http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Back from vacation, back to being not engaged.... en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 11:55:53 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-456923 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 19:58:44 +0000 Jaxx317 456923@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>bella - your proposal story is amazing! i love it!</p> <p>thanks for the encouragement. there are good days and bad. and at the end of the day, i know where i am at with him, but i get so frustrated sometimes because i think we're not i thought or had hoped we'd be by this point in our relationship. he knows that i do not want to be his girlfriend forever. he knows he wants to marry me and i would vernture to guess he has known it as long as i have known i wanted to marry him. i just want to get on with it already!! :) i also think i tend to lose perspective and i get wrapped up in my own needs, etc., because my life is so stressful. it's one of those times in my life where everything feels uncertain - even though i have a pretty stable job right now, my current project will be finished in may or june of next year and my next one may not be starting up until the fall so i have no idea if there will be anything for me to do in the interim; i am not sure about finishing my masters degree because i work so much that i have no time to finish my one remaining requirement; we've moved a lot recently and that has caused a lot of financial stress on me and on top of that, the whole when are we getting married stress! ahhhh! even this last vacation wasn't terribly relaxing. deep down, though, i know what everyone has told me is true and that he will propose in his own time, in his own way - i just want it to happen so i can move on with that part of my life!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-452145 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:40:45 +0000 Bella Luna 452145@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Jaxx317 -</p> <p>I am so sorry, that must be disheartening. I certainly know where you are in feeling that way, I was in the same position you are a year ago (he proposed last Christmas Eve). I thought Mr. Luna wouldn't know romance if it was dropped on his doorstep. I will say though, men have a tendency to surprise us and I don't mean necessarily by the proposal in general -&nbsp;I mean in their ability to make it beautiful, original and romantic, in their own time and way. I, personally, was proposed to by way of a deep freezer. Go figure (it was SOOO him though to do it this way which was adorable). We were together almost 7 years before he proposed and I thought for sure it would never happen. Hang in there - he may have something in the works you just don't know. I would say though that you should stress to him that it is important to you to be married to him and then leave it be&nbsp;(my FI kept saying it wasn't 'important' to him to have a piece of paper telling other people he loves me because he knows it and I know it and that's what's important to him -&nbsp;but he knows it's important to me and he wants me to be happy).</p> <p>Bon Chance, it will come :)</p> <p>Bella</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-451955 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 05:25:53 +0000 crebre80 451955@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>hiya jaxx!! i definitely don't think that you have pressured him in any way, i think you're the farthest from that, after all he asked you for your ring size and what you'd like. btw that sounds a LOT like what the websites tell him to do. it's especially cute that he said you wear no rings for me to get your input. I definitely think it will happen for you really soon, and hey engagement blitz ends in february, not december!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-451894 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 03:28:35 +0000 zippylef 451894@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Ok... I understand your frustration, but you need to chill a bit. If you pressure him into proposing, its not going to be a sincere proposal like i'm sure he wants to give you. He may even come to resent you for it and you do not want that to taint the first years of your marriage.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-451890 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:15:06 +0000 simpleandchic 451890@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>if it makes you feel any better my SO waited 8.5 years to propose. I thought it would never happen. i was getting so angry it seemed everyone else was getting married bar me. I remember saying that if I heard about another friend getting married who had been with there partner for less than 2 years i was going to scream, i thought t would end up ruining it by demanding that he did it. I decided to forget about it and consentrate on other things. And thats when it happened, it took me completely by surprise, He planned a weekened away at a lovely resort by the sea and proposed on bended knee on a cliff over looking the ocean. I was speachless. Everyone was like how on earth did u not see that coming? and I was like "well its not the first time we've spent a weekened away in the past 8.5 years!" lol</p> <p>Dont worry, forget about it, enjoy life and when u least expect it it will happen.</p> <p>Just dont push it or u will taint it.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-451872 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:32:57 +0000 jslsbride62610 451872@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>oh and hey, if nothing happens by when you need it to.&nbsp; honestly.&nbsp; id sit him down and be say the same thing that crebre80 said!&nbsp; he needs to know.&nbsp; anyway, feel better, and good luck.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-451870 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:29:20 +0000 jslsbride62610 451870@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>just wanted to offer support and say, hang in there!&nbsp; i don't really have any advice since most would say i got engaged too young, too soon.&nbsp; [and they're probably right, but we lucked out and things have developed in our favor.&nbsp; did i mention a lot of that was luck?&nbsp; lol.]</p> <p>but many times, i wish we had been the couple to wait five, ten years!&nbsp; although im happy with the way things turned out, i just think its so amazing and sweet to see couples who have been together for so long tie the knot.&nbsp; it is really beautiful.&nbsp; and great to experience each moment in its own..dating, waiting, engagement, marriage, etc, and all those in between.&nbsp; so when i see some friends/family who waited a long time to get married, it has this complete feeling to it, and it just makes everyone around them so touched and happy!&nbsp; am i making any sense?&nbsp; its hard to describe, but i PROMISE, i am telling the truth, and not just saying this to make you feel better!&nbsp; BUT i hope that by now you are feeling better and more relaxed!&nbsp; and i hope all works out for the best for you! :)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-450627 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 11:40:47 +0000 Jaxx317 450627@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>thnks sheelz!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-448032 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 12:18:32 +0000 Sheelz 448032@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Check out uniondiamond.com.&nbsp; They have great prices on certified diamonds!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/back-from-vacation-back-to-being-not-engaged#post-445689 Tue, 03 Nov 2009 13:23:31 +0000 Jaxx317 445689@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>corgi - i guess not. either that or they just assume that the only reason young couples go to mexico (w/out kids) is because they just got married! god forbid you travel with someone of the opposite sex without any commitments!</p> <p>but the big congrats goes to you! you must be thrilled that your waiting game is over!</p> <p>i'm hoping my turn will be during the engagement blitz season, but i am doubtful it will happen by the end of the year. it will depend on how soon he feels he's saved enough. hopefully it will be sooner rather than later when he sees that what i want doesn't cost a lot (just about everything i've seen that i like is really under $2K)! my new goal is by Valentine's Day next year.</p>