I have a really close friend getting married next month. I took on making her invitations for her during the last month of my own wedding planning. I basically had to shove aside most of my stuff to do her stuff and I did it because she was such a good friend and helping her plan her wedding which she only had 4 months to plan.
She wasn't exactly the easiest person to work with, but again she was a stressed good friend. I understood.
Her wedding falls on a weekend that Mr S had bought me tickets to see my favorite comedian out of town. She was sad that I may not be able to make it and I was too, again because she was a great friend and being there on her day was important to me and her. I sold my tickets, canceled my birthday trip...she was so excited and thanked me and said that she was looking forward to having me there.
Well with less then 3 weeks to her wedding I noticed I didn't yet have my invite. I know she has my correct address because she mails me invites to all sorts of "come to my house and buy stuff" parties....so I contacted a mututal friend and invites went out, she got hers and already has our friend texting to make sure that she's coming.....
Not to mention, she RSVP'd but didn't even bother to show up to my wedding last month....
SO I'm ticked off because I sold my FRONT ROW tickets to a show I was dying to see, bent over backwards for her and there's no invite. And I know there's no money issue, she's loaded and so is her family. I discussed money with her when we were making her invites so that I knew what paper and what not to order for her.
Should I contact her? SHould I let it go? SHould I send a nasty e-mail? Should I just disregard her as a friend all together....
call her! that is really horrible if she decided to not invite you however...especially if you made the invites! Maybe she already counted you as coming, since she already knew you were and you did the invites? Why didn't she show up to yours?
Well I thought that too, hoewever knowing thatI made them she knew (because I asked) for her to send me one because Iwanted to keep it....I'm really irritated.
Before you really get mad at her, make sure it wasn't lost in the mail or something.
Just have the mutual friend mentioned that she spoke to you and you didn't have an invite yet. If you were supposed to get one, she'll get in touch with you. If you're not invited the mutual friend can pass that on.
Since she verbally invited you and you had access to the invites, she probably just assumed you kept one for yourself. I bet you're invited and it's all a misunderestanding. I would call her and tell her you hope her verbal invitation still stands, and I bet she says yes.
never send a nasty email until you know ths story! You may regret it later! :)
Call her and calmly ask if she sent an invitation. Give her the benefit of doubt, and allow her to explain. Maybe it was lost in the mail. Maybe she forgot about your request to send one. Etc. Don't sound confrontational - that always makes people defensive. You want to know the truth, so be as open as possible. Then, you can choose whether it's something to get mad over or not.
And while you're talking to her, ask why she didn't attend your wedding after she rsvp'ed she'd attend.
I would say call her for sure. I did a friends invites and we never got them, but they had noted us as a yes for everything.
In addition I sent out my invites well over three weeks ago. Today the 5th is my RSVP deadline. Today in the mail I got two invites returned. One is my grandparents who never mentioned they didn't get an invite and good friends of ours who I am sure think I am completely rude for inviting them to my shower but not to my wedding. They live in the same city as us too so this is super annoying. However I had no idea that some people didn't get invites no one said anything to me.
Call her, especially if she is as good a friend as you say!
Hey gals, I have a vent/question here.
I have a really close friend getting married next month. I took on making her invitations for her during the last month of my own wedding planning. I basically had to shove aside most of my stuff to do her stuff and I did it because she was such a good friend and helping her plan her wedding which she only had 4 months to plan.
She wasn't exactly the easiest person to work with, but again she was a stressed good friend. I understood.
Her wedding falls on a weekend that Mr S had bought me tickets to see my favorite comedian out of town. She was sad that I may not be able to make it and I was too, again because she was a great friend and being there on her day was important to me and her. I sold my tickets, canceled my birthday trip...she was so excited and thanked me and said that she was looking forward to having me there.
Well with less then 3 weeks to her wedding I noticed I didn't yet have my invite. I know she has my correct address because she mails me invites to all sorts of "come to my house and buy stuff" parties....so I contacted a mututal friend and invites went out, she got hers and already has our friend texting to make sure that she's coming.....
Not to mention, she RSVP'd but didn't even bother to show up to my wedding last month....
SO I'm ticked off because I sold my FRONT ROW tickets to a show I was dying to see, bent over backwards for her and there's no invite. And I know there's no money issue, she's loaded and so is her family. I discussed money with her when we were making her invites so that I knew what paper and what not to order for her.
Should I contact her? SHould I let it go? SHould I send a nasty e-mail? Should I just disregard her as a friend all together....
I'm so mad right now!!!
posted by Sweeney2Be 1,488 posts 2 months agocall her! that is really horrible if she decided to not invite you however...especially if you made the invites! Maybe she already counted you as coming, since she already knew you were and you did the invites? Why didn't she show up to yours?
posted by dreambml 425 posts 2 months agoWell I thought that too, hoewever knowing thatI made them she knew (because I asked) for her to send me one because Iwanted to keep it....I'm really irritated.
posted by Sweeney2Be 1,488 posts 2 months agoBefore you really get mad at her, make sure it wasn't lost in the mail or something.
Just have the mutual friend mentioned that she spoke to you and you didn't have an invite yet. If you were supposed to get one, she'll get in touch with you. If you're not invited the mutual friend can pass that on.
posted by rosychicklet 311 posts 2 months agoSince she verbally invited you and you had access to the invites, she probably just assumed you kept one for yourself. I bet you're invited and it's all a misunderestanding. I would call her and tell her you hope her verbal invitation still stands, and I bet she says yes.
posted by snmcdowell 467 posts 2 months agoI would say that you are invited and something has either happened to the invite or she just thinks you know.
Now, why didn't she come to your wedding?
posted by KateMW 483 posts 2 months agonever send a nasty email until you know ths story! You may regret it later! :)
Call her and calmly ask if she sent an invitation. Give her the benefit of doubt, and allow her to explain. Maybe it was lost in the mail. Maybe she forgot about your request to send one. Etc. Don't sound confrontational - that always makes people defensive. You want to know the truth, so be as open as possible. Then, you can choose whether it's something to get mad over or not.
And while you're talking to her, ask why she didn't attend your wedding after she rsvp'ed she'd attend.
posted by Krista 102 posts 2 months agoI would say call her for sure. I did a friends invites and we never got them, but they had noted us as a yes for everything.
In addition I sent out my invites well over three weeks ago. Today the 5th is my RSVP deadline. Today in the mail I got two invites returned. One is my grandparents who never mentioned they didn't get an invite and good friends of ours who I am sure think I am completely rude for inviting them to my shower but not to my wedding. They live in the same city as us too so this is super annoying. However I had no idea that some people didn't get invites no one said anything to me.
Call her, especially if she is as good a friend as you say!
posted by SanFranBride 25 posts 2 months agoI'd call her. Probably she just thought that you didn't need an invite since you designed them. She's clueless, but I wouldn't go off on her just yet.
posted by livvie 88 posts 2 months ago