Post # 1
So 100% of our guests that we would like to invite are OTT to our wedding site. We’re talking across the country flight OOT.
The wedding party + family + close close family friends = about 50. All those 50 people are a lock for the wedding. Out site only holds 80 people. I’m hesitant to invite all 110 people (that number includes the 50 people from above) that we would like to b/c knowing my luck and the fact that all of the people on the list are super travellers, we would go over our 80 number for the reception site.
The wedding is January 8th (a Friday).
Any insight is super helpful. Our STD’s go out at the end of the month so I have to come up with a plan before then.
Post # 3
Create an A list of no more than 80-90 people and a B list and only send save the dates to the A list. Send out two rounds of invitations closer to your wedding depending on the responses of the A list.
OR, have your family, your fiance’s family, yourself, and your fiance personally call or email your own A & B list guests and get a feeler for whether or not they’d be able to attend. My fiance’s mother is doing feeler calls to her family for us so that we don’t wind up with grossly too many or too few people. You’ll always get a few that will say that they can’t make it and find out that they can after you send them the invite and invited others in their place, but it will give you a good idea. Just leave a few person cushion.
Post # 4
Of the folks in question, is there an easy way to divide up who you initve and who you don’t? While I’m not typically a fan of A and B lists, in some cases there OK. But I don’t know if they’d be OK in your case. If it’s a matter of whether you invite just aunts and uncle, or aunts/uncles and cousins, I don’t see how you can. It would come across as pretty insulting. I guess the only time I could possibly see an A and B list, is if you have enough guest who wonl’t know each other at all.
When you say they’re good travellers, what do you mean? They travel a lot? They don’t mind planes? They have a lot of money? Are many of them retired? If your wedding is on a Friday, I would think you’d have some declines because people would be taking two vacation days. although FL in January would be pretty inviting.
If you can get a feel from guests or your parents, as to how likely people would be to go, that would help. If you really think that all of these folks would go, I would only invite some, if you can make a clear division on who to include and exclude.
Post # 5
Together we have about 10 family members. No cousins, only one aunt. The only older people are my grandparents.
The people that we are on the fence about are between 25-35, employed with good jobs, no children, have vacation time etc. They travel all the time, don’t mind spending the money etc. Some are my sorority sisters, so if you invite one, you invite the whole bach of them (with their SO’s total of around 12 people). Some are FI’s work people. Again, invite one, invite all (so another 20).
My family friends are all coming. There are only about 10 of them.
So the choice is, invite the block of sorority girls OR his work people. We can’t pick an choose out of either of those groups of people.
Post # 6
Oh- forgot, I don’t think that feeler calls are going to work for either of these 2 groups of people. Gossip hounds if you will. They’ll know what’s up and I would hate to have them start talking amongst themselves, if you know what I mean.