Post # 1
So I fell in love with a strapless gown, Oleg Cassini cwg352 and only bought it because I planned to add straps to it of some sort (I hate strapless on me). Being plus size, I just wasn’t comfortable without coverage. The dress is a little snug at the top of the zipper, and I have tons of backfat. I planned to purchase some tulle and have a local seamstress (who is very well reputed). I wanted some short sleeve type sleeve–see Zara Phillips’ wedding dress. She pinned it, and the material looked great. It covered my backfat and was quite elegant. I am leaving Wednesday for the wedding, and it took her forever to do what she said was a “simple” alteration. When I went to pick the dress up, it looked HORRIBLE (like bad 80s prom dress terrible). The tulle instead of being two layers thick was about six layers thick and didn’t cover my back fat. It framed it. She repinned me, and we talked about the sleeves being too thick. She is going to fix it by Monday. Ladies, my hopes aren’t high. I wish I had gone with a bolero from the start. But I was being an idiot because a bunch of my friends ragged on how terrible boleros are, and I was a little deflated. There is one local bridal shop in town I will call today (but I doubt they carry plus size accessories), and then I will call the closest David’s Bridal (TWO HOURS AWAY) to see if they carry any plus-size boleros that you can buy on the spot. Needless to say, I am freaking out. I found a bolero on Etsy, emailed the seller to see if she can set up a custom listing with overnight shipping, and haven’t heard back. Who knows if it even matches? The dress looks terrible in the back strapless. I don’t know what to do. 🙁
Post # 3
Man, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I would say do your best to find a bolero in a shop that you can try on, make sure it fits and matches with your dress and buy it. That way, if you still aren’t happy with the tulle, you have a back up plan. Maybe google all the bridal stores near you, even places with special occassion departments and call them to see what they have in stock. Good luck!
Post # 4
Definitely have a back-up plan…I like the department store suggestion above. Don’t stress out!! Stay calm and positive – just plan ahead and it will all turn out ok!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Well, don’t let yourself freak out yet– you’ve still got time, and options!
Have you been to any of the local plus-sized stores? Many of them carry that kind of thing on a regular basis anyway, and so even if it’s not “bridal” it can still look good.
On that same note, have you considered another color other than white? Maybe a pale pink or powder blue, not sure what your wedding color are, but finding something that ties into the overall color scheme might be easier than matching whites/ivories.
I can understand your frustration, and worry– I am making MAJOR changes to my dress (hacking off 1/3 of it from the bottom to make the front tea legnth with a mini-train instead of the semi-cathedral the dress came with, changing the bust/neckline, and adding straps) It was supposed to be ready on 6/21, and I STILL haven’t seen the changes, supposedly it’ll be ready tomorrow…
I’ll keep my fingers crossed for both of us!
Post # 6
If I still lived in Dallas, I wouldn’t be worried so much. But I live out in the middle of nowhere. I guess if I end up driving to that DB in a bigger town, I can look at other bridal stores there. As far as department stores go, I looked at all (three!) of them yesterday, and they had nothing…planning to try the special occassion shops today (all two of them haha).
Post # 7
@juliette.eliza: I will keep my fingers crossed for you. We only have one plus-sized store. 🙁
Post # 8
@PilotsGirl56: I think the david’s bridal is the best bet..it stinks it’s 2 hours away but if they have it, it will save you settling for something you aren’t happy in. I like the suggestion someone said about getting the bolero in your accent color it may give you that extra “wow effect”..that all brides look forward to. It would accent the colors you choose and blend everything and noone has to be the wiser that it was other issues that caused the look. Good luck.
Post # 9
I don’t know why you were told boleros are bad. They cover just enough of things you don’t want people to see but leave the dress itself open. Your range of movement is a bit limited but as a bride you are not going to be doing anything active at the wedding ceremony. You could take it off for dancing if you want to boogy 🙂
My favourite boleros are on Etsy because they are made to your measurements. I doubt you could get in 10 days from Israel. I think it takes about 2 weeks to get to Canada with regular mail. I think you might have better luck locally 🙂 Just smile, it will be OK! 🙂 Hugs
Here is a site in case you want to contact her (pretty much all can be made with longer sleeves): http://www.etsy.com/shop/maryandangelika?section_id=5705909
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for all your help. I found one at David’s Bridal in a sheer ivory chiffon that worked perfectly. It covers the backfat in the back and looks like wide straps in the front. It is perfect! 😀 I can’t believe that I will be able to show off the whole look to you Bees a week from tomorrow. Yay!
Post # 11
It’s nice to hear good news. Enjoy your day!