Post # 1
My wedding is in 15 days. My fiance and I just had our 11 year anniversary this past weekend, there are only the little details left to do and i’m completely over this wedding. I’m not even excited for it. After an 11 year courtship, i already feel married. This year has been very busy for us and not very easy. My paternal grandmother passed 2 days before my birthday (end of january) and the day we set her to rest my 88 year old maternal grandmother went into the hospital. She just got home last week to hospis at her home. needless to say my past and fourthcoming family losses have taken an emotional toll on me and sapped a lot of my happiness about the wedding. My fiance and I got engaged in feb 2010 so we have been planning this wedding for a very long time. Also this week my fiance is graduating and we just got our offer accepted for our first home. I’m kinda feeling like this whole wedding has just been shoved aside to make room for everything else. My bridal shower was rushed because the bridesmaid who planned it didnt tell me that she had a wedding to go to that afternoon, only 2 girls went to my bachlorette party (out of the invited 10), we’re not taking a honeymoon bc we can’t have any major expenses before we get the mortgage for the house. Also out of the 100 people i invited to the wedding (not including the bridal party and immediate family) only 4 families bothered to RSVP before the deadline on the 21st. I didn’t spend weeks handmaking all my STD’s and wedding invitations so you could ignore everything. I really want to chase ofter you for a response, thanks. I’ve been with my fiance since i was 15, planning this wedding for over 2 years and now it’s all falling to shit and i’m over it. I feel depressed, unimportant, upset, i’m greiving, angry, and stressed. My fiance and three of my 5 bridesmaids have been wonderful and are really going out of their way to cheer me up, but i’m seriously crying at everything. I have no doubts that I want to marry my fiance, that has never been a question. I’m just feeling so pushed aside by my family, friends, and life in general at a time that i should be enjoying. Any kind words or advice would really brighten my day.
Post # 3
hugs no words of how to get the “fun” back into the wedding process just think of how handsome ur fiance will be at the end of the aisle.
Post # 4
You poor thing, I hope people really turn themselves around. I’m glad to hear some people are supporting you- that’s wonderful. I hope the day is surprising amazing. If anything, focus on how lucky you are to have such a rocking guy for the rest of your life. Focus on the two of you having fun and enjoying yourselves. Ignore the rest.
Good luck and many hugs.
Post # 5
I think we’re clones of each other. I feel your pain, I truly do. Try your best to keep your head up. It is what it is. You make your day, your day does not make you. 🙂
Post # 7
I’m getting married the day after you and I am over it too! I’ve been with my Fiance for 10 years, we live together, we’re practically already married and I’m just at the point where I am over everything and I’ll start crying over the stupidest thing possible. So you’re not alone…… I’m very excited to be marrying my fiance, but I am not so excited about the actual wedding part of it….. i definitely get where you’re coming from!
Post # 8
I’ve got about 83 days to go, and I am over it, too. I am so stressed out and freaking out about how this is going to go, financially, that I can’t sleep at night anymore.
Post # 9
I’m just over a month out and I totally understand too — at this point, all this wedding is to me is gluing my fingers together and cutting myself making the &#*%ing programs, arguing with my mom about the bill for the &$*#ing florist, being unable to vacuum our filthy apartment because there’s too much crafting &$*# all over the floor, staring at those two huge boxes of wedding stuff that need to be shipped and seeing nothing but aggravation and dollar signs … you get the picture.
But yesterday everything kinda turned, because yesterday I wrote my vows. And I FINALLY remembered what this is all about. Who cares that my parents wayyy overspent MY money on flowers I’ll probably hate? Who cares that my body is practically falling apart from stress right now and I can’t do anything fun because I’m afraid to spend money? I know that on the day of the wedding, I’ll get to say these wonderful words that I wrote, and everyone will cry (including me), and then I’ll be married to the man I love, and all this WEDDING crap will be over 🙂
When in doubt, pull those vows out. Everything will be okay!!
Post # 10
I totally understand how you feel. I felt SO unsupported. But, on the wedding day, everyone was extremely supportive – to the degree I asked myself: WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE and where did they come from?! 🙂
I’m so glad you have a handful of supportive friends around you. Hang on to those people and the support they are able to give.
My mantra for my wedding day was to focus on my soon to be husband and not worry about anything else. I encourage you to do the same. You can’t predict how others will behave but I do hope you are pleasantly surprised.
Post # 11
thank you for the support bees! My fiance and i picked a destination wedding because we wanted to keep costs down, but seeing all the “no” replies still kinda hurts. The grand total for my wedding will be 30 people, but i know that I will have plenty of time to spend with everyone there and that the day will be beautiful
Post # 12
I’m glad you seem to be a bit more cheered up! It’s probably normal to be burned out by the end of such a long engagement. I’m going to echo what PPs said and tell you that the wedding day will be warm and happy and a positive experience for you and all of the crying and feelings of neglect will be out of mind and long forgotten.
Post # 13
@eeestrad: Those 30 people are the ones who SHOULD be at your wedding! It doesn’t matter how many people go….it’s WHO goes….
Enjoy your day! it’s all about you!
Post # 14
I KNOW how you feel… I’m less that two weeks out now and just don’t care.
Post # 15
Thirty people is a good size for destination wedding. I guess you have been preparing everything for so long so you kind of burn out, I think it’s normal. Go out, take a walk, and get relax, you should feel better soon. It’s your big day!
Post # 16
@LadySand: same here! same date! OVER IT!! lol.