http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Isn't it funny how random people just love to assume they're invited? en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:23:46 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited/page/2#post-503929 Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:20:47 +0000 newbiecici 503929@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I've had people ask when the wedding was and I'd tell them the date, and they'd say, "Oh, I'll mark my calendar!"&nbsp; Hello!&nbsp; Don't mark your calendar unless you get an invitation!</p> <p>And I had another friend send me a text message wanting to know how many bridesmaids I was going to have.&nbsp; I just told her that I didn't know even though I really did.&nbsp; I guess she'll figure it out.&nbsp;</p> <p>It is so inconsiderate!!!&nbsp; I would never invited myself to a wedding or anywhere else for that matter.&nbsp; If you're not invited, then there must be a good reason, esp. with weddings being so expensive!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited/page/2#post-495536 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 21:45:03 +0000 nurselindsey 495536@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>It really is insane the way people just assume they're invited to weddings. I'm not getting married for another 13 months, but on my wedding website with theknot.com, it has the RSVP feature and this guy I graduated high school with and am friends with on facebook that I've hardly even spoken to RSVP'd to my wedding! Who the heck does that?? That feature is designed so that AFTER you get your invitation, you let me know if you're coming. Not BEFORE. Especially if we've spoken maybe twice before!</p> <p>Some people are just loons. Plain &amp; simple!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-490860 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:09:59 +0000 Irishker03 490860@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>People always want to be invited! I like to think of it as the fact that everyone loves a wedding and wants to be included. The hard thing is that most people don't have the money to just have unlimited invitations! I hate the awkward "no you're not invited" thing. My FMIL and FFIL just keep adding people to the guest list and because my side of the family is so much larger, I feel bad saying no to them. But we did ask for their list 3/4 months ago! (Sorry, needed to vent!)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-467033 Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:38:05 +0000 sunnydebs 467033@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>thanks for the advice, bees.&nbsp; :-)</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>prettylady that is absolutely nuts!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-467018 Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:26:30 +0000 prettylady 467018@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>So get this, the other night when I was at church this women behind me started to ask questions about our wedding. I honestly hadn't really talked to her much before but the question came up if I was going to have an open invitation to the church. There are currently 600 people at our church! I just looked at her. Don't get me wrong we go to one of the best churches and some of our friends will be invited but I cant invite that many people. My hubby to be and I are still in school and are doing our best and trusting God to provide, I just thought it was a funny question coming from someone I hardly know.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-466482 Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:59:57 +0000 flamingred 466482@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@sunnydebs-I wouldn't say anything or even make it into an issue this early on. What if she is just curious and making conversation?</p> <p>any time someone&nbsp;(who is not invited)&nbsp;asks me about my wedding I just assume they are being nice by asking, I tell them what is going on and that's that. Most of the time people ask about wedding plans to be polite because they think you want to talk about it-nobody actually cares. And I can't say that I've ever been DYING to go to someone's wedding ..that just sounds really weird to me.</p> <p>now if she comes out and says "where's the invite" you have a problem,but at this point I wouldn't do/say anything. You are going to have a lot of battles to choose from and this really isn't one to turn into melodrama.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-460299 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:15:52 +0000 sunnydebs 460299@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We're having the wedding in my hometown, but this one person lives over 500 miles away.&nbsp; They're obviously itching for an invitation, which is strange since they haven't been itching to be my friend for the past few years.&nbsp; Besides, they won't know anyone there.&nbsp; I have no obligation to invite her just because we used to be roommates.&nbsp; Ughhhh, I am frustrated with people assuming anything.</p> <p>Thanks for the advice, bees.&nbsp; I'm going to send her a note and say we picked the venue, and we love it, but it means shrinking our guest list.&nbsp; We would have loved to have her, but due to the size of the venue, and the size of the venue, we just can't invite everyone we'd like to.</p> <p>Is it true? Not really, because she never even crossed my mind as a possible guest until she started bugging me.&nbsp; But I guess this way, I'll at least try not to hurt her feelings.</p> <p>Why, oh why, do people start coming out of the woodwork and your past to bug you about your wedding plans the second you get engaged?&nbsp; :-\</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-459972 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:39:36 +0000 rachel_leigh 459972@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>That is exactly why I am&nbsp;NOT having the wedding in my small hometown.&nbsp; Everyone knows my family there, especially my dad, and everyone would expect to be invited.&nbsp; Blech.&nbsp; No thank you.</p> <p>Two people I know who did have their weddings in my hometown this past summer said it was MADNESS.&nbsp; One girl invitied 200, but her parents and future in laws just kept adding people and then people brought other people and random people crashed&nbsp;and in total more than 500 people were there!&nbsp; That would just make me mad.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-459965 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:37:39 +0000 Jessie516 459965@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I guess we were pretty lucky because we didn't have anyone approach us, assuming they would be invited when they weren't.&nbsp; We did have some issues with my MIL, because she assumed that she could invite people who weren't included.</p> <p>@ <em></em><em><a href="../profile/sunnydebs">sunnydebs</a> </em>I think the best thing to do is to face this head-on.&nbsp; It might be hard, but at least you'll get it over with now, instead of spending the next several months delaying the inevitable. I think I'd write back to your friend and say something about how you're sorry that you can't include her, but you're keeping the wedding very small, just family and very close friends.&nbsp; She might be upset, but at least she'll start dealing with it now, rather than a couple months out, when she doesn't get an invitation.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/isnt-it-funny-how-random-people-just-love-to-assume-theyre-invited#post-459917 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:22:33 +0000 guineapig 459917@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I recently had this problem because I'm inviting some friends that I work with but not everyone in my lab.&nbsp; I sent out Save-the-Dates and when people started talking about them, one of the non-invites was like "Oh I haven't gotten mine yet!".&nbsp; Ahh!&nbsp; Definitely <em>awkward</em>.&nbsp; I just had to straight up say they weren't invited, but it was hard because they'd heard me talking about wedding planning and had always assumed because they heard about it, they were invited.&nbsp; I suggest nipping these things in the bud before it gets to that point though, because I knew for months this would be a problem but avoided it out of not wanting confrontation.&nbsp; I'd definitely make it clear <strong>early on</strong> that you'd love to invite everyone but unfortunately you have limited space and you're really going to be looking mostly at family invites.&nbsp; Don't be vague <em></em><em><a href="../profile/sunnydebs">sunnydebs</a></em>, be specific!&nbsp; It's much better than having months of awkward fake wedding talk because you know they're not invited and they think they will be.</p>