Post # 1
I know that dsuhornets has got even less time than that.
I’m so excited. I can’t wait for my gf to be my wife. I must admit that I wasn’t this excited for my first trip down the aisle. Funny, things were soooo different back then. When my ex and I got together, I was fresh out of college. There were no “commitment ceremonies” and certainly no weddings. You just sort of moved in together although, in contrast to the old lesbian joke, it actually took us 3 whole months before we moved in together. My ex and I were together 22 years. We went thru alot. Are the mothers of triplets who were born after many years of infertilty, only to be concieved with her eggs in my body. We had one commitment ceremony when we were together 11 years and then a civil union ceremony after 21 years. Btw, she told me she was in love with someone else 1 month after the civil union ceremony.
Even after all we went thru together, I was never as excited to commit to her as I am to my soon to be wife.
This time, I’m letting myself enjoy all the “bride” stuff. I refused to “mimic” a het wedding for my first commitment ceremony. I certainly didn’t feel like a “bride”. This time, my sisters even got involved (amazing what a dying mother will do to strengthen familial bonds). We went shopping at Kleinfelds, even knowing that I would never spnd that sort of $ on a dress (although I started crying when I found THE dress at Klienfelds but knew I wouldn’t spend $2,400 on it!). They threw me a bridal shower (and we all zumba’d!!). Even my dad, my “moral-majority donating” dad will be there this time. Before she died, my mom told me that she would come this time if she could. She told me that this better be my last time. I will miss her soooo much.
Anyway, I wanted to share my excitement with the LBTG bees – especially those who remember what it was like when a gay wedding was just something to dream about. My soon to be wife went the straight route (although how that woman didn’t figure out she was gay until she was 45 is beyond me!!). She doesn’t sometime get how important this stuff is. She sort of takes it all for granted.
btw, I found an amazing wedding dress, almost exactly like the one at klienfelds, for $150 on one of the chinese dress sites. Gorgeous. Add another $150 for alterations and is my dream dress. I got my daughters their bridesmaids dresses there, too And my son will walk me down the aisle to give me away.
I can’t even look at the weather report in fears of jinxing it!
thanks for letting me babble.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heritage Square Museum
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I think you’re awesome and brave and lovely to share it here! And it made me tear up (and gave me such hope) to read that your family finally came around! Your mum is definitely gonna be there with you in spirit! 🙂 We’re dealing with the reality that F Stripes family is probably NOT showing up at our wedding and it’s crazy tough. For me. So it’s hard for me to even imagine the sadness she is feeling. The bigness of a wedding and a gay wedding at that is totally amazing and overwhelming to me sometimes! AND it sounds like you are ready and oh so deserving of all the happiness that’s coming your way! Thanks for being part of our little corner here on WB and have a wonderful wedding! Lots of love and well wishes to ALL involved! 🙂
Post # 4
Wishing you both a lovely lovely wedding and so happy for you! Yes, you deserve everything that goes with being a bride!
I know your mom is smiling and so happy for you too, looking down, just as my father is and grandparents are doing with me too. My heartfelt sympathy to you in having to endure her loss during this time.
Congratulations to you both 🙂
Post # 5
Stripes – one thing that I had to realize at my first cermony (when dad didn’t show at all and mom only came to reception) was that if I didn’t want them changing my views, then it wouldn’t be fair to try and change theirs. for me, at least, I knew that they loved me (loved my ex, also) but, in their minds, it wasn’t right for gay people to get married. They since changed their minds, having kids helped that, I think.
I hope that your fiance at least feels loved by her family and you feel accepted by them. If not, it’s a real shame, especially for them. Family is family, love is love. many blessings to both of you.
Post # 6
You’re story touched my heart and resonated so well with me. As I had mentioned before, I recently lost my Grandma, so I totally understand your pain. I’m so happy that your Dad is going to be there by your side on your special day-the day you commit to the love of your life.
I have 3 days left, and am a mix of emotions. I’m happy to be marrying my honey, and sad that my grandma won’t be there in the flesh to celebrate with us. The only advice I can give you is to breathe deep breaths several times a day, and do check the weather. It is a must. I have been weather stalking, and am happy with the results. The bees are always here for support, so feel free to tap into this amazing network anytime.
Post # 7
You have brought a tear to my eye, your story truly warms my heart. I wish you and your WTB health and happiness in the years to come. Congratulations 🙂 x
Post # 8
yea for you! glad you are “bride”ing it up! congratulations, and so glad to hear that your dad will be in attendance. i don’t know if you believe in this sort of thing, but i tend to think that your mom will be there in spirit. 🙂
also, you should post pics of what your dress looks like!
Post # 9
I just wanted to know that reading this really moved me. Good luck to you and your partner this weekend.
Post # 11
I loved reading your story; your excitement is contagious!
I came out late in life. Okay so I was out as “bi” from age 17 or so but not to my mom. I married a guy, stayed married to him even though it was a nightmare for 7 years, together for 10.
I came out to my mom at age 31. Before that I’d had girlfriends but nothing serious and nothing really “public”.
I married my ex for all the wrong reasons; I had a child from a casual affair before meeting my ex. Met my ex when my son was about 18 months old. He offered security and I wanted another baby, badly. We ended up marrying in the courthouse but originally planned a big wedding and I remember when plannign that wedding how it was exciting but all about me and the dress and the atmosphere. I wasn’t excited about becoming his wife. crazy huh?
It is so different now. I cannot wait to marry Fiance (we’ve been together 7 years) and all the excitement is about MARRYING HER! My focus has totally shifted. I just wish my mom was on board.
Post # 12
I’m loving these stories of other LGBTQ couples who are so excited to marry their SO’s!! There’s just not enought of this in regular media, magazine, blogs, etc. Congrats to you all!