+1 Etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you think about a guest inviting a random person for their +1?
    No way. The wedding is for family and friends only. : (17 votes)
    22 %
    I'd go with it, but wouldn't be pleased. : (16 votes)
    20 %
    I said +1, it's up to the guest who that is. : (44 votes)
    56 %
    Yes! The more the merrier. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Other? : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8936 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I didn’t know 55% of the people at my wedding. They were mostly my in-laws friends and my husband’s friends. I had very few people “on my side”.

    I gave people a +1. I didn’t care who their +1 was. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2290 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    That’s just weird to me…but I guess he really doesn’t want to go alone? Haha, wow…I’ve never had a friend do this!

    Post # 5
    Member
    44994 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you extend a plus one to a guest, they get to choose their date.

    If you want to limit the guest list to friends and family, you need ot find out the name of the date and send them an invitation in their own name.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4505 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If I invite someone with a +1, it’s not up to me to say who that +1 is. I wouldn’t really care. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1162 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We only gave plus ones to family and friends who had partners that we knew. No one will have “guest” or +1 on their invite, it will have the couples names.

    The only thing Im worried about is FI’s cousins (they are VERY close) still live at home and are teenagers, Im not a fan ofinviting their on-off boy/girlfriends or flavour of the month. Ill cross that bridge when it comes though!

    If you don’t want strangers, don’t give out unnamed +1’s 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    3463 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Perfect example of why you don’t invite someone as +1 and always get the name to invite them personally.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5213 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    If the invite doesn’t specify a certain person’s name, it’s up to the recipient to choose his/her guest. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    2575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I don’t care who the +1 is. I just prefer that there BE a plus 1 bc we are afraid that we won’t meet our minimums. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    10457 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Uhh ok I thought at first you meant someone I didn’t know, then sure fine whatever. But basically hiring an escort? That’s beyond weird… I don’t know how you’d say no to that though. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1464 posts
    Bumble bee

    so….what are the physical requirements? I could def use $1k! haha jk

    yeah that’s weird…is that even legal? must be a Vegas wedding lol

    Post # 13
    Member
    4442 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @stillme:  +1

    Post # 14
    Member
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @renwoman:  seriously?! He must be really concerned about going alone if he’s willing to pay $1000 for someone to go with him. And they have to meet certain physical characteristics? Blech.

    Personally, I would only invite people and partners I know.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If someone gets an unspecified +1 on their invitation (and guest), then who they bring is then up to them…

     

    This is why I didn’t give many unspecified +1s except to groomsmen and older adults who needed someone to drive them.

    Post # 16
    Member
    9697 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @renwoman:  If someone is given a +1, then they can bring whoever they like. If the couple wanted a certain person to be brought along then the invitation should have been addressed to both people and not just said “+1.” I fully expect that anyone who has a wedding will not know every single person who attends. I can’t wrap my head around spending so much money on strangers, which is why I eloped.

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