http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Other's opinion on your wedding budget! en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 14:35:35 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-462761 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:28:18 +0000 eurekaanchovies 462761@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>It isn't only the budget that people in your life are going to have opinions on. You may find that people have opinions about every aspect of your wedding that you choose to share with them.</p> <p>"What? You can't not have bridesmaids!"</p> <p>"What? You can't wear red shoes!"</p> <p>"What? Why don't you just elope?"</p> <p>However, it's your day, and you have to craft it in such a way that when it's all said and done, you're happy with every choice you've made. The worst thing that can happen is if someone persuades you to choose something other than what you would have chosen, and then you regret the choice later.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-462727 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 02:16:31 +0000 simpleandchic 462727@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>weddings are expensive, average wedding in Australia costs $35K we have budgeted $27,000 for wedding and will prob spend $8,000 on honeymoon and we are only inviting 60 guests. My BF's wedding cost $22,000 but they spent $25,000 on a honeymoon to Italy. Its soo expensive but it adds up soo quickly</p> <p>This is our budget</p> <p>-Reception Food and Venue Hire $5000 (for 60 guests)</p> <p>-Alcohol-$3000</p> <p>-Dress $2000</p> <p>-Wedding bands $2500</p> <p>-Cars -1500</p> <p>-DJ -$600</p> <p>-Photographer-$2000</p> <p>Flowers- $2000</p> <p>Hair and Makeup $600</p> <p>Mens suit hire $800</p> <p>Accomodation $2000</p> <p>Veil and accesories $500</p> <p>Shoes $300</p> <p>Cake $600</p> <p>Decorations $1000</p> <p>Gifts for attendants$600</p> <p>Bridesmaid dresses $$750</p> <p>church fee $250</p> <p>Party Favours $300</p> <p>invitations place cards menus etc $700</p> <p>Guest book ring Pillow etc. $300</p> <p>But after looking at this list I can see it blowing out to maybe $30,000</p> <p>Goodness I hope its worth it.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-462673 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:39:02 +0000 RecessionistaBride 462673@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>That's terrible! Don't let the comments bother you...&nbsp;&nbsp;as long as you're comfortable spending what you're spending- it's no one elses business! </p> <p>You know, at my FIs aunt's funeral tons of his family was asking how much the funeral cost, why they chose that coffin, etc, etc. People are always nosy &amp; always have something to say about what you choose to spend your money on (even in death). Isn't it insane? </p> <p>The only person who makes cracks about our budget is my FI. He hates the per person cost of our reception. He's going to pay it, but he's going to grumble along the way. He really would prefer to order pizza for everyone lol.</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-462668 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:26:05 +0000 cbgg 462668@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>AmberEyes - I love that! &nbsp;I don't wake up every morning and think "what does so-and-so think of my life?" &nbsp;That's priceless!</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-457243 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 07:08:31 +0000 AmberEyes 457243@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>One of our obnoxious groomsmen made a rude comment to me about how we should just have a "Shotgun Wedding" and put our money towards a house instead. First of all, he is such an idiot because Shotgun Weddings only pertain to a pregnant bride, and I'm not even pregnant. I know he meant to say&nbsp;"Civil Ceremony" because that's what he and his wife had, and she was pregnant at the time. They served stale chicken wings and carrot cake at his wedding, and until now they're still living in a dump.</p> <p>My point is that there&nbsp;will always be&nbsp;people out there who will disagree with what you're doing. It shouldn't matter, because you don't live for them. You don't wake up every morning asking yourself "What does so-and-so think I should do with my life?" This is your life, and a wedding is a monumental event in one's life, it's an event that deserves to be special. However way you want to make that special is totally up to you. If you want to hire a marching band and have fireworks, that's your prerogative. Everyone else should just be supportive. And to those who aren't supportive, let them be.</p> <p>You can always buy a house any time in your life. But you can only be a young, fresh bride once! I'm almost thirty. I am not going to buy a house now and have a nice wedding when I'm wrinkly and sixty five years old. Best of luck to you girl :)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-457237 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 07:02:30 +0000 frozen yogurt 457237@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I have a friend that likes to talk about my budget.&nbsp; Honestly, she got married before me and I think she's worried that I might do something "better."&nbsp; But oh well, I take it as a compliment that she thinks my wedding will be great. :)</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-457230 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:57:54 +0000 smy 457230@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We get indirect commentary, which is pretty weird. We live in NYC and this is where I am from, but we are having our wedding near where my fiance is from. For here, our budget is low, but for there? They think we are extravagant, with our cocktail hour plus 4 hour reception and our open bar. It's a little uncomfortable for people to act like we're being all flashy, when this is just tradition for me. Again, we are paying most of it ourselves, with some help from my parents, so when his parents have something to say about how they want to add 20 more people? Ugh. (Because clearly, we could not spend so much on the reception and just allow them to invite everyone they've ever met by making it cheaper).&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-457154 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 05:48:24 +0000 CorgiTales 457154@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>wow my family is the total opposite of most here I think. My budget is 10K and I feel like my family feels like we should be spending more. Most of my cousins have been married recently and have had bigger budget weddings (I'd say 15-40K on average). Plus, because I am a lawyer and my FI is an accountant I feel like my family thinks we just have all this money and we can afford whatever. The truth is that I've been a lawyer barely a year and I'm buried in student loans! Plus we're buying a house this year and I just value that more highly than I value a big wedding.&nbsp;</p> <p>Seems like no matter what you do... people will have something to say about it.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-457066 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:45:57 +0000 LeahNHeath 457066@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I can completely sympathize. I've been dealing with this with some of the "friends." They feel like they can comment on the fact that we are having a big lavish wedding. I think some people just need to learn to keep their mouth shut. I never understand why some people have to interject their opinion in things that do not concern them. Most of the time I think it's out of jealousy or they don't understand.</p> <p>I feel the exact same way. In fact, I've even considered not inviting some of those who make the unnecessary comments. I really don't want to worry about them over-analying my day with their calculators wondering how much I've spent. They should be happy.. they are getting a free night of drinking and eating out of the deal <img src="http://boards.weddingbee.com/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/others-opinion-on-your-wedding-budget#post-457042 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 22:34:15 +0000 yrret107 457042@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>It's either your spending too much money, not spending enough, being too cheap, not being sensible, not inviting enough people, inviting too many people, reception is not good enough, reception is too extravagent.</p> <p>There's always someone to complain about it.&nbsp; People telling me I should elope, people telling me I could spend it other things, people telling me I should have save more money for the wedding.</p> <p>Ahhh!&nbsp; I just want to tell everyone to shut up with their expectations.&nbsp; This is my wedding, not theirs.</p> <p>And it comes from everyone.&nbsp; People you don't even know, people who are close friends and even your parents.</p> <p>And you know what, those people who tell you to&nbsp; elope or do it at a courthouse... and if you did end up eloping, they are probably going to be a few of them who are going to be pissed that they weren't included in your special day.&nbsp; You can't win with some people.</p>