Weddingbee Boards Topic: A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws

Weddingbee Boards Topic: A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 05:46:28 +0000 crebre80 on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws/page/2#post-264158 Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:29:34 +0000 crebre80 264158@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Not FILs yet, lol he hasn't asked the question.  His dad died when he was two and so did most of his dad's family so we don't know them.  But his mom's side, LOVE THEM! They are funny and never overbearing if they don't see me for a while they give me a call just to check on me and make sure I'm okay and I don't need anything.  His mom is the cutest most hilarious thing I have ever seen and so is his sister.  I really love them and him and am very lucky to be on this side of the boat.  I have been in the other waters with the insane FILs and it's not really worth it. diorable on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws/page/2#post-264078 Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:52:48 +0000 diorable 264078@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ oh gosh, where to begin! My ffil is just fine, it's the fmil. She's not a nice woman (to anyone) -- she has some family history that's a bit of a mystery, but seems like she cut her entire family out of her life a long time ago, because my fiance has never met that side. So she has some definite insecurities about her own family, which she projects in crazy ways. There are other things of course, but she's just generally hostile and critical.  I dislike her quite a bit and resent the fact we live near his parents and not mine. I don't share one bit of wedding planning with her because it opens to door for too much criticism.  I'm jealous of people who marry into great families because mine is small to begin with. But my fiance is terrific so we'll just have to make our own little family. BunnyBlue on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-264077 Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:52:31 +0000 BunnyBlue 264077@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ they are great!! I really lucked out. MIL is amazing! When I was planning  , if i had any problems I'd go to her before I went to my mom. Not that my mom doesn't care but she has a really full plate.  I had a situation where a vendor made me cry. I had spoke with the main bake a week before and they said they could make my cake (topsy turvy) but i had to talk to the party planner woman. She was rude! she was late , lost the photo I had brought in , when i showed her the copy i had said flat out they would not make it , even though the baker said they could. I called MIL in tears because the woman was REALLY ruse about the whole thing. She marched into the manager on her lunch break and let them have a piece of her mind.  Lorienne on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-264068 Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:45:56 +0000 Lorienne 264068@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ They are not my in-laws (b/c their son and I broke up but are still close friends) but my ex's family is wonderful and still treats me like I am part of their family.   I would have loved to "officially" become part of the fam but it just didn't work out.  So relieved that all the love is still here, though!   <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_smile.gif" /> teaparty on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-264043 Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:35:08 +0000 teaparty 264043@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ My in-laws are great, but I feel that they are having a hard time accepting that their first-born is now a grown man. When we go home to visit, they'll try to tell him to shave, cut his hair, wear something different, go visit this person or that person, etc. He was going on a work trip to Europe and his mother even asked me to help him pack because she was "worried he wouldn't do it properly by himself." The thing is, my boyfriend is extremely independent and very capable of taking care of himself! It's one of the things that I love about him - I don't need to be his "new mommy," so to speak. But he hasn't lived with them in about 5 years, so perhaps they haven't realized this. There have also been times when his mother has been rude to me when we've tried to spend a more even amount of time with my family - we currently spend way more time with his family than with mine. My point is, I think they are wonderful people, and they treat me very well  - but I am worried that as our relationship progresses even further (we're almost at the 3.5 year mark already), they may struggle to deal with the fact that he is an adult and his life is his own. Thao on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-262065 Wed, 15 Jul 2009 16:16:38 +0000 Thao 262065@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I really love my future in-laws. They're very different from my family and also different from me, but I feel at home with them. They've always made me feel included, especially my future mother-in-law, who sends emails, cards, and gifts to show she cares. Most importantly,they are very supportive of our relationship and recognize how important it is to us. I feel really lucky! SpinningJenny on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-262005 Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:54:47 +0000 SpinningJenny 262005@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ @2dbride: I'm so sorry for your loss. :( I love my future in-laws and I'm so glad and thankful they like me too. All of my grandparents are gone now and I have a very small and scattered family, so I love that I get to join a big, friendly family in addition to my own, especially since I live at least 2.5 hours away from my closest relatives and Mr. Spin's family is all pretty close by. (whew, run on sentence time! ^_^)   budgetbeautiful on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-261993 Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:51:54 +0000 budgetbeautiful 261993@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I really love my FILS. They're great people. My FMIL only has sons, so I know she's thrilled with gaining a daughter! They are different than my parents in that they're more conservative and a bit more religious, but it's not off-putting at all.  His brothers? Well, the youngest one is in the Navy and I met him for about five minutes. I won't see him again until the wedding.  His middle brother I'm not that fond of for reasons I won't get it into on the internet. That said, it's my FILS that I see the most, so it doesn't really matter if I like/get along with his brothers, I don't have to see them often enough for it to be an issue. Chantellamus on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-261991 Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:51:39 +0000 Chantellamus 261991@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ me and the FMIL have had our ups and downs over the years over some family issues but all in all were pretty close. I love my FFIL he is amazing! I love him to death! ilovenycmissie on "A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-shout-out-to-excellent-future-in-laws#post-261969 Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:39:33 +0000 ilovenycmissie 261969@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I really love my fiance's family.. I was so scared because they are british I was expecting Queen Elizabeth like mannerisms   they are so nice to me..my mom said give it more time lol