http://boards.weddingbee.com/ Weddingbee Boards Topic: Skipping the unity candle/sand/etc? en Mon, 23 Nov 2009 05:21:51 +0000 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-248292 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:32:33 +0000 amysue 248292@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>Skipped it; I've seen too many Unity Candles that refuse to light. We did the German Wedding Cup to honor our German heritage, but that was it. <a href="http://www.german-toasting-glasses.com/german_wedding_cups.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.german-toasting-glasses.com/german_wedding_cups.html</a></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-248291 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:31:19 +0000 RecessionistaBride 248291@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We're not doing it either... I understand the meaning behind it, but it's really just a time waster IMO. We don't need colored sand to remind us that our two hearts &amp; lives have been joined. </p> <p>I've only seen the sand done at one ceremony &amp; it&nbsp;turned me off of it forever. The bride &amp; groom took FOREVER to pour the sand into their vase because&nbsp;apparently someone forgot the funnel. At first we all giggled at their clumsiness, but then it was like&nbsp;(5 minutes later)&nbsp;really? you still haven't figured it out? lol </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-248280 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:12:27 +0000 futurejet 248280@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We are not incorporating any kind of tradition like the unity candle or sand ceremony.&nbsp; The main reason is that my mother is the most anti-unity candle person ever.&nbsp; She said she didn't want to do it and I was okay with that too. My MOH did one at her ceremony and everyone was just confused about when to go and what to do.&nbsp; I think you will be ok doing whatever is right for you and your FI and people will understand! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-248276 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:04:32 +0000 fontgoddess 248276@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>I don't even know what the sand thing is, and we are definitely not doing the unity candle. Most people seem to do it, but I certainly wouldn't feel there was something missing if I went to a wedding and it wasn't done. I'd actually be impressed because somebody had dared to think for themselves! My feeling is that rituals are beautiful if they mean something to you, and pointless otherwise. Avoiding catching nails, hair, veils etc. on fire is also an important consideration. :-) </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-248216 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:47:58 +0000 dereksbride2b 248216@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We are not including these in our ceremony, and I am sure everyone in the ceremony will b glad because the less we do the sooner they can drink some beer! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-248210 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:41:57 +0000 Noelle-a-Belle 248210@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We are not doing a unity candle, sand, or any other symbolic ritual.&nbsp; Initially I wanted to san san kudo (I am Japanese) but decided it would simply take too long.&nbsp; The unity candle is actually a rather new 'custom' in weddings; it became popluar in the 90's, I read due to it's inclusion in soap opera weddings, of all things.&nbsp; So I don't think it would be an issue excluding some such thing from your wedding.&nbsp; Besides, I don't know anyone who has ever said that the unity candle is what touched them most during a ceremony.&nbsp; I think the shorter and sweeter the ceremony, the better.&nbsp; Guests want to get on to the party! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-244625 Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:25:21 +0000 poli2b 244625@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We aren't doing any 'unity' symbolism, as I am a total spaz and will probably spill sand, light something on fire etc.</p> <p>Instead we are doing a &quot;bouquet of life&quot; which involves our wedding party and parents adding a single flower to a vase, then our officiant explaining how these people contribute to our lives as a couple. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-244592 Tue, 30 Jun 2009 12:55:29 +0000 VegasBaby 244592@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We're not planning on doing either of those either, short and simple for us! </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-244523 Tue, 30 Jun 2009 12:25:21 +0000 beachwedding92509 244523@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>We aren't doing a candle or the sand ceremony. My fiancee insisted that we jump the broom and I have been against it until up about a month ago. I thought it was overdone, but when I did the research, I felt that it really would be cool, considering our story (it's a same sex ceremony which is not legal in this state; in the times of slavery, slaves would jump the broom and would be considered married in the eyes of their loved ones as it was not legal to marry another slave). So, I've come around on the whole idea. My friend did the sand ceremony--I thought it was nice. They had a bare bones wedding, so it wasn't overkill. </p> http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/skipping-the-unity-candlesandetc#post-244473 Tue, 30 Jun 2009 11:55:08 +0000 KellyV 244473@http://boards.weddingbee.com/ <p>i dont think we're doing it either. </p>