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Wow that is sad!

That is so sad.

I just feel so sad for her because she doesn't even want to try to continue with her education.  And the whole situation can't be good on her young body.

Puddling I was wondering the same thing. I know all those weddings we make fun of where the girls are dresses outrageously is from a similar culture. It's what they know and how they live. We are brought up VERY differently, but she is so happy. I feel sorry for her, but should I? 

My son just turned 11.

He believes in Santa Claus.

He plays with his transformer toys.

He watched Sponge Bob.

To think that a CHILD can be sexualized like that when they're still a child is a crime to me in any country.  My son is now going out to play with his little buddies.  They're re-working part of their tree fort.

That is how kids should be raised.  To be kids WHEN THEY ARE kids.  Adulthood will creep up soon enough.

My son doesn't watch R rated movies.  We don't watch shows that are open with lots of sexual content either.  I don't have T spend the night at our home when my son is here and we're very very careful what goes in his little ears.

Am I a realist?  100 percent.  If he has questions in the next year or so we'll answer them.  But he's not growing up fast.  No way. 

That little girls' parents imho should be jailed, not just the creep who impregnated her.

Btw, none of my friends' daughters have started getting Aung Flo yet and they're pretty much right along with me.  Some studies have shown that giving a girl a poor diet and eating foods rich in hormones (milk and meats) can bring the menses on much quicker.  I still can't believe it about that 11 year old.  Sick sick sick.  

This disgusts me. What 19 year old boy needs toget an 11 year old pregnant and marry her?

Well it's apparently a sad situation in that area of Europe.  Apparently that culture has a different perspective of child brides as evident in the ages of the grandmothers too and their ages of birth/marriage. 

The poor mom according to the article cannot even read or write.  My son could read at four.  I do not understand some other cultures that would rob their children of BEING children.  It is something I cannot at all wrap my brain around.

As for the comments, if it's news in that area of the world, then it must be something those people (sadly and disturbingly) are more accustomed to than we are.

I see it as a robbing of childhood to sexualize a child so early.  What 11 year old makes advances to an almost 20 year old on a playground as this girl did?  Seriously.

My son (11 also) is far too shy to even talk to a girl who he thinks is cute. 

Well I had grandparents who both grew up in poverty.  They were very very young during the great depression and my grandfather began working at age 12 and barely was able to attend school because of the tight finances.

My grandmother was denied her childhood too, as her parents both had to work in a factory making pennies during the great depression and she was home taking care of her siblings full time.  That was her job cooking and cleaning.

The little girl was raised by her grandma, who sounded as if she was home alot as she was aware of things the girl did in the article. 

I feel for kids in that kind of environment, but it makes you wonder about who is in charge of the children or who is their guardian.  When you become a parent you kinda things quite differently.

I know if I were in poverty, or that my circumstances were poor, my child would still be my top priority.  I'd find a way to be the best mom to him I'd be able to be.  I have had a friend who once lived in a homeless shelter and it was after her H left her (she is at my church) and she is and always was a great mom despite being dead broke for a few years.  That woman has my 100 percent respect and she's a hero to me btw.

I agree with you Ms. Pudding and your family are also heroes to me too!  I have a very good friend of mine (actually my ex boyfriend)  who is a clinician and he spends two weeks each summer providing health care to foreign people here who do a similar job task to that girls' parents.  It has to be very hard to be away from your kids and trust a relative to raise them well in your absence.  I hurt for those people but then again, I know I'd walk thru fire for my son and to have enough for a home for him.  My friend sees people like that all the time and his heart goes out to them too, that's why he gives them amazing medical care.  I also btw, donate $ to his cause/group.

W.O.W.

As far as the whole "should he go to jail" thing - the article states that the law there is that they are considered underage if they are under 14. Since she's 11, I say that he broke the law and he should be punished for that. I realize that it's a different culture, and I totally understand that, but it's still unlawful there for him to have sex with an 11 year old.

If it were here and it was an older guy having sex with a 15 year old girl (3 years under legal, same as in the story), he would definitely be sent to jail, regardless of whether or not they actually had a relationship.

I also just wanted to agree with those who have said it's not necessarily the fault of the girls parents - it's their culture. I think it's extremely sad that this girl is not going to get to have a real childhood, but I definitely don't think that we can judge something like that that's a completely different culture than what we have here.

so sad... the part that strikes me most is that she is quitting school. i believe that women are the world's greatest untapped resource. things are so much better in many parts of the world now.... but in a lot of countries and communities nothing is really expected/encouraged of women except making babies. i wonder how much different the world would be if women had equal opportunities for quality education (or any education even). 

I remember a previous hot topic thread regarding the Gypsy lifestyle. I'm not condoning children brides & mothers in ANY way, but they just live differently than most of us do! Teenage brides are very common in their culture.

However, this story is heartbreaking. She's 11. She shouldn't be married, she shouldn't have given birth... ugh. Her childhood is gone. She's a baby herself! I'm 23 & I couldn't even deal with a baby now!