http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: BF is not going to do an official 'proposal' en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:43:41 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-258211 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:20:53 +0000 Miss Hot Sauce 258211@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>LOL Bellenga's story sounds like mine.</p> <p>&nbsp;I don't think it is weird not to have the official proposal if that is what you are comfortable with too. If it were important to you then I would let him know that. How lucky for you to be able to pick out your ring and everything!</p> <p>My fiance, bless his heart, did not know what to do. So what did he do? He got two other couples together at our house and they knew what was going to happen so one of the guys kept announcing he had to go&nbsp;SOON (hint hint) because he had to work. It was on Labor day, it was HOT to say the least....there were really bad pictures (because our guests KNEW what was going down!)&nbsp;of me in shorts with my hair in a ponytail and red face from the heat. It was a blurr because he did it in front of our friends and all the kids and everything. I didn't expect an audience. This, after just the night before we were discussing engagement and proposals (yeah, I knew something was up) and I had said I didn't want it in front of a group of people. I think he wanted to back out of doing it at our little get together but since everyone was there he felt like he had to since that was the reason for them being there. LOL</p> <p>Even though&nbsp;I could not believe he did that, I don't regret the actual proposal. The way he asked was just a technicality. What matters is that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I feel the exact same. :) As long as you know that, then that's all you need. &nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-258090 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:26:52 +0000 budgetbeautiful 258090@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>While he did get on one knee, I knew he was coming with the ring in hand, because I was with him when he bought the ring, on our six month anniversary. We were officially engaged five days later when my ring arrived. The proposal was private, and wonderful. We went out to dinner afterwards to celebrate, and it was nice to get a bit of attention, but I wouldn't have wanted that DURING the proposal!! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-257374 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 07:52:58 +0000 hunterstorme 257374@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>No proposal, no engagement ring here. We have a wonderful marriage and he supports me 100% in what I want to do - there is so much love that I am on cloud 9 and couldn't ask for more.&nbsp;</p> <p>Very valuable lesson - it taught me what is really important and what isn't... </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-257369 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 07:46:03 +0000 ejs4y8 257369@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My hubs got down on his knee for one second and got up b/c he was so uncomfortable and that was perfectly fine. I would have been upset if he just handed it to me though. It was the sweet way he told me he loved me and wanted me forever and his following little 30 second long speech that meant the most. While he's always frank and candid with me about how he feels about me, something was just amazing about him opening the box and officially asking me to spend the rest of his life with him. He even forgot to ask me to marry him, he just kinda opened the box. Makes for a good story now. I think an over the top engagement would have been VERY uncharacteristic of him. But it's whatever works for you! You already know how he feels about you. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-257329 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:02:10 +0000 Randirae 257329@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My BF was trying to come up with something memorable but for whatever reason, it didn't turn out fancy, but was quite romantic for us! We had dinner, walked the dogs, then he worked up to it by asking if I liked his family and if I would like to be a part of his family forever. Then he proposed with the ring that his grandmother wore!</p> <p>So in a nutshell, whatever makes you two happy! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-253670 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:07:10 +0000 grumpybear722 253670@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I *would* find it strange for ME. I've always thought I'd have a perfect proposal and I did. It wasn't anything out there, he didn't drop to one knee but it was amazing and so him &amp; us. (FI proposed on the beach at sunset while on vacation.) I don't know how you get engaged without a proposal... LOL I think any proposal (all a proposal is is asking for your SO to marry you) is romantic! :) Maybe I'm weird </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-253660 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:01:49 +0000 amysue 253660@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'll admit it, I had a private, romantic proposal on the beach, and I loved it. But I've talked to lots of people who didn't go that route, and was surprised to find out my parents were among them! They told me that &quot;one day they just decided they should get married, and they went out and bought a ring.&quot; Voila. Married for 29 years. So everybody's different. :) </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-253654 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:57:05 +0000 bellenga 253654@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm with 2dbride on this one.</p> <p>My xh and I had the most AWFUL proposal.&nbsp; I'd been on call the night before and exhausted from emergency patients...drove back to his condo where I began IMMEDIATELY cooking for 15 relatives on thanksgiving..and having all of our families together FOR THE FIRST TIME on thanksgiving later that morning/day.</p> <p>I almost fell asleep while making my&nbsp;(yea it is) yummy homemade stuffing and stirring gravy on&nbsp; the stove about 11 am the next day.&nbsp;&nbsp;He waits and asked me IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY and makes this huge announcement.&nbsp; I was so sleepy I said to him &quot;wha huh????&nbsp; can you repeat that again?&quot;&nbsp; I barely remember getting engaged, were it not for the&nbsp;bling.&nbsp; I went to zzz after we had&nbsp;lunch. </p> <p>What was irking to me about that day was when he asked me ABOUT FOUR OR FIVE OF THE RELATIVES almost YELLED out...YES!!!&nbsp; They answered FOR ME.<img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_eek.gif" /></p> <p>Um.&nbsp; NOT romantic at all.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-253128 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 09:48:43 +0000 thisismeAXiD 253128@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>i definitely don't think a formal proposal is necessary...this is our:</p> <p>we were at a bar (and very drunk by this time) with one of his fraternity brothers and two of my sorority sisters (we're all SUPER close) and one of my sisters (my roommate at the time) goes to me you too should just get married...so i go Mr. thisisme will you marry me? he's like no drunken proposals...so i asked him about 5 more times and then he finally said yes!</p> <p>according to our friends it was really cute how addamant i was about him saying yes to me asking him to marry me...of course in the morning we talked about it and decided that we really should get married. that was feb. 8, 2008 (our 9 month anniversary) and now it's july 2, 2009 and we still haven't set a date...but i have him convinced we need to and he was happily excited about doing so...but we haven't yet! ha! </p> <p>Ok, i'm going to add a little bit more to my post because it doesn't sound romantic, at all, which for all intense/purposes it's not...but i will add this: my FH and i are not drunks...we like to go out and have a few beers with our friends...8 feb 2008 was a perfect day...it was our 9 month anniversary, we were with 3 of our closest friends, at one of our fav. bars and having our fav drinks (beer, we are from wisconsin after all)...so for me, it was perfect, especially since that night while walking back to my place, it started to snow!! it was AWESOME!! :-D </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-253007 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 05:46:12 +0000 Stormy 253007@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>The impression that I have been given is that engagement has already been decided upon by most couples before the ring is even bought. Some might follow this up with all the bells and whistles of a fancy proposal but I think it really depends on the couple and neither way is more special than the other. </p>