http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: How to live with super-clean-freak + OCD person?!! en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:07:33 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-458486 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:01:05 +0000 coloradoguy49 458486@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My ex wife was that way. She didn't like how I did certain things. But eventually I got used to her ways. I'm pretty clean person but there are few things I let slide almost daily.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-456262 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 12:10:43 +0000 bellenga 456262@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I agree.&nbsp; Could you lovingly ask him to get some professional help with this?</p> <p>It is a bit beyond just being a neat freak.&nbsp;</p> <p>Hugs to you and a wish that you two will get thru this together :)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-456256 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 12:04:28 +0000 MsBBerry 456256@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@Valhalla...that sound exactly like my guy! Touching garbage would make him go crazyyyyyy</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-456238 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 11:48:46 +0000 Valhalla 456238@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Hey Annie,</p> <p>It does sound like your FI may have OCD. My FI doesn't have OCD, but he can be extremely anal about germs and such, so I can relate to your statements about having dates ruined by his behavior. For example, I have long hair, and a few stray wispy hairs usually fall in my face and cause it to itch. I am constantly brushing them aside. My FI turned to me in the grocery store yesterday and stated "you are touching your face too much!! You have to stop!". I knew he was probably freaking about germs. He also washes his hands much more than the norm. I even picked up a piece of litter on the street once to put in the garbage can and he was horrified I touched some garbage.</p> <p>Your fiance may be resistive to you pointing out problems with his behaviors, because he already sees you as "not neat enough", so to speak. But he definitely needs to get some help. You are right, his biggest challenge will be making changes to his behaviors.</p> <p>I will be thinking about you!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-456076 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 09:19:33 +0000 MsBBerry 456076@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Thank you all. It never occured to me that he might have the real OCD but more and more I'm starting to believe it..at least it could be mild.</p> <p>It's great to hear from people who have dealt with someone with OCD before.</p> <p>I guess getting him to see someone might not be hard but him wanting to change might be a struggle. He seems to like his OCD way of living.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-455914 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 06:14:22 +0000 artbee 455914@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>i agree with the others, he should definetly seek some professional help. first of all, my brother has ocd, it sounds like you're describing him, and oh wow more power to you for having the patience for putting up with those behaviors! it's not about you being sloppy, it's about what's going on in his head. he might resist going to therapy or a doctor because it's scary to think about not doing those behaviors anymore and not having the thoughts that he's used to having, and if he is like my brother he won't want to take medication because he will be scared of how that will effect his body, but for the sake of your relationship i would start that conversation.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-455910 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 06:03:47 +0000 notasaint 455910@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>As a peson that formerly had OCD, please ask him to seek help and support him through this.&nbsp; He has OCD, no question about it.&nbsp; I ended up being on two medications for about 9 months and that was 11 years ago, been OK ever since.</p> <p>FI is super neat and I just do "my chores" and if he goes behind me and does them again then so be it. I try not to think of it as a personal attack and just realize he likes things a certain way.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-454684 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:35:54 +0000 bluebook 454684@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I agree with Bamboo. This does not sound like your typical "he's a neat freak and I'm messy" situation (which is where I am). This sounds like a diagnosable condition that could be helped with counseling, but quite possibly not without it. I would ask him gently if he would consider going to talk to someone about it with you.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-454651 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:13:21 +0000 Bamboo 454651@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I would say if he agrees to go and does get diagnosed or is already diagnosed then maybe you could go to a psychologist together and they could help the two of you work this out.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-live-with-super-clean-freak-ocd-person#post-454650 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:11:11 +0000 Bamboo 454650@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Has your fiance actually been diagnosed with OCD? If not, I would suggest he go to a psychologist because it truly does sound like he may have OCD. Sounds like he has issues with contamination and his rituals for dealing with that take up a lot of time.</p>