posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Uh has she lost her marbles?

I would get a family member to intervene and if she tries to pull something stupid, they can help you out.

Your promised your grandma. How is she surprised you don’t want her bf walking you down the aisle? Is she totally stupid?

Post # 5
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Try to put this out of your mind. I know it’s tough, but it’s not like she is doing anything except for trying to wind you up.

In the morning you will have a bit of clarity.

This is your wedding, not hers. If you can’t reason with her then you have to stop trying. Focus on what you can control.

Good luck. Don’t let her ruin this!!

Post # 6
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree with canarydiamond. Put it out of your mind, get some sleep, and have a family member intervene tomorrow.. she could be bluffing, hoping you’ll cave because of stress. Is she really willing to embarass you, your grandmother, and most of all herself tomorrow?

Good luck and best wishes for tomorrow!

Post # 7
919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t let this get to you, especially not so close to your wedding. Just let grandmother walk out alone if your own mum won’t participate, and don’t “announce” her at all.

It’s her choice to behave like this. Try to remember that the day is about you and your partner – no one else. It won’t matter 🙂 It’s truly your mum’s loss if she won’t participate

I hope you have an amazing day!!!

Post # 8
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Get some sleep and don’t like this control all your thoughts! I agree with previous bees- have another family member intervene.

Happy wedding day!

Post # 10
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

This exact thing happened to my sister at her wedding last year. She specifically told my mom she did NOT want my mothers BF escorting her down the aisle, this was discussed many many times before the wedding. Well as you know the bride is the last to enter so what does my mom do while my sister isn;t around…YEAH. 


Now my sister is stuck with him in those pictures! 

Stick to your guns, have a family member intervene. Get some rest and enjoy your day!


Post # 11
4878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m sorry your mother is being so utterly selfish.  Do your best to stick close to the people who love you & are truly there for you.

I hope your day is beautiful.

Post # 12
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am so  sorry this is happening on your big day. Take a deep breath. Personally, I would not, under any circumstances,  let my mother walk down the isle with her BF. I would rather her not be there at all. It seems to me this is an issue of control, and this is your mother’s last effort to show who’s boss.

GOOD LUCK TODAY! Don’t let anyone ruin this for you.

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