Post # 1
So the first thing i read this morning was an email from one of my bridesmaids. she lives in LA and i am here in chicago. she wrote in her email that plane tickets got way to expensive and she cannot afford to fly out! all i was thinking is 12 days! are you serious!?! i figured i woud have her rush send me her dress so i can ask someone ese last minute. turns out here dress isn’t even in yet! i am sorta freaking out. i just hope there is enough time to get the dress here and altered by the wedding next weekend!!! any advice?
Post # 3
Yikes! That was really irresponsible of her to wait so long to buy her ticket. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this.
Are you sure you want to hunt down a replacement bridesmaid this late in the game? Do you have someone in mind that you’d love to have in the wedding but didn’t think you had room for, or are you just trying to make the sides even? Because unless there’s a particular person who’s really special to you that you’d like to ask, I think you should skip the stress of getting the dress rush shipped to you and altered, and just have one less bridesmaid than groomsman. My wedding had 4 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen, and it worked great!
Post # 4
That’s terrible. I hope everything works out for you, and that you haven’t already prepared your programs (if you’re doing them).
Post # 5
I am so sorry to hear that, I hope that everything works out for you. We have enough to worry about in these last 12 days
Post # 6
Wow i’m sorry but she definitely dropped the ball. Those tickets should have been bought MONTHS ago. That’d make me mad…definitely irresponsible
Don’t worry about replacing her. Just move forward without her.
Post # 7
The fill-in BM might be a bit hurt knowing her status. Oh and the stress of dealing with the dress! Just go with uneven #s. One of my BMs dropped out sort of last minute (3 wks-1 month), but her son was diagnosed with cancer. We worked it so my brother walked me down the aisle, and then took his place as a GM, and for the recessional, my niece had two escorts.
Post # 8
Wow, that sucks 🙁 I agree with the PP’s – don’t worry about a replacement, just enjoy your day!
Post # 9
Why did she wait so long to get the ticket!? Could you help her with the ticket?? sometimes if you buy tickets at the lasst minute, they’e cheaper because they want to fill the seats so I would keep looking. Try http://us.lastminute.com/ they usually have cheap flights.
Post # 10
I’d move forward without her- so rude and irresponsible 🙁
Post # 11
If you’re able to help her by paying for her ticket and really want her there, I second what jspeby said and see if you can find a cheap flight. I also totally agree with what some of the other posters have said: assuming she didn’t find out about your wedding yesterday, this is something that really should have been taken care of ages ago.
Anyhoo, otherwise go with uneven numbers.
Post # 12
UGH! Totally irresponsible. I would be really upset, moreso over the fact that she didn’t take it seriously enough to buy her tickets in advance, knowing she had agreed to this. I don’t care how expensive the tickets are… why did you wait? And why did you agree to the wedding- knowing you would have to travel, if you couldn’t financially swing it? The ecomony is rough, we all know it, but she is friend enough that you asked her to be your BM so she must be pretty close with you… I would think she could sacrifice the money, knowing how important your friendship is.
Have you considered maybe that you pay half of her way and she pay the other half? I know it isn’t FAIR to you, but if she is your BM I am sure you really want her to be there for you. I know one of my friends had a few people who had to fly as BMs and she paid for either their plane ticket or their dress. I thought that was a nice gesture, not something I think is a must, but still nice as one didn’t have much.
Post # 13
Goodness, how irresponsible and inconsiderate! I agree with the others, if there’s no way financially to make it work I’d go with uneven numbers. But I cannot believe that she didn’t make her travel plans as soon as she was asked to be a bridesmaid!
Post # 14
Oh man, that is terrible. Very irresponsible of your bm. I agree with what people said above—if you really want her there, see if you have it in your budget to help pay for some of her ticket. Otherwise, I would just not worry about replacing her and go with uneven #’s. I hope everything works out for you! Good luck!
Post # 15
Wow, what a friend right?! To think she hadn’t even bought the plane ticket knowing well in advance your wedding date!! I would be so angry and hurt! But what can you do but move on…I say don’t worry about having to replace her, that would cause more stress! There’s nothing wrong with uneven numbers in the bridal party, a lot more people are doing it these days! Besides I think if you were to ask someone at the last minute that might hurt their feelings too knowing that their just a replacement!
Post # 16
omg, i would be mortified and terribly mad at my friend for not getting herself in gear and buying a ticket ahead of time. I feel for you – if i were in Chicago i’d help you out 😛