http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Fitting an extra adult male into wedding party? en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:51:59 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-177235 Thu, 16 Apr 2009 12:09:54 +0000 two-zees 177235@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the great suggestions!</p> <p>&nbsp;Not sure yet what we're gonna do.&nbsp; He actually really wants to be involved in the wedding, and I would be fine with having an extra groomsman, but my fiance doesn't want him THAT involved given that they don't know each other very well and likely won't be seeing each other until the day before the wedding.&nbsp; </p> <p>He offered to be a ring bearer - but I just can't wrap my head around that.&nbsp; I think it would draw more attention to him than we want.&nbsp; So we're just trying to find something for him to do to be involved but not too involved.&nbsp; Participate but not be an actual part of the wedding party.&nbsp; Given that we don't know him at all,&nbsp;we're not really&nbsp;comfortable putting him in a speaking or interaction role such as&nbsp;doing a reading or being an usher.</p> <p>Originally the plan was that the groom and groomsmen would enter from the side of the room and wait at the altar.&nbsp; Now I'm&nbsp;leaning towards having&nbsp;the guys walk down the aisle one by one&nbsp;and my fiance being escorted to the altar by his son, who would then be seated at the front next to fiance's mother.</p> <p>I think it's&nbsp;the best&nbsp;solution for us&nbsp;... I just need a title for it in the program.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-173241 Sat, 11 Apr 2009 12:45:16 +0000 ilovenycmissie 173241@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>just have one bridesmaid have two groomsmen, no biggie </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-173238 Sat, 11 Apr 2009 12:37:46 +0000 Krista 173238@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Ask him how he'd like to be involved. Since he doesn't know most of the family, maybe he'd prefer to be a guest. Maybe he'd be comfortable doing a reading. Or maybe he'd like to be in the wedding party. If he wants to be in the wedding party, have him be a groomsman. It's no longer required to have even #s of groomsmen and bridesmaids. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172845 Fri, 10 Apr 2009 15:46:54 +0000 LauraJerry 172845@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>You could make him an usher! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172809 Fri, 10 Apr 2009 14:52:02 +0000 beekeebear 172809@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Have him do a reading.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172217 Thu, 09 Apr 2009 21:11:29 +0000 Thespus 172217@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>what about having him be the MOB escort?&nbsp; because the FOB will be escorting you, so he can escort your mom down the aisle ahead of the bridal party. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172200 Thu, 09 Apr 2009 20:33:39 +0000 ms tofu 172200@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I agree with other commenters - either make him a groomsmen and not worry about having the same number of bridesmaids, or (my fave idea) make him a flower girl/guy... LOVED the flower guy from offbeat bride.. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172168 Thu, 09 Apr 2009 19:45:19 +0000 mandalynn17 172168@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I don't think it is necessary to have both sides even! &nbsp;Make him a groomsman if you want. &nbsp;If you don't feel comfortable doing that, a reading is also a good way to go! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172116 Thu, 09 Apr 2009 18:28:25 +0000 Miss Gem 172116@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>You could have him do a reading.. We had an extra male in our upcoming wedding too &amp; decided to have him read the Irish Wedding Blessing and put him in the same suit as the groomsmen, he's very excited to do it and feels as much a part as anyone else! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fitting-an-extra-adult-male-into-wedding-party#post-172023 Thu, 09 Apr 2009 16:48:52 +0000 MoSnow 172023@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>That's great you guys have such a big family to participate in all of this. The wedding party definitely does not have to match up, so I would either suggest just adding him as a groomsman or having him to a reading or being an usher. If he doesn't want to do anything, just acknowledge him in the program somehow. </p> <p>Good luck! </p>