http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: "Non Practicing"-Catholic & Non-Catholic, looking for a church to marry in! en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:32:30 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in/page/2#post-1465368 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 12:57:16 +0000 aribari 1465368@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I feel like there is no real standard</p> <p>I am in a very similar position as you, born and raised catholic attended Catholic School&nbsp;but I didnt make confirmation and&nbsp;have not attended church so regularly&nbsp; for a couple years. FI is not Catholic and for several months I put off doing anything church related for fear or having to jump through hoops, I've heard many stories..</p> <p>Anyhow when I did decide to go we were completely welcomed and there were no problems whatsoever. I thought it would have been a big deal that I didnt make confirmation and FI is not Catholic but we got a really awesome priest and are getting married in the church my parents got married in.</p> <p>I've recently decided to strengthen my faith but that might not, scratch that,would not, &nbsp;have happened if I had gotten the response that you are getting.</p> <p>Its unfortunate...</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in/page/2#post-1464613 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 09:55:35 +0000 CoffeeHound 1464613@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p><a href="#post-1464390">@michelle314:</a> I don't know if you mentioned it to discuss it here, but have you sought an annulment?&nbsp; Even if you're set on the non-Catholic wedding, you could still 1.&nbsp; get married in the reformed church, 2.&nbsp; annul your first marriage, 3.&nbsp; convalidate your second marriage.&nbsp; It's not ideal to do it in that order, but that would get you back into good standing with the Catholic Church.</p> <p>Of course, if you've decided that you're no longer Catholic it doesn't really matter, but just saying...</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in/page/2#post-1464390 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 09:06:55 +0000 michelle314 1464390@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Wowsa! So many opinions.&nbsp; I *can't* get married in a catholic church since this is my 2nd marriage, and my first (Catholic) one was not annulled.&nbsp; I found a really nice Reformed Church where everyone is so nice and welcoming, it was really a no-brainer.&nbsp; My Catholic relatives don't exactly approve, but since I really could care less about their opinions, it's fine.&nbsp; It's really between me and God, regardless of what other Catholics or the Pope might think. :D&nbsp; Best of luck!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in/page/2#post-702983 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 08:21:34 +0000 leighannd 702983@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>hey guys - thanks everyone for the help!</p> <p>for an update: we decided to go to the church i grew up in and everything was great. my childhood priest is marrying us and they were totally fine that my fiance was only baptised - BUT he still is deciding to go ahead with classes and recieve confirmation because we want to raise our children catholic and he wants to make sure he is in the loop! hehe. they also didnt have any issue that that wasnt really my parish anymore - since my parents still have that parish, and since i knew the priest and grew up there.</p> <p>the church is kind of yucky, but - oh well haha, came to terms with that. thats not what matters!</p> <p>thanks again everyone!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in/page/2#post-702853 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 07:54:16 +0000 Magdalena 702853@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>With regard to married or "independent" Catholic priests, PLEASE BEWARE. In the eyes of the Church your marriage will be INVALID (in other words, like it never even happened)&nbsp;if it is performed by a priest who does not have the permission of your bishop to perform marriages. Bishops do NOT give permission to&nbsp;these "freelance" married priests!!!!</p> <p>I don't want to say bad things about any particular minister, but a lot of these guys are <em>thisclose</em> to being scam artists. Often if you ask them directly about this issue, they will lie. So BE CAREFUL. Call the diocese and ask if your priest is actually a part of the diocese and able to celebrate the sacraments. If your desire is to have a wedding and a marriage that will be recognized by the Catholic Church, stay far, far away.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in#post-702351 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 23:06:26 +0000 KT_Williams 702351@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I am kinda in the same boat except my FI is not Catholic and I still want to get married in a catholic church, even though my FI is not catholic we STILL CAN, the fact that he is Babtized catholic is BETTER then where you could be and, you still could get married in the church it just wont be a normal full length cath. ceremony! Best of luck! I am going through this too! Ugh! I feel ya!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in#post-702339 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:54:33 +0000 mmauricio 702339@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>interesting thread youve got here!&nbsp;</p> <p>im sorry youre having so much trouble with this issue.&nbsp;im not sure but i think&nbsp;i read&nbsp;somewhere in one of ur responses in this thread that you come from a miliatry family?