Weddingbee Boards Topic: An ode to the passive aggressive comment

Weddingbee Boards Topic: An ode to the passive aggressive comment http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: An ode to the passive aggressive comment en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 16:07:40 +0000 jayce on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1529330 Wed, 15 Dec 2010 16:22:42 +0000 jayce 1529330@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ How about passive aggressive laughing? Coming from a guy? A guy I know, "J", was complaining about his brother getting engaged after only six months of dating a woman, and setting their date before J could set his. J was upset because his own engagement has been dragging on for years, and I guess it pissed him off that he got engaged first but others were getting down the aisle before him. I've never thought of marriage as a race, but trying to be supportive, I said, "Yeah, six months is a pretty short time." He scoffed at me and said, "Say that again?" Thinking he didn't hear me, I repeated myself. J started laughing at me. He said, "You're one to talk." It didn't take much prompting for him to transition from the passive aggressive to the agressive-agressive. He told me that since I'd only been living with my fiance for 8 months, I shouldn't talk. Serves me right for trying to show my support by agreeing with him! And I guess dating for 3.5 years before moving in together doesn't count for anything, but what do I know right? Because apparently J knows my relationship better than I do! Well, I'm happily married now, so sorry J, guess I won your little race! quidditchqueen on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1529268 Wed, 15 Dec 2010 16:05:16 +0000 quidditchqueen 1529268@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <a href="#post-1526211">@Mochacoca:</a> Oh, no! I forgot about all of these that I got when we first got engaged. "Why? Are you pregnant?" Hmm, that must be it, that is surely the only reason to get married! LOL Mochacoca on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1526211 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 20:37:37 +0000 Mochacoca 1526211@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ When my uncle got my STD in the mail he called to ask if I was getting married because I am pregnant. Mind you I sent the STDs in August 2010 my wedding is in April 2011. quidditchqueen on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1525948 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 19:09:54 +0000 quidditchqueen 1525948@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ When we told my FI's father & stepmother we had set a date, all his stepmother had to say was "How much is your wedding going to cost?" FI's dad then said to him, "Last chance to get out now while you still can" (or something along those lines.) WTF people? Also, this isn't wedding related, but after I graduated from university, (Summa cum Laude no less) FI's stepmom just said ,"Oh, are you going to get a job now?" No congratulations, no nothing. Needless to say, they aren't invited to our wedding - Partially because of this, and because of other reasons as well. deliciousappleblue on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1525867 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 18:41:46 +0000 deliciousappleblue 1525867@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Lol, this thread is amazing!  I'm almost jealous that I haven't noticed any of these types of comments happening around me! My mother is the queen of passive-aggressive, but I have avoided dealing with that by not speaking to her since shortly after my engagement.  :D  I will see her this weekend for a family christmas dinner that I couldn't get out of, though, so I guess we'll see what she's got for me? neohippie88 on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1525784 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 18:18:59 +0000 neohippie88 1525784@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I thought of more...lol When we told my FMIL about our wedding details, she said "Oh. Not in church. Well I figured that's what you wanted but I NEVER thought (FI) would allow it. Is it even legal if it's not in a church?" This comment was absurd because while FI and I went to church together when we first started dating, it was only to please parents (we were in h.s.) Since graduation, we haven't been in 5 years so idk why he would "never allow it" She just still has the impression that her baby boy is the perfect church-going angel of her dreams lol. When we told my mom about doing a 60's theme with Beatles music, she said "well I guess it's a good thing you aren't getting married in a church. they'd never allow that kind of music." An friend of mine who got married this summer came up to me with this comment, a few weeks after her wedding: "Oh just wait. You and (FI) will be divorced before the end of the honeymoon. (DH) and I had already called our lawyers on the 3rd night. We worked it out though. But I can't WAIT to see how long you and (FI)'s marriage lasts!" To put it in perspective, FI and I have been together for 6 years, engaged for 2. She and her husband dated 6 weeks and were hitched. I am not saying that *just* because we've been together awhile it guarantees success, but at least we know each other on a deep level. I'm not going to be on my honeymoon cruise and realize my husband is addicted to gambling and won't come out of the casino to spend 1 minute with me. That's what happened to her and now, 6 months after the wedding they are bankrupt. I feel somewhat bad for her, but then again, she should have given it time and not tried to curse my marriage either.  melissajoy on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1525511 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 16:59:58 +0000 melissajoy 1525511@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Stupid B---ch: "Um, I saw you registered for X-item at Y-store." Me: "Well, that registry isn't on our wedding website, you must have googled my name to find it.  I'm not telling people about that one if they ask for registries.  I don't know how to delete it."   Stupid B--ch: "Oh, good.  Because you're not getting anything like that from us."   The gifts in question were in the $100 range.  That a-hole and her boyfriend came to our wedding and got us a $25 gift for the pair of them.   MUI831 on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1525374 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 16:17:23 +0000 MUI831 1525374@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ One of my best friends from college is half Vietnamese.  So for her wedding, she was going to wear a traditional Vietnamese wedding dress for part of her reception.  The day before the wedding, I was with her and her mother getting her final fitting.  I said to her mom something about how great it is that they are able to incorporate all these great traditions and that I wish I had something like this.  She turned to me and said "well you are caucasian."  I had no words. linguo42 on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1525296 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 15:52:14 +0000 linguo42 1525296@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Before I had a ring on my finger, I moved to the UK for a year to go to grad school. FI remained in Canada, but he and I flew back and forth to visit each other when we had vacation time. When I was home for the Christmas holidays, Mom and I were chatting in the kitchen when she comes out with, Mom: "So, have you...met anyone in England?" Me: "Mom, you realize R and I are still together, right? Just because I moved away for a year doesn't mean we broke up. He just visited me in November. And his parents have invited me over for Christmas Eve. I could have sworn I told you all this before." Mom: "Oh. I just figured you'd fall for some guy with an accent over there." Thanks for that show of confidence in our relationship, Mom. Really. </sarcasm> ellabee on "An ode to the passive aggressive comment" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/an-ode-to-the-passive-aggressive-comment/page/6#post-1524936 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 14:14:12 +0000 ellabee 1524936@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ since we did the legal marriage already but the ceremony is in 8 months i've gotten 100s (ok maybe 10s) of, "when are you due?" and "that's so exciting, you're having a baby!" um, no, and i just lost a bunch of weight, so it's extra excruciating to hear. sigh. i've even gotten "so how are you going to fit into that dress that you bought" (with the assumption of pregnancy so deep that they don't even realize it!)   LOL it's funny now, but then--ouch!