http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Guest List versus Actual Attendance en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:36:46 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-707964 Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:36:45 +0000 Gemstone 707964@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>According to our wedding specialist, industry standard is that 20% of those you invite will not attend. So for your 185, it's likely that 36 people may RSVP "no," so you might be safe. But of course, that's just an average.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-707954 Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:33:38 +0000 marcam882 707954@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I'm planning a 2 round guest list. We can only really afford 125 guests and our A guest invite list is 140.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-706365 Fri, 12 Feb 2010 08:16:29 +0000 Kittyachi 706365@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We're aiming for 150 but our guest list is 180 right now. That does include plus ones for some people who may not end up bringing a guest and of course I'm sure some people won't be able to make it but still - makes me nervous! Our venue can fit more but it would be tight and aesthetically it would drive me crazy to have the tables too cramped. Not to mention it would be annoying for guests.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-706360 Fri, 12 Feb 2010 08:13:34 +0000 pinkposey 706360@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I would suggest a 2 round invite list.&nbsp; The first round are the "must haves" and the second round are the b-list.&nbsp; However you define them is up to you, but my view is a must have is someone who I can't imagine not being at my wedding.&nbsp; The b list are those that it would be nice to have them but you're not really bothered either way.&nbsp; I would also include plus ones in the b-list (those plus ones that you are permitting out of courtesy, rather than that they are in a long-term relationship, etc. and therefore deserving of a plus one).&nbsp;</p> <p>To accomplish this, your first round should go out as early as possible with a firm RSVP date 6-8 weeks before the wedding.&nbsp; Then you can issue your second round with confidence and it is still enough time that they won't feel slighted or a last min addition.&nbsp; It will also allow you to prioritize your b-list and send enough invites to get to your predetermined number.</p> <p>The key is the a list and b list people can't know each other for obvious reasons.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-705628 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:17:30 +0000 bunnylovesbear 705628@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@caszos - Is your venue okay with your backup plans?&nbsp; If I fall in love with the venue that has a capacity of 150, I'm hoping to be able to work some sort of magical deal with them where they still allow more, if necessary.&nbsp; Most of my guest list are the people that I would absolutely expect to be there!&nbsp; We already cut out the maybes.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-704277 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 12:54:45 +0000 caszos 704277@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We are inviting 196 and have a capacity of 176.&nbsp; However, we had already cut out about 30 others, so the 196 are all pretty close to us.&nbsp; We don't want to "over invite" more than that though.&nbsp; It really depends on your list on how many of those are just aquaintances, how many are out of town, and what time or year it is for everyone.</p> <p>Also, we have a couple of "worse case scenarios" planned.&nbsp; If for whatever reason we end up with more than 176 guests, we will have to do a different layout and just cram 'em in there.&nbsp; We also have an outside deck that we could put a couple of tables on if absoluately necessary.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-703824 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 11:16:31 +0000 ProudPeacockBride 703824@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My folks told me to expect that 1/3 of your guest list won't show. Easy estimate!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-703700 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 10:49:05 +0000 Kare7213 703700@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>ahh&nbsp;yes Im in the same boat too! We invitited about 150 and our reception site which is a restaurant can only hold up to 150. The worst part is that when we went to look at it the manager said "oh yes this can definetly hold up to 150 people. So we put a down payment on it and closed the deal. Well a few days later we told her where things like our dj was gonna go and shes like "Oh, your actually gonna have a dj??? Well i dont think then that since you are going to dance that this will hold up to 150"&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; WHAT!?!?!?!?! She honestly thought we were not going to dance at our own reception! So yes, I would LOVE to have everyone there that we invited, but the "no-shows" are kinda what we need too right now.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-700731 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:46:11 +0000 artbee 700731@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>i think it depends on a lot of different situations. our wedding is on a sunday, and we're inviting a lot of people only to the reception- so a lot of oot people weren't willing to travel all that way and miss work when they don't even get to come to the ceremony. (i'm ok with this, i wanted a small wedding.) we invited 145 and 95 are coming.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-list-versus-actual-attendance#post-700685 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:39:23 +0000 littlemissmoo 700685@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Definitely ask your venue about what happens if you have a larger head count than capacity. When my friend got married she has a venue capacity of 100. She and her FH had 150 people actually come to the wedding. She had to ask some of her friends if they were planning to come to the reception because they were running out of space! Thankfully for her some of the guests declined dinner if they could make it to the ceremony instead and she lucked out.</p> <p>Basically, don't send an invite to someone thinking "oh, but they won't attend" because you never know! ;)&nbsp;</p>