Post # 1
Hello Bees! I’m going crazy with wedding planning and need some prespective from outside of my bubble. 🙂 We were going to have our wedding in London, but could not do the religious ceremony my fiance & his family wanted without some major hassle & time lag, so now its in NYC! But weddings cost more in NYC, A LOT more.
We have reached out to a dozen mid range caterers, all small family owned, local and known for great food. The cost for buffet is around $65-$75 per person, and plated $160-$200 per person. Exact same meal, two very different prices! This does NOT include drinks or dessert, or tips & taxes, or even chair rentals! We hope to be having about 100 guests, but might go over. We are paying for everything ourselves. Is it REALLY worth paying an extra $100 a head so that people won’t have to walk 10-15 feet to get their own yummy food? We asked about family style, its about $100-$125 per person.
We would like to have a rehearsal dinner for our out of town guests & close family (75% of those coming!), and a day after brunch for everyone invited. That 10k savings could go a lonnng way to paying for the rehearsal and day after events. BUT, we are having a funky but fancy event so a buffet might be look strange. And some guests will be snobs. (What can we do? They are relatives!) Our venue & florist look expensive, but they are actually cheap for NYC standards.
Am I totally off for thinking buffet would be best? Most of the receptions I have been to are plated.Anyone else out there had a fancier reception and a buffet? How did it go? Thanks!!!
P.S. I hope everyone else in the path of Sandy is safe, warm and dry! We got spared, but so many didnt!!
Post # 3
$100pp more for plated? No way. Go for buffet or, if it’s an option, family style.
I’ve never been to a wedding with a plated dinner. Always buffet. It was just fine and no one complained. As long as you make sure grandparents and older guests can get a hot meal easily, it won’t be a problem.
Post # 4
@asi2001: Are you 100% set on having the reception in NYC? I know the place I’m having our recption at in northern NJ is closer to $100 pp for a plated meal. I think its $125 for a sat in June (including food, tables, chairs, linens, open bar). The price varies by month. In August its $110 pp. I would also see if it is cheaper if you move the wedding to Friday or Sunday. Or consider getting married in a different, less popular month. If you want more info about my venue please feel free to pm me.
ETA: How many people are you planning for?
Post # 5
Definitely not worth it, especially considering that a lot of people prefer buffet anyway, and you get the same food.
Post # 6
@mepayne: That’s a good point about elderly guests! Thanks! Maybe we could do the buffet and hire an extra server to help people who can’t or shouldn’t leave their seat? Also, printing a menu for everyone might be a good idea.
Post # 7
Not worth it for me. I like buffets as long as there is plenty and it’s hot! That way I can pick what I want and how much of it.
Post # 8
NO WAY! That is a huge difference and in my opinion would be a frivolous expense. I prefer plated meals but could never justify spending $100 more especially since the food options will be the same.
Post # 9
I was at a wedding last month that I would describe as “funky and fancy”, it was in a very nicely and fancy decorated studio space, and they had a very nice buffet. The food was great! I am a person who doesn’t mid getting up to get my food though (it seems some people are). I also like to have choices and take however much I want haha. But really I don’t think it takes too much away from a nice evening, unless you want you wedding to be very formal, not just fancy.
Post # 10
I wouldnt spend $100 on myself to eat, let alone a bunch of other people. Heck, I wouldnt even pay $65. XD
Post # 11
@asscherlover: My Fiance is set on it! I jokingly suggested having it in my parents’ backyard in South NJ, and he looked at me like I had two heads, LOL! I’m in school full rime in a very intense program, so only the most popular summer months work for us.
We are having about 100 people. No price difference from caterers if we do it on a Friday or a Sunday! Most of our guests are from out of the US and don’t drive or know the area well. Thanks for the offer, but I sadly don’t think any NJ venue would work!
Post # 12
@starfish695: No, we are not very formal people! Our parents are a bit, but no one else invited is. Whew, that is making me feel better!! I just want the food to be good & warm and fuel people for dancing in the long run!
Post # 13
I usually prefer sit-down dinner over buffets, but not for $100 more a plate! Go for the buffet!
Post # 14
I’ve never been to a wedding that is buffet style so I don’t know how I feel about it personally. Howver, At the end of the day, you know your budget and you have to prioritize things and decidenits the plated meal is worth the extra money. On the day of your wedding, I’m sure your friends and family won’t judge you for going with the buffet, like you said, it’s the same meal.
Post # 15
I absolutely do not like buffet weddings. But an extra $100/head is ridiculous, especially because its less food. You may be paying for the extra waitstaff needed to serve everyone. Regardless, I’d do the buffet.
Post # 16
So, I don’t prefer buffet weddings, but that being said, 100 extra? No way. Go for the buffet! 🙂