http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Does your SO or Hubby have a rainbow & fuzzy bunnies mentality? en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:20:42 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-696527 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 11:51:10 +0000 okqueenbee 696527@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@ twalila - EXACTLY. I'm the same way as you when it comes to trusting people. It's a horrible way to be, but it's kind of like "guilty until proven innocent". Some people start out giving people 100% of their trust, and then are completely surprised when they get crapped on. I start out giving (most) people like, 0%, and they work their way up from there LOL. I like being pleasantly surprised.&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-696381 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 11:15:14 +0000 twalila 696381@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Poor&nbsp;FI always thinks the best of people and it BREAKS MY HEART to watch him constantly disappointed.&nbsp; I on the other hand am a total pessemist/realist and expect the worst from people.&nbsp; If things turn out well, then great - I'm pleasantly surprised.&nbsp; I'm a firm believer that people will do and take whatever they can get away with and will put in as little work and effort as they can get by with.&nbsp; FI says I'm a Debbie Downer.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-696235 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:41:41 +0000 Kittyachi 696235@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>OMG yes and it drives me crazy. Everything is all "It'll be fine" "Don't worry about it" "It will work out" and I'm like ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND!?!?! Don't just make blanket statements about how everything will be fine when you don't know WTF you're talking about or know anything for a fact.</p> <p>I.HATE.THAT.&nbsp;yet in some ways I need it. I just wish he'd shoot a little less sunshine out of his a** sometimes because really, things are not always fine. Don't tell me they are.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-696129 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:11:54 +0000 ejs4y8 696129@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We are the same way. DH has a "Things will work out" mentality and I have a "type A freak out stress out" about stuff.</p> <p>That being said, we're both very realistic. But I will analyze a situation from all ends. I will PLAN stuff to a ridiculous extent and plan out scenarios (If i get into this grad school by X date, if I don't, when we want kids, how it factors in...i swear i am insane) and he's just like, play by ear.</p> <p>Occassionally it'll bug me, but most of the time it just keeps me grounded because I have a tendency to run with it. I have a tendency to get anxious and stress. But i FEEL BETTER once I've analyzed a situation to death. My mind reels otherwise. For me, it's best just to take my time to look at something.For him, he spends like 5 minutes on it and moves on. It's just our opposing personalities and it works out well. I force him to think about stuff and he forces me not to....to an extent =]</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-696116 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:07:02 +0000 okqueenbee 696116@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Just a note, cuz I felt sort of guilty about the title of this thread lol. I LOVE him more than anything. He is a kind and wonderful man and I am glad he has the outlook on life that he does. He is happy and not anxiety-ridden. Things don't haunt him and he knows how to NOT dwell on things. He is fortunate in that way, and I wish I was more like that. I just get frustrated because sometimes his mentality could be miscontstrued (by me, of course) as lack of caring in general. THAT is when I tend to get upset. If I think he's not worrying about me (even if it's over extremely improbable things like me getting abducted or something lol). Just to clarify ;)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-695082 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 00:19:41 +0000 ccranetobe 695082@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>okqueenbee - I think your describing me and my FH down to a tee. Exactly the same!</p> <p>seems to be a running trend here.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-695036 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:23:42 +0000 lns0001 695036@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>OMG! Seriously FI and I are exactly the same. He says I'm a debbie Downer, but who else is gonna come up with plan B, C, &amp; D when plan A falls through. Yes, I admit I overthink EVERTYHING, and have horrible anxiety, but FI is all "it will be okay" "i will all work out" and I reply "theres just as good of a chance that it WONT work out"</p> <p>Seriously the hardest thing to deal with in our relationship. He says I have got to cool it before the wedding because he can't Deal with Crazy Lindsay lol.Thankfully, HE is the only person that can calm me down and we are doing the long distance thing for the last 6 months of our engagement, so far it hasnt been good. But it think I will be all smiles come wedding time.... hopefully!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-694369 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:39:23 +0000 spaganya 694369@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>for me and FH - im the worrier - i stay up all night, its a disease (seriously i have OCD). not as bad as i used to be, but its something that is a huge contrast between the two of us. he is always "eh whatever" when things happen but i just worry until i freak out about it. lol</p> <p>mind you FH is also OCD, but his is less of the obsessive, more of the compulsive (he checks things a million times, has rituals for random stuff, etc) so its a weird paring, but it works.</p> <p>he knows that he can calm me down when i need it, and when we need to get out of the door i can let him know the world wont end if he doesnt check something for the 5th time.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-694299 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:19:21 +0000 azula 694299@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I tend to be a worrier and fiance tends to be a non-worrier most of the time. It's funny because I read him part of this thread and his reaction was a combination of big smiles, a bit of blushing, and then "But why worry? Everything always turns out ok!" :-P</p> <p>Sometimes I find it incredibly frustrating, but I really do appreciate that he's so laid-back because he sort of balances me out. Like, I'll be freaking out over something and he somehow always finds a way to say or do something that calms me down a bit and makes me feel better, even if I'm still worrying a bit about whatever was freaking me out in the first place =)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-so-or-hubby-have-a-rainbow-038-fuzzy-bunnies-mentality#post-694283 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:16:41 +0000 Sarah71710 694283@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Just to play devil's advocate:&nbsp;what if&nbsp;some people don't worry about things because they have a deep-seeded belief that everything will work out just as it should, something that often comes with many life trials and tribulations. What if that is "realist" not fuzzy bunnies and rainbows?</p> <p>&nbsp;</p>