http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: BF is not going to do an official 'proposal' en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 15:35:55 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-1734551 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 16:10:17 +0000 Soladylike 1734551@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-249163">@Miss Summertime:</a>I don't think its weird but I would want some sort of&nbsp;effort. I enjoy being treated like a lady. Don't get me wrong my SO is not Mr. Romance but he knows he has to do something and try. I am the type of person that appreciates the effort and the desire to make me happy.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-1734382 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 15:39:34 +0000 Anxiouspeanut 1734382@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I dont have a choice, he wants to do the whole proposal surprise for me. I dont expect it at all but that is the type of guy he is.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-1733667 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 13:34:46 +0000 sleepingbeauty88 1733667@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>(Preface - I didn't read all previous posts)</p> <p>I don't think this is strange at all. I, like you, can't picture my SO planning anything extravagant, or anything at all for that matter, and I'm perfectly fine with that. To me it's a joint decision to get married, and I don't really hold too much in the "surprise" of it all. Besides, if he wanted to surprise me, he would've had to ask a minimum of 3 years ago. It's just not very realistic for us anymore.</p> <p>Pre-congratulations and happy shopping!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-1727809 Sun, 06 Feb 2011 04:00:47 +0000 Impatiently waiting 1727809@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-249163">@Miss Summertime:</a>&nbsp;i'm jealous!!! i wish my bf would just buy it and give it to me.. we both know we want to marry each other... there's no surprise any way! urgh!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-258211 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 12:20:53 +0000 Miss Hot Sauce 258211@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>LOL Bellenga's story sounds like mine.</p> <p>&nbsp;I don't think it is weird not to have the official proposal if that is what you are comfortable with too. If it were important to you then I would let him know that. How lucky for you to be able to pick out your ring and everything!</p> <p>My fiance, bless his heart, did not know what to do. So what did he do? He got two other couples together at our house and they knew what was going to happen so one of the guys kept announcing he had to go&nbsp;SOON (hint hint) because he had to work. It was on Labor day, it was HOT to say the least....there were really bad pictures (because our guests KNEW what was going down!)&nbsp;of me in shorts with my hair in a ponytail and red face from the heat. It was a blurr because he did it in front of our friends and all the kids and everything. I didn't expect an audience. This, after just the night before we were discussing engagement and proposals (yeah, I knew something was up) and I had said I didn't want it in front of a group of people. I think he wanted to back out of doing it at our little get together but since everyone was there he felt like he had to since that was the reason for them being there. LOL</p> <p>Even though&nbsp;I could not believe he did that, I don't regret the actual proposal. The way he asked was just a technicality. What matters is that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I feel the exact same. :) As long as you know that, then that's all you need. &nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-258090 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 11:26:52 +0000 budgetbeautiful 258090@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>While he did get on one knee, I knew he was coming with the ring in hand, because I was with him when he bought the ring, on our six month anniversary. We were officially engaged five days later when my ring arrived. The proposal was private, and wonderful. We went out to dinner afterwards to celebrate, and it was nice to get a bit of attention, but I wouldn't have wanted that DURING the proposal!! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-257374 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:52:58 +0000 hunterstorme 257374@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>No proposal, no engagement ring here. We have a wonderful marriage and he supports me 100% in what I want to do - there is so much love that I am on cloud 9 and couldn't ask for more.&nbsp;</p> <p>Very valuable lesson - it taught me what is really important and what isn't... </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-257369 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:46:03 +0000 ejs4y8 257369@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My hubs got down on his knee for one second and got up b/c he was so uncomfortable and that was perfectly fine. I would have been upset if he just handed it to me though. It was the sweet way he told me he loved me and wanted me forever and his following little 30 second long speech that meant the most. While he's always frank and candid with me about how he feels about me, something was just amazing about him opening the box and officially asking me to spend the rest of his life with him. He even forgot to ask me to marry him, he just kinda opened the box. Makes for a good story now. I think an over the top engagement would have been VERY uncharacteristic of him. But it's whatever works for you! You already know how he feels about you. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-257329 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 01:02:10 +0000 Randirae 257329@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My BF was trying to come up with something memorable but for whatever reason, it didn't turn out fancy, but was quite romantic for us! We had dinner, walked the dogs, then he worked up to it by asking if I liked his family and if I would like to be a part of his family forever. Then he proposed with the ring that his grandmother wore!</p> <p>So in a nutshell, whatever makes you two happy! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bf-is-not-going-to-do-an-official-proposal#post-253670 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 12:07:10 +0000 grumpybear722 253670@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I *would* find it strange for ME. I've always thought I'd have a perfect proposal and I did. It wasn't anything out there, he didn't drop to one knee but it was amazing and so him &amp; us. (FI proposed on the beach at sunset while on vacation.) I don't know how you get engaged without a proposal... LOL I think any proposal (all a proposal is is asking for your SO to marry you) is romantic! :) Maybe I'm weird </p>