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Weddingbee Boards Topic: Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment. http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment. en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:37:00 +0000 MissNoodles on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-1926161 Tue, 22 Mar 2011 12:15:56 +0000 MissNoodles 1926161@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ My fav reply to the snarky small ring comments is always some variation on this theme: "Well, you know there's an old belief that the size of the diamond is in inverse proportion to the size of the giver's *ahem* package".  <Wink> That shuts them up on several fronts.  1. It implies your finace is packing heat in the pants, and hers is not. 2. Half the time they won't know what "inverse proportion" means. deathbydesign on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-1523263 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 08:22:59 +0000 deathbydesign 1523263@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Seriously the only polite response to seeing someone's engagement ring is "It's very pretty, congrats!" I'm so sorry this happened to you. IMO, she is taking this like it's a competition which shows she's insecure. I would take the high road and ignore her and focus on the joys of your upcoming marriage! posh_princess on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-1523251 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 08:19:23 +0000 posh_princess 1523251@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ My friend got engaged before me and had only been dating her BF for a year (I've been with mine for over 4 and definitely gave my bf dirty looks after that happened).  I was bummed she got engaged before me, but I was happy for her and wasn't about to say anything negative.  She's my best friend.  She got a teeny ring but I never made one bad comment about it and never compared it to mine.  All I did was congragulate her and tell her how happy I was for her.  Anyone else out there should do the same.  It's your friend, no passive aggressive comments or negativity.  It's not a race or a "mine is bigger, better, etc."  You should be there for them and be happy for them. lisa105 on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-1463708 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 05:37:34 +0000 lisa105 1463708@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <a href="#post-1463688">@Soladylike:</a> "A true friend will be honest with you, even when it hurts." Um, no.  This wasn't about the OP's friend being virtuously "honest" and a "true friend."  It was about a supposed friend being mean, petty and intentionally insulting for no other reason that she wanted to establish she "won" because her ring is bigger.  Well, good for her.  OP, unfortunately you got a little glimpse into your friend's character and saw a not so pretty side.  Maybe your friend just needs to grow up or maybe deep down she really is a shallow, mean spirited shrew.  Unfortunately, there are a lot of women like this when it comes to rings and weddings and all you can do is shrug it off and feel sorry for the men that married them. Soladylike on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-1463688 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 05:24:53 +0000 Soladylike 1463688@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <a href="#post-249329">@MstoMrs:</a>It seems you are a little emotional. You stated she has been a good friend for years and you want to end the friendship because she said your ring is small. It may be small but if you love it, express that's what you desired. It is a bit petty to me. Friendship is not about being a yes peson and agreeing with everything. A true friend will be honest with you, even when it hurts. I have learned (in the past week) that dimond size is a very sensitive subject. Maybe she didn't get the memo and felt she could openly talk to you about anything. neontl on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-860141 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 11:47:18 +0000 neontl 860141@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I LOVE ALL YOU LADIES - I thought that I was the only one who was offended by a passive-aggressive comment about a ring from a close friend. I thought that it was just her, but apparently this exists everywhere! THANK YOU for showing me that I was not being petty in being offended. VDB on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-256463 Sun, 12 Jul 2009 16:20:36 +0000 VDB 256463@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I think you are overlooking this comment for what it is. You guys havnt seen eachother in how long, do you guys call eacother on the phone and gab all the time. Maybe what it is that you guys lost your closeness, but theres no reason to uninclude her in your grouap activites. She said something wrong, forgive her. Look i have had sooo many friends ditch me say awful things about me, hurt my feelings. But you know what i love them why because we share memories. Did this girl have sex with your man, did she slap you in the face, did she run you over with a car. I didnt think so, so give her a chance, dont look for the first thing that bothers you on what she said. Its just not fare. So i say get over it, and live your life without taking things so personal. Trust me my life in insane, they way i get treated on a day in day out basis i should be dead by know. I have not been taking things personal, because thats what kills me the most. GIVE HER A BIG HUG AND TELL HER YOU LOVE HER, NO MATTER WHAT!! Alejandra Urbano on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255875 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 19:04:37 +0000 Alejandra Urbano 255875@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ People are always gonna make rude comments!  I had a coworker look at my ring and said..."awww...well, you said you really didn't care about the ring anyways, so it's OK!"  so so rude!!   The truth is..I didn't care and still don' care, I'm perfectly happy with my ring, but most of all with my man....who is wonderful and has the purest heart!! jennycv on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255568 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 10:25:17 +0000 jennycv 255568@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I know the feeling. I chose my ring which it isnt exactly the "traditional" and went to see if I could have a band made to match my ring. The Sales person had the nerve to be rude about it and say this is not a engagement ring. I just walk out really upset. People sometimes are rude. sunsetlove on "Frustrated with a 'friend's' passive aggressive ring comment." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/frustrated-with-a-friends-passive-aggressive-ring-comment#post-255536 Sat, 11 Jul 2009 09:34:05 +0000 sunsetlove 255536@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ ((Hugs)) I have an untraditional stone and setting, and get weird looks and snarky comments often (it's to be expected though; if you don't have a diamond the world is coming to an end). My fiance's little brother, in fact, asked me why I was wearing an "I don't need a man, I can do for myself" ring. Quite annoying.