Post # 1
I used to be a relatively frequent poster, leading up to the wedding… but since the honeymoon, everything has gone down hill and I’ve been MIA.
We’ve been married for 10 months (married in May last year) and just before Christmas, we separated.
Those of you who read some of my previous posts, are probably not surprised… Part of me has to admit that I’m not either. There are days where I’m finally okay with it, and days where I have a rough go of it. Today is one of the rough days.
Sadly, after getting married my husband decided he no longer wanted to do couples counselling or anger management, his reason being that “well I have you now”, yet the way he speaks to me is nothing less than disgusting. I went on a trip with my parents back in December before we separated- husband was invited but couldn’t go because of work. About a week before I left we got in an argument over something stupid (like groceries, or cat litter?!) and he said “you know what, I hope you go fuck someone else on vacation” and I knew right then it was over. Once I came back I told him I wanted to separate… and since then it’s just a blur. WE’re still sharing the house because we’re both too stubborn to move out while we both pay the mortgage, and have a couple things to complete before we can put it up for sale.
I’m just having a rough time today and just needed to let it out a bit…
Post # 2
mayflowerbride13: Aww 🙁 I am so sorry to hear of your troubles, but it sounds like you made the right decision. *hugs*
Post # 3
I am so sorry hun. This is horrible. The only comfort I can offer is at least it happened now as opposed to 10 years from now.
Post # 4
mayflowerbride13: Sorry to hear 🙁 But it sounds like it’s for the best. *internet hugs*
Post # 5
Sorry you’re going through this. No matter how horrible and “for the better” this will be, it can’t be easy. Good luck.
Post # 6
You can take comfort in the fact that you were strong enough to walk away.
Some women would have wasted decades being treated badly.
Post # 7
I knew less than 30 days after I married my first husband that I had made a mistake. But it took me 3 children and 17 YEARS to finally end it. Good for you for standing up for your self respect. It takes an an increadibly strong woman to admit she made a mistake and stop the bleeding right away. I admire you for that. Now I am about to marry my jr high sweetheart and you better believe I learned something along the way.
Its one of the hardest things in the world to do, but I promise it will get better. You did the right thing.
Post # 9
Oh I’m so sorry. My husband and I separated after 10 months as well. We are living apart and doing therapy together right now, but I’m not sure where it will lead.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. i hope things work out for you either way.
Post # 11
Sorry to hear what you are going through. How are you doing now.
I knwo there isnt really anythig “right” to say in this situations, but just remember a door closes for a door to open. And hopefully you learned something about yourself in this situation.. and are in a happy situation now.
All the best to you!