Post # 1
I am new to the site. A co-worker told me about this once she heard of my engagement (She got married last year). My fiance and I have been together for 14 years and have 3 children(3, 11, 13). For years now we have been saying that we already feel like we are married, and it’s more me that wanted to wait until we had the $ to have the biggest wedding we could possibly have. At this point though, we still end up having to work with a semi small budget (6-8,000). But I think that’s doable. I am going to DIY as much as I can-invites, boquets, & centerpieces. We haven’t picked an exact date yet, but we know we want to do it Sept. 2015. We just got engaged on Valentine’s Day!
Are there any other Bees that have been with their SO for 10+ years before getting married?
Post # 2
NO but we have been together 5 and have a kid. What made you decide to get married now? And were you waiting just because of the wedding? Did it feel different to finally be engaged or do you still feel like it is the same because your relationship was already strong? Just curious and if you don’t feel like answer that’s fine.
Post # 3
14yearsstrong: Yes ma’am. We have been together for 15 years. Now engaged & wedding will be next year. We have no kids tho.
Post # 4
We have been together 23 years, married for (almost) 1.
Congrats! Your budget is totally doable.
Oh! And 2 beautiful sons, 16 and 21.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
14yearsstrong: Yep – we got together quite young and were together for 13 years before we got engaged… we wanted to be fully settled into careers and feel like “grownups” first, which apparently took until our early 30s. We had a wonderful relationship beforehand, we had a super awesome fun wedding, and we love being married. Congrats, it’s an exciting time!
bluefrog33: to answer your question: I didn’t think getting engaged / married would change things, since we already considered ourselves life partners for sure. But it does feel just a little more comfortable and secure, which is cool.
Post # 6
14yearsstrong: I was with my husband for 5 years when we got married, but I don’t think there is ever a specific time to get married to the person you love, it’s just what works for each couple. Congrats on your engagement and upcoming wedding!
Post # 7
we got engaged last august, made 9 years together in november, will make 10 years this november, then getting married next march. we dont have any kids together, and have been together since we were 16 & 17, so i feel like its really not a big deal that we’ve waited so long to actually get married. Congratulations to your family! Do you plan on incorporating your kids into the ceremony??
Post # 8
DH and I were together for 11 1/2 years before we walked down the aisle. Our DD was 2 weeks away from turning 8 at the time. We did everything backwards… baby, house, then marriage.
Post # 9
We’re getting married next June which will be a couple of months after our 10 year anniversary.
We don’t have or want any children but we have lived together for over 8 years so I’m not expecting much to change… it’s just the icing on the cake really 🙂
Post # 10
lolot: awesome. Thanks. That’s kind of what I figured. Now that we are closer to getting married I definetly feel the way you said.
Post # 12
Lolot I totally agree, it’s not changing a whole lot but it is exciting to plan the wedding & feels good to make it official.
Post # 13
theEguarantee: yes, my two boys will be the ring bearers and my daughter will be the flower girl!
Post # 14
brighteyedgirl: yes, everything backwards haha.
Post # 15
14yearsstrong: Yep, DH and I got married last August just 12 days before our 10 year anniversary (so it was close)! We got engaged on our 9 year anniversary and married the following Fall.
We started dating young (15 and 17) and got married at 25 and 27. We wanted to wait until after college and a few years into our careers. Our goal was to feel emotionally, financially and career stable. Long term dating before marriage isn’t for everyone, but we have no regrets about it!