Post # 1
So here’s the deal….
My husband-to-be are both getting married for the second time. His 3 daughters are standing up with him, my 2 with me. Our children will be “giving us away” when that point in the ceremony comes up and all the wedding planning and DIYing have been a family effort…even the boyfriends who are most-likely future son-in-laws have jumped into the process. After discussing a wedding that they had attended on Saturday the question of ring bearer and flower girl came up. We don’t not have any appropriately aged cutiepies in our family or close circle of friends so we were planning to forego those official positions. Out of nowhere my youngest daughter who will be 15 on the wedding date announced that she wanted to be a flowergirl and then his youngest who will be 22 announced that she would be the ring bearer. All of the other girls were quite OK with the arrangement, and they are the 2 youngest on each side of the family but now I’m not quite sure how to work it into the ceremony. Do we still go with the basket of flower petals and the ring pillow? I had imaged all 5 girls looking lovely in the dresses they chose together in the colours they all approved, etc. (this may be one of the few times in our relationship that all 5 agreed on anything) with matching bouquets. The fact that they want to take on these roles and aren’t self-conscious is wonderful I just a bit stumped at how to make it work? A bigger pillow decorated with singed flowers similar to the bridesmaids’ bouquets? Your thoughts, please.
Post # 3
I think it would be cute! it would be nice to make the basket and pillow match somehow with the color of the girl’s dresses.
Maybe the basket could have a ribbon of the same color on the handle or something.
It’s nice to incluye your daugthers in the ceremony and everyone will find it very cute.
Post # 4
@blueberrygirl: I have no idea if theres a right or wrong for things like this but prsonally I think its cute and I like the idea!
Post # 5
I think I would nix the flower basket and ring pillow. Maybe they could walk together down the aisle, and the flower girl could have a small bouquet, and the ring bearer could just hold the ring? I think that if you try to make them fit the image of the younger flower girls/ring bearers it might look a little comical. But I think that the roles can certainly be maintained with a more adult feel to them.
Post # 6
when i read this title, i came in thinking “no f’ing way” but it sounds like it would work in your wedding! i would definitely find a way to make the jobs a bit more grown up though!
Post # 7
@bostongirl27: hahah same here. as long as your kids volunteered and want to do it, go for it! maybe give your daughter a pomander and get his son a nice engraved bowl to carry (i’ve seen them on etsy). that way they wont look like the typical little flower girl/ ring bearers
Post # 8
I’m a little unsure about the flower girl. I think it would be odd to have someone her age throwing flowers and all the BM’s carry bouquets so I think that would be lost in translation. could both be a ring bearer? Each carries one ring. My SIL had just a flower girl, so I don’t think you necessarily have to have both.
Post # 9
I had the same initial reaction as @bostongirl27.
Then I read the post. If it was their idea, I would run with it.
Instead of a flower basket or dropping petals, I would have the flower girl carry a loose bouquet of flowers and give them away to the people with the aisle seats.
I would have the ring bearer carry the ring in the jeweller’s box on a silver tray.
Post # 10
I personally think it’s really bizarre, and would probably raise my eyebrows. I’d definitely get rid of the flower petals and ring pillow!
Post # 11
I personally wouldn’t have that old of children as flower girl and ring bearer. The 15 yr old as a JR Bridesmaid or Best Man but really a 22 old “ring bearer” .. If you do go with it nix the basket and pillow.
Post # 12
I would have them carry bouquets similar to the others, but maybe add something special — like a ‘here comes the bride’ sign on the flower teen and a rings attached to the handle of the ring teen.
It can totally work, but I wouldn’t try and make them look like regular flower girls and ring bearers or it might be awkward.
Post # 13
I would probably find it a little odd when attending the wedding but if they are excited about it, feel free to go for it.
I would definitely make it more “adult” vs. “little kid” for the roles. Like passing out loose single flowers along the aisle and a nice silver bowl or something for the rings like a PP suggested.
Post # 14
@julies1949: These ideas are lovely – and a bit more ‘grown up’
Either way, if they are happy and came up with the ideas, go for it!
Post # 15
@bostongirl27: I thought the same thing! But I think if you “Adult” it up a little it would work great! I probably would not do the basket or pillow. Have the girl carry a smaller boquet and the boy carry the rings in his pocket.
Post # 16
@Megan2035: They’re both girls 🙂