- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
This weekend was full of celebration for my sister’s wedding. Her & BIL chose an expensive, formal venue with about 90 guests. It was beautiful & very well thought out, Sis was so calm in comparison to what I expected. The Out of Town guests all stayed in the hotel & were able to get to know each other on our own terms which wound up being super fun! (BIL comes from a very outgoing Italian family that dance anytime music plays… this includes cell phone ringers, elevator/lobby music. LOL) Anyway, seeing her wedding made Mr.A & I realize a few things.
1.) 90 people is a lot when placed in a small confined space- we are planning on 80 or so max but are now more willing to downsize
2.) We do not want our family in the same hotel we will be staying in, there will be no privacy or sleeping in. Guests are as excited as the bride & groom and you will be flooded with congrats at all times of day or night. Even their breakfast turned into a family affair.
3.) Provide tissues… & hand sanitizer! Nobody likes shaking boogery or tear stained hands.
4.) FOOD- as cool of an idea as “cocktail” (see below) hour is, the concept no longer fits in to our plan, we need to find an alternate time for family pictures. Guests were very hungry, mostly the kiddos, and that hour is far too long to make them wait and then have them wait another 30-45 minutes before being served dinner. We are now thinking that we will send everyone to start dinner while we do photos. Also, we will be double checking our menu, in Sis’ case the restaurant blew everyone’s plate by including mushrooms… the groom is allergic as, are other family members.
5.) Alcohol- FH does not drink and doesn’t really want alcohol served, mostly because he does not want to be responsible for anyone’s inability to drink in moderation thus creating safety issues. Lucky for us we cannot afford to pick up extra insurance, buy alcohol, or hire a bartending service. Sis’ reception was awesome but even I found myself having 3 glasses of wine between cocktail hour & dinner then 2 Jack & Coke to celebrate with my Dad & Grandfather. (This is not a norm and I was reminded as to why this morning. lol) Since our festivities will end early I am thinking that we may invite VIPs to meet us at our favorite bar for some dancing and celebration. It will give them a chance to cut loose, be 45 minutes closer to home, and take the pressure off of us.
6.) Kids, even in a wedding party, will be kids. They may or may not be angelic, walk when they are supposed to, or be cute for photos… Just have to wing it! Side note: Bribing does not always work… 🙂
7.) My Daddy is a baby, he bawls and says/does goofy things the entire way down the aisle. He will also be unable to toast at the reception… he becomes speechless & cries more. All of this is compensated by his ability to dance and tell his daughter & son in law his thoughts in private… & cry some more.
8.) Delegate!!!! People are willing to help out, use them.
9.) Brides are not allowed to disappear for bathroom breaks bewteen dinner & dancing. The dj may tell everyone where you are, sending a rush of estrogen in your direction… this prolongs the process.
10.) Nothing is as bad as is it seems… let it go. (This will be hard for me, I am an anxious person and an unplanned change in plans bothers me greatly!)
Last, but most importantly, I learned that the original fairytale wedding I dreamed of, much like what my older sister had, is not really what I wanted. Our small budget, country-casual wedding is perfect for us! Admittedly, I have been oober jealous of some things that she was planning but looking at it now, that is a “her” thing & I am soooooooo glad she got it!