Post # 1
I posted this last night in intimacy bur only one person responded. Hopefully this will get more attention in the pregnancy category 🙂
Well, the title says it all. I am so embarrassed to even ask this but I just want to hear what real people have to say.
This is my third pregnancy – My first was uneventful, healthy and normal. My second ended in a natural miscarriage at 6 weeks in February. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant.
This pregnancy has been easy, normal and healthy so far and I am considered low risk. But because I miscarried in February, I am terrified it will happen again. I am so afraid to have intercourse because I have heard that sex can initiate cramps and even though that’s normal, I feel like if I start to experience cramps after sex, it will bring back those memories of the cramps I felt while miscarrying and I will freak out that it might happen again.
Should I be worried at all? Hold off on sex? Not hold off? I know you’re not my doctor but any personal experiences you’re willing to share are very much appreciated.
Post # 3
I’m sorry to hear that you MCed in February. I’m 22w now and I haven’t noticed cramping after sex, so it may just depend on the person/pregnancy.
Is your doctor okay with you having sex? If he/she said it’s fine then I’d say to just give it a try in a gentle/not-so-deep position like spooning or something and and see how it goes. Then if you’re comfortable with it you could always try other stuff. At 16w you should be out of the “danger zone”.
Best of luck. 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t think you should be worried. Whatever caused your miscarriage is unlikely to affect this pregnancy. More than likely there was a problem with the embryo that prevented it from developping. Clearly that’s not an issue this time around. (I have been reminding myself of that ever since I got pregnant again)
I’ve noticed I get really sore & crampy after sex. I think it has to do with orgasm contractions. Unless you have any spotting, there’s no reason not to have sex 🙂
Post # 5
I was worried in the beginning too but I’m more laid back now. Luckily I haven’t had any cramping or spotting during sex. I do find that things are feeling different and (not sure why) but tighter, so sometimes it hurts in the beginning. But you are 2nd trimester now so there should be no worries.
Post # 6
@BearyLovely: I’m having similar worries just because I am a worrier and if there’s something to worry about I will. But I’ve had sex anyway bc…well I can’t resist sometimes lol
But so far it’s been fine for me I’m at 10weeks and as many others have said you’re in your second trimester so that can maybe ease your mind. You have to do what feels best for you though =]