Post # 1
I have a dilemma, I have 15 hours until my wedding . I should be asleep but I have been fighting with my mother all night. I am spending the night at her house and an argument came up because she asked if she is going to be escorted by HER BF when the parents are announced. I said no, he is in the wedding part nor is he part of the family. You have be arranged to walk out with my grandmother (which is her mother). She flipped.
Small backstory, FI and I don’t like her BF and dont speak to him. Can’t get into why but this is non negotiable. How do I handle her? She said she will leave the wedding, not partici pa te. Saying every threat.
Post # 3
Uh has she lost her marbles?
I would get a family member to intervene and if she tries to pull something stupid, they can help you out.
Your promised your grandma. How is she surprised you don’t want her bf walking you down the aisle? Is she totally stupid?
Post # 4
@canarydiamond: She has known this all along and is pulling this last minute shitnon purpose. I know her. She is well aware that we dont like him. I cant sleep
Post # 5
Try to put this out of your mind. I know it’s tough, but it’s not like she is doing anything except for trying to wind you up.
In the morning you will have a bit of clarity.
This is your wedding, not hers. If you can’t reason with her then you have to stop trying. Focus on what you can control.
Good luck. Don’t let her ruin this!!
Post # 6
I agree with canarydiamond. Put it out of your mind, get some sleep, and have a family member intervene tomorrow.. she could be bluffing, hoping you’ll cave because of stress. Is she really willing to embarass you, your grandmother, and most of all herself tomorrow?
Good luck and best wishes for tomorrow!
Post # 7
Don’t let this get to you, especially not so close to your wedding. Just let grandmother walk out alone if your own mum won’t participate, and don’t “announce” her at all.
It’s her choice to behave like this. Try to remember that the day is about you and your partner – no one else. It won’t matter 🙂 It’s truly your mum’s loss if she won’t participate
I hope you have an amazing day!!!
Post # 8
Get some sleep and don’t like this control all your thoughts! I agree with previous bees- have another family member intervene.
Happy wedding day!
Post # 9
Thank you ladies. I finally slept but not much.
She woke me up screaming about this morning, threatening me again. And I was very calm and just said ok whatever. If you dont wanna go to the wedding dont go. She said if you dont want to speak to me after the wedding, fine, but I am walking out with him, he is my partner. I said oh, so you choose him over your daughter? Im not surprised. My mother puts men on a pedestal. My father died when I was very young and thats the only man I will ever accept as my father.Nbut my mother is being so selfish and is not respecting my wishes and she knows my FI does not like her BF and she is disrespecting him also.
I am hurt that she is pulling this bullshit on the day of. But shes the one who will be suffering bc I wont be speaking to her after the wedding. As for today, ill speak to her if necessary. Then she continues to yell saying that I have messed up everything with this wedding, you havent done one thing my way, im sorry but last tjme I checked it was our wedding to plan, not yours. Ive been planning this for 19 months and only 3 months ago did she wanna get involved. Im so over her childish antics. Im done with her
Post # 10
This exact thing happened to my sister at her wedding last year. She specifically told my mom she did NOT want my mothers BF escorting her down the aisle, this was discussed many many times before the wedding. Well as you know the bride is the last to enter so what does my mom do while my sister isn;t around…YEAH.
Now my sister is stuck with him in those pictures!
Stick to your guns, have a family member intervene. Get some rest and enjoy your day!
Post # 11
I’m sorry your mother is being so utterly selfish. Do your best to stick close to the people who love you & are truly there for you.
I hope your day is beautiful.
Post # 12
I am so sorry this is happening on your big day. Take a deep breath. Personally, I would not, under any circumstances, let my mother walk down the isle with her BF. I would rather her not be there at all. It seems to me this is an issue of control, and this is your mother’s last effort to show who’s boss.
GOOD LUCK TODAY! Don’t let anyone ruin this for you.