http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: DESPAIR: cancel wedding????? en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 09:53:12 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-125516 Thu, 12 Feb 2009 05:59:53 +0000 Sakoro 125516@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Why not plan a $1000 wedding from the money your grandmother is giving you? You could have your pastor/ officiant meet you in a park, marry you in front of your ~15 closest friends/family and family and then have dinner in the private room of a restaurant. I know you want the traditional shebang, but the money issues might stress you and your finance out so much that you won't even enjoy it. </p> <p>And absolutely put your foot down about your mother trying to invite the entire church. No way you should be going into debt to finance her over-the-top dream.</p> <p>As for the second half of your question, we are planning a $5K wedding and paying for it from our savings. We are a little older than you and have been working for a while. We are also completely debt-phobic. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-125409 Wed, 11 Feb 2009 22:13:18 +0000 caliocteach 125409@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="/profile/mrss2be">mrs.S2be</a>&nbsp;-- GetMarried4less <a href="http://4thelackofmoney.blogspot.com/">has her own blog</a>, and yes, she did get married in November!&nbsp; You can visit her blog to read all about it! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-124067 Tue, 10 Feb 2009 21:08:09 +0000 onlyonelove54 124067@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>we saved for our wedding for 2 very long years.&nbsp; first we figure out how much everything would be and we moved on from there.&nbsp; after we new the info we got a wedding planner and let her work her magic.&nbsp; well i hopw that everythin works out for you good luck </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-124046 Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:50:13 +0000 mrs.S2be 124046@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I was just reading this blog and noticed how many months ago the posts were written. Just curious have you gotten married yet? Hope all is well and you have/are figuring something out. If you haven't gotten married maybe you can have your wedding and reception at the church. Some churches have rec rooms you may rent. And possible decor you can borrow!&nbsp; </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-79824 Mon, 25 Aug 2008 06:13:20 +0000 kenziegirl 79824@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>It's funny, many of my friends who had big, extravagant weddings say that their only regret is that they didn't do something more intimate. </p> <p>My friends who had something small say that they wouldn't change a thing. </p> <p>that speaks volumes to me. We've been planning an inexpensive wedding for 160 guests, but now we're discussing cutting that to one with about 40 guests. </p> <p>A wedding is supposed to be about love, not about inviting every darned person you know to show them what an extravagant party you can throw.</p> <p>I say turn that $1,000 from your grandmother into a fun picnic with the people you care about the most. Don't worry about perfection, just remember that you're celebrating your love with your soon-to-be-husband and let the one-uppance go!</p> <p>&nbsp;Good luck hon!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-27566 Fri, 22 Feb 2008 06:50:23 +0000 cinderellasmom 27566@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>In all my years I have never been to a bad wedding!! Its the people who you choose to share your day with that make the event!&nbsp; Add candle light and its amazing what can happen!</p> <p>&nbsp;Sit down and come up with a new budget. You say you have $1000 from grandma-- where else can you get money? In laws? Parents? Aunts and uncles-- Heck if both you and the Mr both could save $125 a month that would be $2000 more.&nbsp; More than enough to get married with!</p> <p>Go to your local fire hall, community center, VFW-- Forget a sit down dinner-- Appetizers and wine can be elegant!&nbsp; Skip the DJ and use an ipod!&nbsp; What do you need flowers for??? A single rose looks elegant in any brides hands! </p> <p>You can do this and it will be memorable!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-27515 Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:24:37 +0000 bnlearle 27515@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>You don't need money to have a beautiful wedding :) You need two couples who are thrilled about getting married to each other and nothing more! Here is a great example... </p> <p><a href="http://www.bobbyearle.com/christinaandbrady" rel="nofollow">http://www.bobbyearle.com/christinaandbrady</a> </p> <p>This wedding had almost ZERO budget. I don't think it ended up anywhere near $2K even. But the two of them were so in love that it just didn't matter! They had a great time :) &nbsp; Also, getting married outside in a park (or at the beach, if you're near a coast) is extremely affordable and classy. Just pay like $200 for the fee (that's how much our wedding was on a cliff at the beach in San Diego), pay a little extra for white wooden chairs (no more than a couple hundred bucks), and get a good photogragrapher and BAM! You'll have a simple, classic wedding and memories to boot!&nbsp; Hope that helps :)&nbsp; </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-27387 Thu, 21 Feb 2008 15:43:36 +0000 ashleighsteib 27387@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Not sure if this is an option, but what about getting married on the original date, and then start planning your reception for a year later?&nbsp; That's what we're doing, and it's given us a year to save money which has helped tremendously, plus it takes a bit of the edge off as far as planning is concerned.&nbsp; That way in the time being, you can get a better job, you two will be married so you can live together, and then you can actually celebrate the ceremony the way you had originally intended... and at the very least, you might even be able to do a vow renewal for all of the people at the reception who weren't invited to the actual ceremony?&nbsp; Just a thought.&nbsp; Best wishes to you 2... I know how frustrating this all can be... but remember, if you go into debt over the wedding, that will only add to frustration in the long run... not a good start to a marriage that could have otherwise been happily ever after. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-26878 Wed, 20 Feb 2008 12:47:02 +0000 Anonymous 26878@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about your upset.</p> <p>If I was in your position I would not get married now and wait until you can save up enough money. My dad always taught me that if something has to go on credit, you can't afford it. You don't want to start a marriage in debt and I'm sure if you wait a little longer it won't be too upsetting and you'll be able to have the wedding that you want. In the meantime brain-storm ways to save money and be willing to settle for second best on some items if it means you can have other things you really want.</p> <p>Best of luck!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/despair-cancel-wedding/page/2#post-26869 Wed, 20 Feb 2008 12:18:54 +0000 angelgee 26869@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I know what you're going through. We paid for our wedding all by ourselves. We got engaged 14 months before our wedding, but didn't start planning until Feb. I seriously thought we weren't going to make it with such little $$. I spent endless days &amp; nights&nbsp;researching,&nbsp;which I&nbsp;literally lost sleep over, and then we set a budget that we knew we couldn't go over. What we did was use our tax returns and $$ gifts from my bridal shower towards the wedding.&nbsp;With this $$&nbsp;we made deposits and bought little by little things here and there for the wedding. I took up a few DIY projects. We booked a couple who had just started their photography business and they offered us&nbsp;a very low package. They took great pictures btw! Our flowers were DIY with some help. We paid a lady who arranges flowers on the side for dirt cheap. We bought the flowers and she put them together. At the end we put 1/2 of what we got in $$ as wedding gifts towards the reception. We were very fortunate that our venue wasn't&nbsp;planning to deposit our payments until the end of the month, so we had 2 wks to make our final deposits. </p> <p>There are ways to have a simple but elegant wedding on a tight budget, we did and we couldn't be more happier.&nbsp;Here are a few advises for you to consider.</p> <p>Do a lot of researching especially through wedding mags on budget weddings.</p> <p>Take up some DIY projects and ask for some help from a few family members.&nbsp;I see that&nbsp;a vendor offered you free invitations, go for it!&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> <p>Look for new and upcoming photographers. They usually have really good packages for way under 1K. We found ours through The Knot. There's are a lot of knotties who are very helpful with very good info.</p> <p>Instead of flowers look into tall glass vases with submerge orchids and floating candles. This is in and it really looks elegant.</p> <p>Look into trunk sales for your dress. There's a lot of pretty dresses for a lot less during these kinds of sales. </p> <p>Be positive! Take all these advises from brides and brides-to-be and you'll see you will be getting married Nov. 1st. Good luck!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp;</p>