Post # 1
I would love to have my 14 year old daughter by my side, and it wouldn’t be as approprate for her to be a bridesmaid with my other friend, as she is SO super important to me and we are pretty close as far as single moms and teenagers go. I know that she can’t do many of the things that a MOH is usually responcible for so I was thinking of also “promoting” my long time friend (and my daughter’s GodMother) to Co-MOH so that she can step in and help out when a car, credit card, or ability to stay up late on a school night might be essential. My FI wondered if A:it was ok to have my daughter as MOH. and B: if it might be too must responcibility for her.
Next question is ….my potential Co-MOH is divorced. Would she still be called a Matron of Honor or does she have to be a Maid also since she is now unmarried?
Post # 3
PS. I haven’t asked any of them yet, so there won’t actually be a Promotion converstation. lol
Post # 4
I think it is absolutely ok to have your daughter in your wedding, even as a MOH. The MOH is supposed to be the person who you feel is the most important to you, who you most want beside you on your special day.
Think of it this way…. if your daughter were 18+ and had a car and could fulfill all the typical MOH duties, would you even be asking this question?
Lots of people do Co-MOH for lots of reasons. My best friend is going to have two: I will be the “Lady of Honor” (b/c she hates the word Matron) and a “Man of Honor”. We will share all the duties together.
Alternately, if you don’t want to do two MOHs but still want your daughter to be MOH, you might find an adult relative who would be willing top pick up the slack in planning showers and parties. This is what happened when FI’s cousin had her younger sister as MOH- she was in HS at the time and didn’t have the means or money to plan everything herself, so FI’s mom (the bride’s aunt) helped with all the shower planning.
But you are absolutely allowed to have Co-MOH, and you are allowed to have your daughter be one of them.
Post # 5
Aside from the fact that you are giving your daughter the title of MOH, because she cannot do any MOH duties and you need a CO-MOH, in reality she would still just be a junior bridesmaid, even though she would have the title of MOH.
Post # 6
I think it is so sweet to have your daughter be your MOH. She means the most to you in the whole world and it would be weird NOT having her by your side. There is also nothing wrong with having co-MOH. They both mean so much to you and you want your closest friends there with you.
If you do decide to have your friend as a Co-MOH, ask her if she would like to be referred to as Matron or Maid or something else entirely.
Post # 7
I was the MOH for my mom when I was 16. I didnt plan anything, but my aunt planned the few activities she had and she wasnt even in the wedding. At this point its really about title and not responsibility. I think its just fine to have her be MOH and to ask your friend to do planning with your daughter whether or not she has the title.
Post # 8
Your daughter should be your “Maid of Honor” and your friend should be your “Matron of Honor.” Your friend has been married and there for she is no longer a “maid” in the traditional sense (sounds funny I know!). I think doing it this way will allow you to incorporate them both in a special way 🙂
Post # 9
I had my daughter as my MOH last year when she was 13. She thought it was the coolest thing on the planet and bragged to everyone. 🙂 My mom and my other two bridesmaids helped out.