&nbsp; &nbsp;my fi and i also both come from military families - and he himself is now in the navy and is currently deployed.&nbsp; we havent officially called/visited churches yet although i imagine explaining our situation wont be easy.</p> <p>we live together in jacksonville,fl but while he is deployed, im back with my family in west palm beach (4 hours away in south fl).&nbsp; we're holding our wedding in orlando because its smack dab in the middle of my two cities&nbsp;AND&nbsp;since both of us have lived all over the world, our guests will literally be flying in from all over the world (over 75% of our 150 guests) and we figured it was the&nbsp;most convenient (international-airport wise)&nbsp;location for everyone.&nbsp;</p> <p>with that said, we knew we wanted&nbsp;to marry in the catholic church - we both are registered with&nbsp;a parish in jax and&nbsp;attend mass every sunday.&nbsp; now that im back home, im back at the parish where my fam goes.&nbsp; we didnt talk to our priest once we got engaged ... instead, i did research online as to how to go about marrying in church - mainly because we didnt think it would matter since we're marrying in another diocese.&nbsp; plus we're not particularly close with our priest.&nbsp;</p> <p>we took the FOCCUS test and did the engaged encounter weekend - both required for marrying in orlando and are at the next step of talking to the priests and looking for a church.&nbsp;</p> <p>i received all the major sacraments so far - although&nbsp;i did get baptized in a small rural town in the philippines and my mom no longer has a record of it - but i think ill be ok since we have copies of my 1st comm and confirm record.&nbsp; im concerned about my fi - he has been confirmed but does not have records to prove - tracking it down will be difficult since he was a miliatary brat and moved quite often,&nbsp; as for the other sacraments, he was never&nbsp;in one place long enough to complete ccd to receive 1st comm and confirm.&nbsp; however imsure that issue would be cleared up by a priest.&nbsp; im thinking RCIA.</p> <p>its difficult planning at the moment and gearing up to talk to a priest because my fi is deployed right now.&nbsp; i know churches on base are very flexible and understanding as far as the needs for their servicemembers - they realize the regular attendance of church might not have been easy and are willing to work with those who want to have the kind of ceremony youre looking for.&nbsp; if you two are military-affiliated, holding your ceremony at a base church might be an option.&nbsp;</p> <p>i dont know if i helped at all with my offtopic two cents but i think actually being face to face with a priest and putting it all out there for dicussion is the best way to get answers!</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>good luck and please update us on ur progress!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in#post-608615 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:34:22 +0000 beachbride0810 608615@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@ leighannd ... I'm sorry you're having so much trouble finding a church.&nbsp; My MOH was married a few years ago and the church we belong to gave her a VERY hard time because her and her (then) FI were already living together.&nbsp; The church almost turned them away, but then decided to take them since her father volunteers in the rectory.&nbsp; Though, they were very condescending the entire time!&nbsp;</p> <p>Since I live with my FI we knew we'd go through the same thing being I belong to the same church.&nbsp; Neither of us are practicing and it just wasn't important enough to us to go through all of that (especially being judged and looked down on).&nbsp; I still wanted a Catholic ceremony and wanted our marriage to be blessed.&nbsp;</p> <p>I found Father Carroll Mrowicki, who is an ordained married priest that can perform Catholic ceremonies for those unable&nbsp;to receive services from a celebate priest.&nbsp; FI and I absolutely LOVE him!&nbsp; I can't speak enough about both how professional he is as an officiant, but also how much he cares and wants to perform a beautiful, blessed, religious ceremony for us.&nbsp; He's in NJ, but may travel to surrounding areas.&nbsp; Check him out if you're interested!&nbsp;</p> <p><a href="http://www.askfathercarroll.com/">http://www.askfathercarroll.com/</a></p> <p>Good luck with everything!&nbsp; :)&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in#post-608565 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:16:08 +0000 Dancy905 608565@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@ <em><a href="../profile/leighannd">leighannd</a> </em>I know someone suggested it and I'm not sure what part of LI you're on but what about trying a church or chapel on the grounds of a college campus? They're usually pretty open since the student body has different religions. Good luck - let us know what you go with!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-practicing-catholic-038-non-catholic-looking-for-a-church-to-marry-in#post-608492 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 14:55:33 +0000 ms.pascua 608492@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>@ silverbrooke: I'm all for your option #1...that's what FI &amp; I are doing; except both weddings (my Catholic ceremony &amp; outdoor ceremony) are the same size.&nbsp;</p> <p>Post Catholic ceremony, we are having a cake &amp; champagne reception; post outdoor wedding, we are having our outdoor reception (brunch).&nbsp; The style of meals for each is keeping costs down so we can actually do both.&nbsp; So, to all others, as long as you put God (represented by my Catholic ceremony, in my case) first, your wedding can follow any style you can dream up!</p>