Weddingbee Boards Topic: Money instead of a registry gift?

Weddingbee Boards Topic: Money instead of a registry gift? http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Money instead of a registry gift? en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:29:42 +0000 carochinha on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-362252 Fri, 18 Sep 2009 06:15:14 +0000 carochinha 362252@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Similiar situation, Honeypants (great moniker).  We have enough already between teh two of us and would rather have contributions to our honeymoon.  We emailed our invitations via paperlesspost.com and included there our wedding blog URL.  The wedding blog has our event and surrounding area details.  There we placed our wishes for any gifts folks may consider - that we're thankful but would rather they donate to charities that two of our guests are involved with and inspire them.  And in case people really want to do something for us, we set up an account at rainfallofenvelopes.com.  I researched honeymoon registries but found that they sometimes obligate you to use their travel agent, so you can't shop around, some make money by selling your and your guests' info to third parties and some money sites just have too high fees.  Rainfallofenvelopes.com links to PayPal, respects privacy, has just $1 fee per donation/gift.  And it can be used for anything  you want - down payment on a house, charity fundraising, college fund contributions.  You can custom the purpose.    Good luck and good wishes! bluespurrs on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-354882 Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:27:47 +0000 bluespurrs 354882@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ We simply didn't register anywhere and 90% of our gifts were money... Jacqi on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-354759 Sun, 13 Sep 2009 17:37:47 +0000 Jacqi 354759@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ I'm thinking about taking a fun approach and putting something like this on my website: "We have made a small registry at amazon.com (and give the link). We only registered for the things we need, and more importantly for things that will fit in our apartment... if we get too many toasters, blenders, and serving platters we will be up to our waists in gifts... and our marriage may not last too much longer than the honeymoon!" Is this totally wrong? Would they get the hint that I want money, or could they miscontrue that to mean that I don't want anything? I know many people think this is wrong... Please tell me specifically if you think this is a good idea or bad idea or just plain wrong. I'm a little budget crazy, as my fiance and I are putting roughly 20k into the wedding. reply with tough love if needed! thanks! Halloween on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-318482 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 18:37:04 +0000 Halloween 318482@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ honeypants thanks for starting this topic.  I've been a bachelorette for the past 12 years living on my own so I have all the appliances I need. My fiancee on the other hand still lives with his folks and we are currently house hunting. We really would love to ask for $ but the majority here is saying it's a no-no so it looks like we're going to leave out that bit of info. and if people want to ask our parents they can tell them what our preferences are. Thanks again and congrats!!! ilovenycmissie on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-317736 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 12:56:03 +0000 ilovenycmissie 317736@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ personally I think it is bad taste to infer any kind of hint of wanting money on invites   instead I told my friends I wouldnt mind cash, some asked if I had a registry I said no, its hard to lug gifts to england and left it at that hoping they knew I'd rather have cash   I'd love gifts from my family sentimental but otehrs I dont mind moolah; my facebook also has my cardbox pic hint hint:) notimetowed on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-317728 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 12:51:08 +0000 notimetowed 317728@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ You should check out <a href="http://www.honeymoonwishes.com">www.honeymoonwishes.com</a>.  I registered there for our wedding as My fiance and I are both over 40 and have everytihg for a household that we need.  It's a really neat place for your guests to "buy" you something that is the most precious to you.... Precious time to have fun with your Husband!   I'll be glad to send you the link to my registry page if you'd like! Melissabegins on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-300587 Wed, 12 Aug 2009 10:10:58 +0000 Melissabegins 300587@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ from my perspective - if you don't register anywhere, don't list a registry, and if someone asks around and finds you don't have one, they'll probably just give you cash, or nothing, or pick something out.  Most people would err on the side of cash.  Just don't worry about it.. Ember78 on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-284881 Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:29:00 +0000 Ember78 284881@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ If someone "registered" (using that term very loosely) for cash or their honeymoon, as a guest I would probably just take a card if I decided to attend. I was raised to believe that both are considered rude so it's not something I would give because I'm not used to doing so even though it seems to be incredibly popular nowadays. You will have alot of guests who get you something tangible that you may not want or be able to return anywhere because they have the same belief. There isn't much you can do to change that in them. Either way, it's rude to mention registries of any kind except by word of mouth. johannagrims on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-224111 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 12:56:02 +0000 johannagrims 224111@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ My fiancee and I are footing the bill for our entire wedding...  We are even paying for some of our friends and families accomodations.  We are in a similar position as some of you who have been living together for a couple of years and do not need the traditional registry "stuff."  This situation does not translate to "we are rich and can pay for it all."   I know my fiancee and I would appreciate money in leu of gifts.  It would definately ease the wedding sticker sting as we will be paying it off for a while thereafter and would really like to begin saving up for a house of our own. What do you guys suggest?  How should we spread the word?  That we want people to contribute to our wedding fund or the house down-payment fund?  I wish it wasn't such a touchy subject.  If any of my friends were in this same position I'd come with a smile and a check, no questions asked.  What do you all think? cassoryl on "Money instead of a registry gift?" http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/money-instead-of-a-registry-gift#post-176705 Wed, 15 Apr 2009 16:44:44 +0000 cassoryl 176705@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ The most gracious way to ask for cash is register for it.  Check out eRegistry.com - they have a cash registry and WishCard - which is a pre-paid VISA card.  Anytime someone gives you cash on your registry, it shows up on the card almost instantly.  Which means if you get it before the wedding, you can use it to pay for stuff before the wedding.