Post # 1
I know this happens all the time but if you have a sec, let me know what you think I should do. I have a friend from college who I have not kept in touch with super well. However, we were very close/roomies in college and she made a special trip to see me when she heard I got engaged. I invited her to the wedding and just put her name on the invite because I know she is single. She just asked if she could bring a guest. What do I say? She will have to buy a plane ticket for the wedding and she is only friends with one other guest, who has a live-in boyfriend. I feel like I would like to give her +1 so she will have a good time. But I wish I could wait until I get more RSVP’s since I am at the top of my venue’s capacity (but this +1 is not the straw taht wold break the camel’s back). Thoughts?
Post # 3
@fingerscrossed: I would. If I had to travel for a wedding I would like someone with me, but I’m the kind of person that hates traveling alone.
Post # 4
Maybe you can ask who this person is. If it’s a partner then you would want them to come right? [An aside and no offense to PPs but I don’t understand why adults can’t travel alone so I don’t think that’s a reason to give her a +1 if you can’t fit one in. And I kind of think that bringing a random date to a wedding is like bringing sand to the beach.]
I propose the +1 Request Response Team…we are all getting “Can I bring so and so who you probably don’t know and therefore didn’t invite?” from our families and friends. And none of like saying no to those we know. But I wouldn’t have any problem telling your friends no. So in exchange for telling your +1 Requests “no” someone else can tell mind.
Good luck! I know it’s hard and frustrating letting people down. But it’s your wedding and you should celebrate how you want to.
Post # 5
If she has to book travel, I would allow the +1 to keep her company. I probably wouldn’t be so generous if she were local though.
Post # 6
If the wedding’s far enough away that she has to travel by plane and she won’t really know anyone else, I’d let her have a +1. I know it’s not ideal for you, but I think this is a case in which it’s worth it.
Post # 7
I’m giving her the guest because she’s travelling in! Thanks!!