http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Are you friends with all of your fiance's friends? en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:57:11 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1203110 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 21:41:31 +0000 Prettyinpink89 1203110@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hmmm, most of my FI friends are pretty kind :). Although one girl is racist, and one of his friends-sisters'-husband is a racist so I try to avoid those two..... (my FI does too for the most part &gt;.&lt;).</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1201964 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 12:51:16 +0000 malkamaniac 1201964@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I personally don't like most of her friends.&nbsp; All catty and highschool like.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1201954 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 12:48:15 +0000 TaraS 1201954@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>All but 1 that I've met or heard about.&nbsp; FI has alot of old military&nbsp;buddies that he only talks to once in a great while.&nbsp; For the most part any friends that he hangs out with alot I've met and we all get along.</p> <p>There is this one girl though...I wish she'd drop off the face of the earth actually.&nbsp; She is an old friend from highschool who reconnected with FI 2 1/2 years ago&nbsp;through FB, she latched onto the fact that he was going through a divorce and although he swears he only looked at her as a friend it turns out she did not.&nbsp; WOW amazing right??&nbsp; Guys can be so blind sometimes.&nbsp;</p> <p>I had this whole reply typed out and when I read it back it sounded like I'm hi-jacking the post.&nbsp; Funny though, I was coming here to ask a similar question..</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1201702 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:41:27 +0000 trishisadish 1201702@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Nope. We both have old friends that arent really in our lives now. And he has one friend that I can not stand. However that friend did all kinds of mean things in an attempt to make me and the bf break up... and bf is no longer friends wth him.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1201568 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 10:58:35 +0000 Ms. Purple 1201568@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I was actually friends with my husbands friends before we started dating.&nbsp; that is actually how i met him!&nbsp;</p> <p>i do talk to some of the guys girlfriends but there's definitely some girls that i just have more in common with than others.&nbsp; as for all the guys, i talk to them and we go out for drinks with hubby.</p> <p>my husband doesn't necessarily get along with my friends.&nbsp; he finds them rather drab but he'll come out to outings with me and he'll make an effort to be cordial/sociable and really thats all i can ask for!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1180943 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 13:59:20 +0000 Ryna 1180943@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I get along great with my FI's friends.&nbsp; I've even started getting my own "invites" to their parties and stuff!&nbsp; Several I wouldn't mind hanging out with if I lived closer to them (not just his female friends, either!&nbsp; In fact, I have a shopping trip to work out with one or two of his female friends...)&nbsp;</p> <p>However,&nbsp;have been&nbsp;one or two that I was not crazy about and usually, my reasons turn out dead-on.&nbsp;&nbsp;They are no longer friends, either!&nbsp;and not because of me. :)</p> <p>I've been invited to hang out with several of his friends without&nbsp;him and, hopefully, will get to&nbsp;do it more often (kinda hard to do with two young&nbsp;kids around, lol).</p> <p>My advice for those who aren't the&nbsp;best of friends with your FI's friends is to keep it pleasant and, like others mentioned, group&nbsp;oriented.&nbsp; You aren't marrying his friends and he's not marrying yours.&nbsp;</p> <p>Also, don't forget to talk to him about how you feel about&nbsp;his friends.&nbsp; I've done that several times with his.&nbsp; When that happens, he tries to allay my&nbsp;fears/concerns,&nbsp;explains them more, and then doesn't force me to&nbsp;be around them.&nbsp; (ok, so I HAVE&nbsp;gotten peeved about one or two of his high school classmates, but only because of the situation... and&nbsp;we worked it out.)</p> <p>The most important thing is to talk it out and respecting each other's feelings.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1180893 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 13:42:56 +0000 baldor1 1180893@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm okay with most of my FI's friends. They are all nice people and are nice to me, but I have nothing in common with them. I would never come across his friends in my regular life because we lead very different lifestyles.&nbsp;Just like the others have posted, I'm not sure why the FI has remained friends with them, but I guess it's hard to break a bond built from many years of experiences together. &nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1180862 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 13:33:09 +0000 vistagirl 1180862@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>we have been together for so long most of our friends are "our" freiends since we have known them all since forever! I will say though that my best friend was <em>my</em> friend up until recently- she is in a new relationship and the 4 of us just sort of click together. I would consider them both "our" friends now, but it took years to make the two of them click.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1180857 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 13:31:06 +0000 JenniMichele 1180857@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I am friends with most of FH friend's in the sense that I like hanging out with them (for the most part) and they're fun/ nice/ etc, but would I ever choose to hang out with them if FH wasn't around/ didn't invite them to our house? No.</p> <p>There is this couple that comes over to our house a lot, and I like them, but I feel like whenever they come over, they want to be entertained. And sometimes, I don't feel like entertaining them, so I hide out in our bedroom. But then I feel bad because they know I'm there so I feel like I have to go out and say hi. So sometimes I get annoyed with FH for inviting them over because I just don't want to deal. It sounds stupid but sometimes I just want to be left alone. It's like, you're adults-- entertain yourselves!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/are-you-friends-with-all-of-your-fiances-friends#post-1180844 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 13:24:46 +0000 txsupergirl 1180844@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm fine with most of FI's friends as we have mutual friends (we went to college together), except for one girl. She posted congratulations notes on my facebook wall and in public she were very nice to me and even offer her help with the wedding prep. But when it all comes down to it, she only responds to my FI's emails/ calls/ messages, and completely ignores my emails/calls/messages.&nbsp;</p> <p>WTF! I hate her and now she's already been included in the wedding now I have to see her face! GRRR should i just bite this one?</p> <p>Sorry to rant but my wedding is in 5 days and I'm not sure why she turned into a complete b1tch on the few last days. I could've asked one my girls instead of her! GAH.</p>