Post # 1
I have a fairly close family and my cousin is having a 5 pm Friday evening wedding. I want to bring my son who will be about 10 months old so we can get pictures and everything. Normally if bring him to the ceremony so that he was technically there but in this case the the ceremony and reception are at the same place about an hour away. I will be 6.5-7 months pregnant so drinking and having much fun aren’t in the plans anyway… And I believe there will be other children there.
Post # 2
LadySmurph: If your cousin invited your son I don’t see a problem with bringing him.
Post # 3
housebee: when she started planning I asked her if he was invited and she said yes. But then she sent the invites and he wasn’t mentioned… I know a lot of people include children on the inside envelope, i think. Lol
Post # 4
If the invite was addressed only to you and your SO, then I would assume your son is not invited. I would call and ask before bringing him.
I’m not sure you should be planning on using her wedding as a photo opportunity though…
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
LadySmurph: If he wasn’t included on the envelope, it sounds like he wasn’t actually invited. But she could have just forgotten, or assumed you already knew. I would suggest deferring to the bride: send her an email (so she can respond delicately at her leisure, not put on the spot with a phone call) asking if she thinks it’s appropriate for you to bring a 10-month-old. The answer may be yes, or it may be no. Whatever she says, accept it graciously.
If you do bring him, just be mindful of the other guests and their experience. I was at a wedding once where someone had a fussy little one, so the parents took turns walking the baby up and down the aisle of the church trying to sooth it (jiggling, cooing, shhing, etc.) It was incredibly rude and distracting – the kid should’ve been taken outside or, at the very least, into the foyer. So don’t be that guy lol.
Post # 6
I probably wouldn’t bring him. I don’t think weddings are the right atmosphere for babies. I personally wouldn’t bring my 11 month old to a wedding. I’d be way too paranoid she would cry at an inappropriate time.
Post # 7
I would call to check since she told you yes he was invited before but he’s not on the invitation.
Post # 8
LadySmurph: I wouldn’t bring him. I’m having a night wedding too. I addressed the enevelope the same way, not including the children. If people ask if they can bring their kids, I say yes, but I’m trying to minimize the amount of kids there. To me, an evening wedding is not kid friendly.
Ultimately, it’s up to you. But, I would find a babysitter for the night.
Post # 9
LadySmurph: Is he ok if he is overtired? I know my son will party and be pleasant if he’s out and about and entertained. If he’s the kind of kid who falls apart then I would skip it. Also, 10 months is a busy age. My 9 month old screeches and yells and wants to get into everything.
Post # 10
I would call your cousin and ask to be sure.
Post # 11
Westwood: its not a photo op for my little family, I mean as in she loves my son and I know she’d want a picture with him. We always try and get a picture of all of the cousins at every major event. I honestly worry she’d be upset if I didn’t bring him!
I know if I ask she’ll say we bring him, so it’s really a personal choice, I guess.
My son’s a fussy little guy, that being said as long as he’s held which he would be as he’s the only baby in the fam and never gets put down, he’a wonderful. At this point I’m leaning on not bringing him because i have no idea how late it will go.