Post # 1
So when I got engaged 2 years ago, my best friend (MOH A) was there with me. I asked her right away to be my MOH. Since then, she has moved away and has less and less contact with me and we continue to grow apart as our lives lead us into different directions. However, she does remember that I asked her to be my MOH all that time ago and makes sure to bring it up each time we do speak. Now while I am in full planning mode, my sister (bridesmaid B)has been with me for all of the planning, visiting, scheduling, shopping, and giggeling. MOH A had orinally told me that she would move back home for 2 months prior to my wedding to help with all of finalizing everything, but this was when we had been planning to have our wedding in the fall of 2014. Now we are getting married Spring 2013 and she has said she will not be able to take any extra time. I told her that was fine just as long as she was here for the wedding. Would it rude of me to BM B to be a 2nd MOH as I feel that she has deffinatly been filling the role?
Post # 3
Personally, I don’t think its rude and I would hope that your first MOH would understand since she has now moved and isn’t able to offer any help…
My fiance has 2 Best Men (although he asked them at the same time since they have all been best friends since they were little) but one of the guys recently moved to Cali and hes grateful he has 2 best men, just for planning his bachelor party and what not … I think you will like having a close MOH for when it comes to planning your bridal shower & bachelorette party, and to just help you with little things like addressing invites and what not… I don’t know what I would do without my MOH being close to me! She has been AMAZING and so helpful with EVERYTHING whether I ask her for help or not!
Post # 4
Have two if you want. Especially since it is because the second MOH is your sister.
Post # 5
You can definitely bump up your sister to be a second MOH, just be sensitive when telling MOH A because you never know, she could be sensitive to it.
Post # 6
So I talked to MOH A last night and things did not go well at all! Basically i was told that it is my f’ing wedding and if I want 1 or 2 or everybody to be my MOH that is fine. She does not have time to be worring about my wedding. She has enough on her plate as I am already allowing her ex (my FIs BM)and his wife to come to our wedding, or as she called them (that F*** Face A and his F’ing douch bag wife).
Post # 7
Woah your friend sounds like a diva…you should give her the opportunity to step down as a bridesmaid if she is so uncomfortable with the situation.
Post # 8
I had two MOHs and one was my sister. I think it is perfectly fine- plus, it is your wedding so do what makes YOU happy!