http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment. en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:44:59 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-256463 Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:20:36 +0000 VDB 256463@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I think you are overlooking this comment for what it is. You guys havnt seen eachother in how long, do you guys call eacother on the phone and gab all the time. Maybe what it is that you guys lost your closeness, but theres no reason to uninclude her in your grouap activites. She said something wrong, forgive her. Look i have had sooo many friends ditch me say awful things about me, hurt my feelings. But you know what i love them why because we share memories. Did this girl have sex with your man, did she slap you in the face, did she run you over with a car. I didnt think so, so give her a chance, dont look for the first thing that bothers you on what she said. Its just not fare. So i say get over it, and live your life without taking things so personal. Trust me my life in insane, they way i get treated on a day in day out basis i should be dead by know. I have not been taking things personal, because thats what kills me the most. GIVE HER A BIG HUG AND TELL HER YOU LOVE HER, NO MATTER WHAT!! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255875 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 22:04:37 +0000 Alejandra Urbano 255875@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>People are always gonna make rude comments!&nbsp; I had a coworker look at my ring and said...&quot;awww...well, you said you really didn't care about the ring anyways, so it's OK!&quot;&nbsp; so so rude!!&nbsp;&nbsp; The truth is..I didn't care and still don' care, I'm perfectly happy with my ring, but most of all with my man....who is wonderful and has the purest heart!!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255568 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 13:25:17 +0000 jennycv 255568@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I know the feeling. I chose my ring which it isnt exactly the &quot;traditional&quot; and went to see if I could have a band made to match my ring. The Sales person had the nerve to be rude about it and say this is not a engagement ring. I just walk out really upset. </p> <p>People sometimes are rude. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255536 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 12:34:05 +0000 sunsetlove 255536@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>((Hugs)) I have an untraditional stone and setting, and get weird looks and snarky comments often (it's to be expected though; if you don't have a diamond the world is coming to an end). My fiance's little brother, in fact, asked me why I was wearing an &quot;I don't need a man, I can do for myself&quot; ring. Quite annoying. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255535 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 12:31:27 +0000 Opus 255535@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Let the ring comment roll of your back. If you love your ring, no one else's opinion matters! Casually mention how excited you are that your bridal party is all family, so she doesn't expect to be asked.</p> <p>I get the ring thing too. I'm in a hands-on field where getting messy is part of the job, plus I'm a klutz, so I wanted a ring that was more flush and didn't have a giant center stone. I love the ring I have! It's pretty and very me. I've gotten plenty of comments about the size, first time my sister saw it she said it was cute, but she'd want a bigger one! I just laugh about it. &nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255515 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 11:39:08 +0000 yellowrose 255515@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, some women can't just be happy for you being engaged to someone you love. If you tell someone you're engaged and one of the first things they ask is to see how big your rock is, they're missing the point. I don't really understand why some girls feel like they have to turn the size of the diamond into a pissing contest and get super catty, but for whatever reason they do. If she asks questions like that again, I'd just tell her that it was a gift. </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-252103 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 11:40:01 +0000 lisalulu 252103@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Get a load of this: I went to a jeweler to shop for a wedding band for my fi. He was telling me about how things have changed over the years with platinum. Years ago, people would come in to have it polished and shined. Now, he offers it when he sees jewelery thats gone dull. The customers are often offended and taken aback saying, &quot;I want it to be dull, that way people know it's platinum!&quot; Can you believe that?</p> <p>I love beautiful things. I have a new fascination with jewelry since my engagement. But, I really don't like the cost consciousness part of carat weight and price tag for this whole wedding racket. I got a pink sapphire and I am so happy. </p> <p>I work with really really wealthy people and I have seen some of the most stunning jewelry ever. But, you get to a certain point and does it really matter?</p> <p>Forgive your friend. She just does not get it. You ever hear, &quot;Those who know better, do better.&quot;? She probably just didn't know better. But my skin would bristle too.That's what her jewelry means to her. For you, it's something deeper.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-250466 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:40:13 +0000 cbgg 250466@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Yikes, that's&nbsp;awkward!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> From the POV of someone who puts her foot in her mouth ALL THE FRIGGIN TIME maybe she just didn't realize that she was being totally uncouth. &nbsp;If you think that's the case maybe you can just cut her a break. &nbsp;Or even let her know that her comment hurt you so that she gets a chance to realize she was being really dumb.&nbsp;About the BM thing - next time she says something I'd just tell her that your only having your sisters in a&nbsp;lighthearted&nbsp;way. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-250462 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:33:17 +0000 MstoMrs 250462@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Thanks bees! I appriecate all the feed back. </p> <p>&nbsp;@Boston@Heart -- This isn't the 1st time that this friend had done some passive agressive behavior. I've&nbsp; actually had some mutal friends express that they were surprised that we were still friends because of her behavior. I don't want to write her off per say, but I am still sort of upset by her comments. I guess maybe its because I try to go with what Thumper's told Bambi&nbsp; &quot;if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all&quot;. I'm sure with time things will get better. </p> <p>&nbsp;Thanks again every one! &nbsp; </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-250278 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:30:39 +0000 boston@heart 250278@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I wouldn't take it too personally.&nbsp; I've had a couple of people say things to me because my ring is not a diamond.&nbsp; (&quot;oh...it's still really nice, even though it's not a diamond). I just look at it like it's their issue.&nbsp; They have certain ideas about what is important.&nbsp; I think some people don't even realize how they sound to you.&nbsp; I would chalk it up to a case of 'foot in mouth'.&nbsp; I know I've said things to people not meaning to offend them, but doing just that (offending them, that is).&nbsp; I hope you don't write off your friend for this reason alone... </p>