Weddingbee Boards Topic: I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR).

Weddingbee Boards Topic: I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR). http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR). en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 09:11:18 +0000 domestic_cat on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-449538 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:13:44 +0000 domestic_cat 449538@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ @Peyton Just read you're update, I'm so glad you've came to a resoloution.  Hope you have a lovely wedding, your new FI sounds very sweet and caring ;-) domestic_cat on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-449535 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:59:20 +0000 domestic_cat 449535@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Sorry I'm going to loose composure for a moment, what a complete and utter d**k head!!!! Right composure back and logical head on.  I would most defiantly ask for the ring back, and once you have said ring, sell it and use the proceeds to hire a really good lawyer to get your deposit back! If you didn't have your daughter together, I would have said let it go, but as he's always going to be in your life in some shape or form, you need to nip this bullying behaviour in the bud right now and let him know he's not going to get away with it.  Idiot!!!!   Take the power back, because that's what it's all about, not money, power. waitingbee on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448887 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:33:17 +0000 waitingbee 448887@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ He's not going to give you your ring back but I would definatley go to court over the 4400$ Bella Luna on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448277 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:45:21 +0000 Bella Luna 448277@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ First of all, please understand that this is not in any way, shape or form legal advice, but rather my understanding. If it is in your divorce decree, it's yours. You can tell him you want it back, and if he doesn't give it back or give you money based on its appraised value, you can take him back to domestic relations court and they will enforce it. On the other issues - things that were not decided when your divorce was granted, you would have to go back in front of a Domestic Relations judge for them to be decided and basically the decree would have to be re-written to include them. Keep in mind, this is just how it is in Ohio... D.C. could be different but I don't think it could be THAT different. Just my 2 cents. Bon Chance, Bella simpleandchic on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448271 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:42:26 +0000 simpleandchic 448271@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Like everyone else has said, get the ring back! If he isnt going to pay rental deposit to u, as it wasnt in the settlement then neither was that ring. God he sounds like such a jerk, I am so pleased u were able to be strong and leave him. and that u now have someone who appreciates and respects you.   SoonToBeMrs.Kiss on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448259 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:38:50 +0000 SoonToBeMrs.Kiss 448259@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Hell yea, I would take that sucker back, and sell it, to get some money. If the agreement says it's yours, then it's yours. If he doesn't have it or sold it himself, I think he owes you how much it was apprasied for. PeytonL79 on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448258 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:38:10 +0000 PeytonL79 448258@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Wow, so this thread came back to life!  I just saw this and realized I hadn't updated you all.  Legally, I'm in a good position to get the ring back because our separation agreement explicitly says that the terms of the agreement can only be modified by an addendum to the agreement, executed with the same formality as the original agreement (i.e., signed and notarized).  Clearly, by me verbally agreeing to give him back the ring earlier, that didn't amend the agreement that entitles me to it. That being said, I'm not going to pursue it at this time.  It's just too close to my own wedding to add another dimension of drama to my life, and I really don't want to open up old (closed) wounds now.  So that's all the update I have - I really appreciate all of the advice from the bees.  I was hopping mad when I wrote that post. Teddy Bears Picnic on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448247 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:33:28 +0000 Teddy Bears Picnic 448247@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ You derseve the ring and the deposit!! But with that being said, I would not ask for it back.  Chances are you will get 1. no ring 2. another drawn out argument that isn't worth it. I went trough a break up where I lost A LOT of money.  It was horrible and made me crazy, but after 5 years, I don't think about it anymore.  If you are anything like me, it is less about the cash and more about the decency and respect you should be getting.  And it sounds like you are not going to get it from your ex.  I would think about what you really want from him.  Do you really need or want money from him?  Do you want anything to do with him?  And what message does it send to your FI when you are wrapped up in fights with your ex.  He sounds super understanding and wonderful, but i'm sure he'd rather you just be done with it.  Like you said, he doesn't care about the money, he just doesn't want you to get treated that way... so stop putting yourself out there to get beat up by your ex! I would walk away and look forward to your happy life.  The power you will gain from refusing to fight with him will be worth more than any ring. MissAsB on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448191 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:14:36 +0000 MissAsB 448191@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I would get the lawyers involved and try to get it back.  Since he is saying the agreement is stone, you should have rights to get it even though you did get it back.  I'm so sorry you were with such a horrible guy. Boston Bee on "I have HAD it - need advice (long, non-WR)." http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-had-it-need-advice-long-non-wr#post-448180 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:10:33 +0000 Boston Bee 448180@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I agree that you should just have lawyers handle it.  If he's going to be emotionally abusive and cause you all this stress, then have someone else deal with it.  Or maybe send an email asking for it back (I think that's the least confrontational way) and say that if he doesn't give it back then you'll see a lawyer and go to court to have the agreement enforced.  If he's going to be an ass about enforcing the agreement, then play hardball.  Good luck!