http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Is it weird that we rarely ever fight? Anyone else? en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 06:23:41 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-250709 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 09:17:49 +0000 maryjane 250709@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I don't think Mr. MJ and I ever fight. Occasionally (and I mean very occasionally/rarely) one of us will hurt the other's feelings, or we'll get on each other's nerves or get a little snappy, but we never yell or argue. We communicate pretty well, and if we disagree, we're good at being respectful about the way we exchange our opinions about things. I too have lots of friends who get in to yelling/crying fights with their significant others though; I don't know how i could deal with that. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-250700 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 09:04:57 +0000 MyFavorite 250700@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We've been together for 7 1/2 years and have had very few arguments and maybe like one occasion I could possibly classify as a fight. &nbsp;We usually talk things out pretty quickly and move on. &nbsp;I used to think it was strange, but now I just think about how lucky I am to not have to deal with fighting and the aftermath! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-250093 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:29:47 +0000 Thao 250093@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We rarely fight either ... at first I thought it was strange, since I was used to having, how shall we put it, <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic">volatile&nbsp;relationships, but now I'm just happy with the way we communicate. I don't think fighting is a big deal as long as you can resolve it in a timely and thorough way. Congrats on having such a stress-free relationship!&nbsp;<img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_smile.gif" /> </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-250018 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:41:13 +0000 Crash 250018@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We hardly ever fight either. We've had 2 big fights, one where I very seriously considered breaking up, in our almost 5 years of dating. It's not that we agree on everything, but we do agree on basic values and ways of looking at things. We have friendly, respectful debates about the rest. I have never understood the mentality that fighting keeps it 'interesting.' It's already very interesting!</p> <p>It's nice to hear there are other couples who rarely fight too. We've just started premarital counseling, and the book and counselor both make us feel like weirdos (or in denial) for not fighting.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-250000 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:30:54 +0000 RoddyBride09 250000@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>My FI and I rarely fight as well. They really are disagreements that are always worked out. We never go to bed mad or wake up mad at each other. We always talk about things and never hold it in because that always makes things worse. This really works out for us.&nbsp;</p> <p>@Future Mrs M: I completely agree with you. I could definitely not be in a relationship where fighting is the norm. I don't know how those people do it. I feel that puts too much strain on the relationship.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-249903 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:27:00 +0000 moderndaisy 249903@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>It's all about learning how to communicate which avoids fights in the first place. We definitely had to learn, but now it's VERY rare if we even get ina slight argument. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-249885 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:17:33 +0000 mambinki 249885@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We get in little arguments here and there and they are usually resolved quite quickly.&nbsp; We had to learn HOW to disagree though, which took a bit of time.&nbsp; We're both pretty calm most of the time, but can get hot tempered when it comes down to it.&nbsp; </p> <p>It used to be that I wanted to talk and talk and talk and he needed time to think and felt pressured.&nbsp; So now we take it kinda easy on eachother when things start to get heated- he'll sit and talk even if he doesn't want to and I'll give him some time to think on it, even if I don't want to.&nbsp; It actually works quite well.&nbsp; </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-248605 Sat, 04 Jul 2009 10:47:39 +0000 Future Mrs M 248605@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We don't ever really fight either. We have been together almost 2 years and have had one big fight that only lasted not even an hour. Sure I get hissy around that certain time of the month, but he always knows thats why and so he doesn't make a big deal about it. I look at these people who fight ALL the time and i just can't understand why you would want to be in a relationship like that. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-248591 Sat, 04 Jul 2009 10:08:34 +0000 365 248591@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We rarely fight and if we do, it's almsot always worked out in the same day. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-weird-that-we-rarely-ever-fight-anyone-else#post-248581 Sat, 04 Jul 2009 09:33:28 +0000 sparkle 248581@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We've had one huge fight that resulted in us not talking for a couple hours and one other small argument in the last two years. We both get frustrated but we work through it.&nbsp; </p>