbsp; Our wedding is only about 50 people, so we're sending out the out-of-town guests' invitations really early and then, if we get a lot of regrets, we will add to the local invitation list.&nbsp; It is highly unlikely that my cousin in Minnesota will be having a heart-to-heart with my senior partner about when he received his invite, so I'm thinking it's pretty safe.&nbsp; I would be worried about your plan, however.&nbsp; How embarassing would it be to have 10 different people make small talk about how their invitation was lost in the mail?</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-490860 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:09:59 +0000 Irishker03 490860@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>People always want to be invited! I like to think of it as the fact that everyone loves a wedding and wants to be included. The hard thing is that most people don't have the money to just have unlimited invitations! I hate the awkward "no you're not invited" thing. My FMIL and FFIL just keep adding people to the guest list and because my side of the family is so much larger, I feel bad saying no to them. But we did ask for their list 3/4 months ago! (Sorry, needed to vent!)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-490407 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 15:27:23 +0000 Ember78 490407@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I could never do that personally. You would be amazed at the stuff people find out that you try to keep secret. Do you really want to start off your marriage being deceptive? That doesn't fly with alot of people.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-490341 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 14:47:00 +0000 Irishker03 490341@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I think this is a very good idea but I feel like there could be a potential flaw in there somewhere but I'm not sure what that is...</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-490242 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:42:58 +0000 waitingbee 490242@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Its not an awful idea, if you can not make it too obvious</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sneaky-b-list-idea#post-490238 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:41:54 +0000 chicky 490238@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I think the "rounds" of invites seems like the better way to go. we are inviting about 185 people and planning for 150. We think most that we invite will say yes and are prepared to pay for a few extra yeses if need be. This being said, we originally planned on inviting about 220. Unfortunetly, budgets can sometimes rain on the parade. This doesn't mean I don't WANT to invite these people, or wouldn't be absolutely ecstatic to have them at my wedding...its just there are other people that I couldn't not have at my wedding. We will prob. do a B-list type thing depending on responses (we'll be sending invites out in rounds). This is not meant to hurt anyones feelings, and those who know us or know anything about budgets I am hoping will understand unfortunaetly it is just necessary. We will do all we can to not make it noticable. I would not be hurt if I was a round 2er...atleast I know they want me there...I know everyone isn't Bill Gates</p>