Age (if you care to share): I’m 34, DH is 33.
TTC since: January 2012 (wow! I can’t believe it has been that long. Looking back I realized I started the 4th iteration of this thread and now we’re on 13!)
TTC Recap: Oh boy, I could write a book. In brief, in July 2012 we learned that DH has horrible sperm. He had a varicocele embolization but that didn’t help. I had a small uterine septum and had hysteroscopic surgery on that. We did our first IVF cycle in Jan 2013 and have basically been continuously doing IVF / frozen embryo transfers since then. Our first cycle was a CP. After that cycle 2 (FET) was a BFN, cycle 3 (FET) was a BFN. We switched clinics (because we moved), did another IVF, had a horrible egg retrieval by a covering doc, I developed ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome and spent a night in the ER, we did another FET and had a CP. After that we did another IVF but delayed the transfer because my hormones were a bit off. In the meantime we did a uterine biopsy and found that the development of my uterine lining was out of sync. We did several things to try to fix that (some antibiotics in case it was related to infection, femera to try to reset things, and a normal HSG) but the repeat biopsy was still abnormal so we did a course of 3 months lupron depot shots to try to fix it (and treat any presumed endometriosis, which can cause endometrial dysfunction), and just did our most recent FET in May, which was a BFN. Phew. So that’s 5 total embryo transfers, 2 CP’s, and 3 BFN’s. All of our transfers have been single embryo transfers because we were worried about twins; the most recent one was supposed to be a double embryo transfer but one embryo died upon thawing.
Issues (if any): Primarily male factor infertility (really bad sperm counts, mobility, morphology). I also seem to have some endometrial dysfunction of unclear etiology, possibly subclinical endometriosis.
Chart? No point.
Currently: Getting ready for another FET, likely around July 21. I’m on estrace and letrozole (femera) currently (the letrozole is because of my endometrial issues). We’re going to transfer our last two remaining embryos, one is a Day 5 blast and the other is a Day 6 embryo that is really poor quality, if they both survive the thaw. We’re going to do acupuncture before and after the transfer (we did this with our last FET too). Also, my doctor did an endometrial “scratch” last week which one or two studies suggest can help with implantation but overall the evidence isn’t great.
Supplements/how are you going about your BFP: IVF/FET’s as above. I’m also on a low dose of Synthroid because my thyroid is a bit underactive for TTC (my TSH is a bit higher than my RE would like). And I take a slew of vitamins and supplements (all okayed by my RE): prenatal vitamin, Metanx (a prescription-strength Vit B complex that includes folate), Co-E Q, Vitamin D, Calcium, Vitamin E, Vitamin C, melatonin. Most of these are to help improve egg quality, the Vit D is because mine is a bit low, the Metanx is because my homocysteine was high. I also recently read the book “It Starts with the Egg” that has a lot of suggestions for improving egg quality. I’ve been working on reducing toxins like parabens / BPA / PVC’s (changed my soaps / shampoos / lotions / lip gloss, not eating out of plastic, changed to a natural yoga mat, avoiding nail salons) and changing my diet to be more plant/seed/some animal based and have less artificial stuff and refined carbs. Never thought I would become the person with almond milk chia seed pudding in my fridge, but here I am (I don’t take it to extremes though…I’m still gonna have a hot dog for July 4 though if I can find one!)
When I get my BFP, I’ll celebrate by: I definitely won’t be able to relax until way after the 1st trimester.
If it’s not this cycle, we’ll: We are going to switch to a different clinic (at the recommendation of my doctor) to try something new and see if we have better luck growing embryos there. I have an appointment lined up at the new clinic in mid-Aug just in case. The plan will be to do our 4th IVF, this time with preimplantation genetic diagnosis so that we can see if any of our embryos are genetically normal.
Since TTC after 12+ cycles (or with IF) issues, is a very different experience than a fertile couple trying in the first month, how do you stay connected to your SO?
We try to do fun stuff, mainly going out to eat or to movies. We also just got back from a fantastic vacation in Ireland! It’s tough because I also have a very demanding job that requires a lot of my time (and most of my mental energy).
And just for fun,
As it’s Independence Day today for our US friends, how did you celebrate? <br />It’s raining here! Boo! But we’re probably going to go see a friend and her baby, maybe have some dinner. If it stops raining we’re going to go to a BBQ and then probably will try to catch the fireworks from our roof.
AND…Post your most uplifting quote
I don’t have many uplifting quotes, but don’t give up!
Whew, sorry about the book. I just hope that my experiences can maybe help some other people. I don’t check my PM’s but do follow this thread so if you have any questions feel free to write me here (or tell me to check my PM’s!). I also have been trying not to be so active on the thread but do follow along and am thinking of everyone!