I'm one week away from the RSVP deadline and six weeks away from the wedding. It's looking like we'll be ten people under where we thought we'd be. (We were aiming for 125-130.)
I'm wondering whether to just let it be a smaller reception (<115) and have fewer people per table or add a few more guests. There are a handful of people we didn't invite for fear of going over our maximum number. Is it weird to invite people so close to the wedding? I'm concerned it's a little awkward since these people know I'm getting married and haven't heard anything. Will they be insulted knowing they were on the b-list? I assume that I can't use the RSVP cards that we originally printed since they list the Sept. 12 deadline date. Should I add them and, if so, what's the best etiquette for extending them an invitation?
Good evening! As a general etiquette rule of thumb, inviting additional guests so close to your RSVP date (for a wedding or any event for that matter) is considered to be poor form. Regardless you're paying for the venue's minimum and inviting someone who knew about the event for months and is just now getting an invitation could easily be insulted.
My best advice to you is to put yourself in their shoes. Would you feel a little, or a lot, put off if someone invited you to an event at the "last minute" when you've known about it for months?
I personally do not believe in "B" lists. I encourage clients to be mindful when crafting their guest lists and invite only the people who are important and significant in your life to share such a serious milestone event. You're nail tech or other acquaintences do not generally hold such a place in your life. Please don't misconstrue my meaning, I am merely illustrating a point.
Keep a watch on my blog, http://occasionista.typepad.com for a more elaborate blog post on this topic. I know there are a lot of brides struggling with this very topic.
I hope this helps and wish you happiness for many years.
I'm one week away from the RSVP deadline and six weeks away from the wedding. It's looking like we'll be ten people under where we thought we'd be. (We were aiming for 125-130.)
I'm wondering whether to just let it be a smaller reception (<115) and have fewer people per table or add a few more guests. There are a handful of people we didn't invite for fear of going over our maximum number. Is it weird to invite people so close to the wedding? I'm concerned it's a little awkward since these people know I'm getting married and haven't heard anything. Will they be insulted knowing they were on the b-list? I assume that I can't use the RSVP cards that we originally printed since they list the Sept. 12 deadline date. Should I add them and, if so, what's the best etiquette for extending them an invitation?
posted by dmdwed 56 posts 2 months agodmdwed,
Good evening! As a general etiquette rule of thumb, inviting additional guests so close to your RSVP date (for a wedding or any event for that matter) is considered to be poor form. Regardless you're paying for the venue's minimum and inviting someone who knew about the event for months and is just now getting an invitation could easily be insulted.
My best advice to you is to put yourself in their shoes. Would you feel a little, or a lot, put off if someone invited you to an event at the "last minute" when you've known about it for months?
I personally do not believe in "B" lists. I encourage clients to be mindful when crafting their guest lists and invite only the people who are important and significant in your life to share such a serious milestone event. You're nail tech or other acquaintences do not generally hold such a place in your life. Please don't misconstrue my meaning, I am merely illustrating a point.
Keep a watch on my blog, http://occasionista.typepad.com for a more elaborate blog post on this topic. I know there are a lot of brides struggling with this very topic.
I hope this helps and wish you happiness for many years.
au revior mon cherie,
Elizabeth "The Occasionista"
posted by occasionista 16 posts 2 months ago